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Idrk if this belongs here but... Is anyone else just really sick of hearing people use "it's because of how I was raised" or "it's because that's what my parents taught me" as an excuse for homophobic, aphobic and transphobic behavior? Cuz I feel like if being able to acknowledge that you're parents or upbringing are the reason you feel like that is one thing, but if you also feel that way, stop blaming how you were raised and just straight up say that ur trans, homo or aphobic. Maybe your parents or upbringing planted that seed there but look tf around. There are plenty of us mfs who were also raised by conservative parents who said it wasn't okay and a society that said the same but it doesn't mean we agree with them. WE HAVE OUR OWN BRAINS FOR A FKING REASON.

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I thought that my friends were just being stupid when they were in relationships and had problems and didn't just break up. One of my friends came to me for advice when we were in 7th grade and said that she wanted her first kiss to be the boyfriend she had at the time and I didn't get why she'd want to kiss another living breathing person she wasn't emotionally close to in any way, barely knew as a person and my advice was just no. Since I was like 8, I said I didn't want a relationship because after the whole big thing where people made it official, I thought there was nothing worth being in a relationship for and all the feelings for each other just faded away. I never had a celeb crush and thought the idea of them was stupid. I'm not sure if this qualifies as aro, but if I saw a picture of someone and thought they were attractive, seeing it repeatedly just made me stop thinking they looked good and they just looked like people. Mostly the same irl, with the minor exception of two people. I generally have no problem with physical touch, but if it wasn't someone I actual have a squish/crush on (depending on the day for me) or a close friend then them touching me in ways that are completely normal for a lot of people who are just friends made me want to push them away, run away screaming and vomit. I was happier to hear that everyone was scared of me than to hear that someone had a crush on me.

Heyo

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your parents are actually both aroace and without society saying they should have a relationship, they never become anything more than friends and you're never born. I wish people were never invented

you have plenty of time to get the sleep you need, but everyone you care about moves on without you in the built up time you get to sleep and you don't notice until they're all gone. I wish that we lived in a functional utopian society that wasn't run by humans and only one superior thing/being was in control and had everyone's wellbeing in mind

Honestly, I think you should talk to him about it. You don't necessarily have to tell him that you like him, just see if he's willing to tell you what you need to know. Secondary sources aren't always reliable and he could also be arospec. There's a possibility that he could be willing to have a QPR, but if not, then you probably want to move on. Also, do your best not to make him uncomfortable.

Thank youuu

ya my school blocked most things that have anything to do with aroace stuff (bc it says its sex education) and sites that let you talk to other people (bc of friendship which I totally understand bc friendship is oh so dangerous) so I was surprised that they didn't block this one

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Hey guys. I'm polyalterous/romantic aroflux ace and I'm agender. I use all pronouns. I actually found arocalypse because a few days ago I was trying to figure stuff out again and I just felt like I needed to find something that could help me understand myself better and while looking at an aroace website I saw a link to this. After looking through this I realized that this is just what I needed. I have a lot of LGBT friends, but a lot of them don't really understand what its like to not be allo and talking to them about aroace stuff can get awkward and confusing sometimes. I thought that I was poly oriented aroace for a while, but then I realized that I do experience some romantic attraction, just not all the time and I've only ever felt it for one person. I'm a capricorn and black is my favorite color. I also like super dark green and red. My favorite book genre is probably dark fantasy and I especially love books with badass female of nb characters. This probably is my favorite thing to listen to at the current moment https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qfAtd29L9JI. Aaand ya hi.

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