EternallyTBD

7 hours ago, adrianparty said:

and also I'm aromantic and she's alloromantic so I dont know if she would be willing to do a qpr. She knows about QPRs, we've talked about them and she's very opening and accepting. I'm also worried because I think she wants me to love her back in a romantic way, but I don't want to feel like i'm leading her on or making her sad because I may like her in a different way, like in a QPR way

I completely get this. And I think if you were to move forward into a QPR with her it might not be easy to be open and communicative about the kind of relationship you both need but it is possible and might help. 

That’s great! I love the aro flag (I just got myself one!) and I’m thinking about getting a ring. Just wondering, though, where did you find your first ring? I’d definitely break a ceramic one, but I have no idea where to look for any ring. 

I’d go for it! Even if you’re not 100% sure, there’s probably a reason why you feel this sure and I think most of us are never fully 100% confident in our labels, and that’s ok! I definitely think you qualify, especially if you agree. 
 

plus, if it helps at all, the “Q” in LGBTQIA+ is seen by some people to mean both “queer” and “questioning”

It’s a bit confusing for me because I’m nonbinary but I’m afab and demiqueerplatonically attracted to guys (I think…?). So kind of?

Honestly, people can do what they want as long as it’s safe and even if sex should be banned the population would probably drop to dangerous levels. The best solution is just to agree to disagree

On 1/22/2023 at 7:47 AM, mivoei said:

aroace flags appreciation; which one is your fav?

Mine is easily the stacked because aro, ace… yeah idk. But I also like the orange yellow and blue one and I love the colors of the horizon flag the most but I’d never actually use it lol

I actually have learned to like “love is love”. I take it with a sort of “who cares what other people mean, I’ll take its meaning to be whatever I want” and interpret it that all love, familial, platonic, alterous, etc is all just that: love. To me it’s a way of saying romantic love isn’t the only kind that matters 

I have two friends who just started unofficially dating which is great because they are both amazing and if they didn’t the levels of pining may have driven everyone insane. When I looked at them together and saw the level of emotional intimacy that you could practically see between them, though, I got a weird mix of feeling happy for them and at the same time a bit sad because I know I’ll never have that specific kind of relationship. Is that just me?

THANK YOU SO MUCH This makes so much sense to me because it is exactly how I feel and I love the way you said it because its perfect thank you

I know for me, figuring out I’m aro has been hard, and for me it was probably mostly a product of the amatonormavity and heteronormativity that was pushed on me as I grew up (I didn’t know what “lesbian” meant until a friend explained it to me when we were 11, which was probably my first exposure to LGBTQ+ness). Though the heteronormativity got better as some of my friends started to come out as gay, or lesbian, or bi, or even pan, the assumption that I would someday be in a romantic relationship with my then-“crush” (who is now and always has been a squish) is hard to overcome, especially because romance is painted by society in general as the Ultimate Best Thing That Everyone Should Want And Have. 

I’m offended that you do not find anything in the post above yours offensive 

13 minutes ago, A User said:

did u hear the dj is crying for help n some of the newer songs? so cool! i love ok orchestra n neotheater too!

I did! I don’t relate to it as much, but h still like it. What’s your favorite ok orchestra song? There are a lot of good ones…

You meet a group, but they are actually an incredibly advanced group of anthropomorphic animals and you would get along very well except that you cannot understand their language, so communication is rather difficult. 
 

I wish the track meet today wasn’t canceled. 

I’m offended that you find it incorrect!

As another newly discovered aroace, yeah, the whole never-going-to-fall-in-love part scares me too. You’re not alone if that’s what you’re saying 

On 12/1/2022 at 10:24 PM, Arowitharrows said:

YMBAI when you were eight, everyone was having crushes, so you thought you also must and went with your two best friends. 

This practically describes my life. Sadly, though it did last 6 years, it was only one friend so I get no bonus points. 

I was at a party with all of my friends. It was my squish who I just asked into a QPR’s birthday and he has a party at his house and it was great. 
 

and my friends were all snuggling platonically and even pairing up romantically on the couch, moving closer to each other and cuddling as we watched a movie

abd a friend who I never see because they live so far away was there

and I couldn’t take it at one point ace I broke down and my friend who lives far away and a few others helped me be there again because I trust them and I need them and I hate the depressive episodes I get that only last an hour or so now if I can stop them but still remind me of my depression when I had it

and I hate that I rely on my one friend so much

and I hate that i can’t just be happy. Everyone else is just happy and they should be and I’m not when they are

and my mom says just to keep my options open and I never know if I’ll love someone some day in the only ways Disney movies teach me matter but I’m aroace and I wont

 and I don’t have anyone to pair up with like the rest of them do but some part of me can’t picture kissing someone and being happy or what would come next because I don’t see myself in a relationship 

and I’m scared that my moms right and I’m missing more if my life by believing I can’t feel romantic love

 and I’m scared that if I did have someone to rest my head on their shoulder and who would put their head on top of mine I wouldn’t feel anything anyway 

and I want to take Winter as a preferred name but my mom first like me changing my name

and I’m always scared that if I never feel romantic or sexual love or attraction I’ll be as childish as I am and they’ll grow up without me no matter what my friend promises me 

and I’m always scared that I’m wrong

and I can’t take it all

and  I don’t know what to do

and I hate everything sometimes like late night when I hit home and I can’t even put it all into words

and I don’t know what I want but i know it’s not whatever this is

somedays it’s ok or even good but yesterday and now I hate being aroace

I know my anxiety and OCD make it harder but how does anyone else do this

Luckily not. But I have midterms for the first time in a month, so I guess I’ll see how that goes

the blue runs away from the sky and escapes to our eyes

I’m offended that you dislike their imperfection

I’m offended that you are offended by our lack of notice!

I’m offended that you have the 500th spot!

I’m offended that you find perfection offending

9 hours ago, AromanticAardvark said:

And maybe the character then gets into a QPR, and the show explains what that is

I would love to see a QPR in a tv show! And I agree, it would probably also be a great way to have allo aro representation.