EternallyTBD

I’ve used the term squish in the past, now sometimes I use platonic crush, and I totally understand what you mean about preferring one over the other! I will use each of them in different situations sometimes based on what best describes how I feel, even though they are technically the same thing. 

If this gives another perspective, I am aromantic, do not want a romantic relationship, but would be ok with romantic-coded things in a close platonic relationship. So, while I have never dated, kissed anyone, etc. I do enjoy and find support in holding hands and I am not repulsed by or averse to the idea of kissing. I had to picture myself in a romantic relationship with all of the feeling you find in books and movies that I can enjoy in those forms of media to realize that no, I don’t want that with anybody. So my suggestion is to think about what you really want a relationship to feel like, not what you want to be doing in it. 
 

However, to answer your earlier question, I would say that it it totally ok to identify as demi based on a gut feeling! After all, in my experience that’s the best indicator. If your gut is telling you that you are demi, and you think that you are demi, you are demi!

Maybe, for now, you could try to spend more time with friends and see the value that different platonic relationships and people have to you, especially if you are exploring your own romantic attraction or develop a crush on someone? As an aroace, I can’t say I fully understand the desire for a romantic/sexual relationship but I think I do still understand the desire for emotional intimacy and I find that once I turned to them, my closest friends fulfill that need and get me through some of my most difficult times. 
 

As for finding someone you feel romantically attracted to, I know very little about this but are there any LGBT+ dating events(?), websites or apps that you could get involved in? 

I still haven’t brought myself to see Coraline again. It scared me so much as a kid

And I didn’t remember until I read someone say it here, but I was also really scared by some scenes in Zootopia, though I really like it now!

I’m offended that you would correctly accuse me of disliking Taylor Swift’s songs

I’m offended because you quoted a taylor swift song

Mint chocolate chip is my favorite 

also green

Just wishing everyone a happy pride month!

also, if you want to share, what has anyone done to celebrate or what plans do you have?

I like to wear either loose jeans, large t-shirts, and big sweatshirts (with a binder usually)

tight jeans or a skirt with a more masc or large top and a binder

a tank top with a men’s flannel over it

Or a hoodie with another t-shirt on top

Also I always wear black converse high tops which are pretty gender neutral but also I just really like them

For hair, I cut mine short when I came out but I would recommend French/Dutch braids, tying it up under a hat so it looks short, or going with it shoulder length maybe if you are thinking of cutting it

I’m offended that you seem to want to limit the number of posts per day 

You get some, but they are only in your least favorite color and you cannot turn them off ever

I wish there were a lake or something near our house

You do but now you can’t stop studying 

I wish there were more good math teachers 

I’m offended that you are implying that someone wouldn’t post here because they’re offended 

Have a “crush” on a friend for 7 years 

This has happened to me once or twice and I can’t even imagine how awful it is for people to keep acting like this to you . Do you live in the US? You don’t have to answer if you don’t want to, but especially if they perceive you as female (whether or not it’s your gender, idk what it is) then this could very much be taken as sexual harassment and admin have to help you because of the law

I think if your love is nonromantic that is totally ok! I’d say the first thing to do is really try to figure out if your love is romantic, platonic, or something else entirely. If you decide you love them romantically that’s ok and I wish you the best with any relationship you may pursue! And there is always the potential to be aspec and experience romantic love, as many people who identify with certain aspec labels do, so you could look into that if it’s something that you are concerned about or need to reconcile in your head. But if you decide you love them platonically, or alterously, or in any other way I would let them know that but be very clear about the nature of your feelings. I wish you the best of luck in sorting this out!

6 hours ago, nonmerci said:

I think this statistic is biaised because aroallos are less likely to discover aromanticism. I would not be surprised if the statistics was more something like 50/50.

I completely agree. I consider it sheer luck that I discovered that asexuality exists and it’s still pretty well known. I’m also even luckier to realize that was me. Even after that, it took a lot to figure out I’m not alloromantic and I probably never would have gotten there if I wasn’t ace too. 

I’m aroace too! 

It means gender sexuality alliance so yeah

35 minutes ago, Anaim said:

One of the teachers organized a gsa at my school,  but now I'm too nervous to go to it because i would most likely let it slip out that I'm aroace when I'm not fully out yet... it's really conflicting bc if not for that I would really want to go...

I would go! I came out to my schools GSA about my gender before anything else and everyone was very accepting and kept it within the club until I was ready to come all of the way out; I’d assume yours would be ok with keeping it private too if that’s what you want!

This or something similar happens to me sometimes 

I see it as a squish but think of it as a platonic crush, essentially a crush but non romantic and non sexual 

1 hour ago, HelloThere said:Oof, I can’t say I’ve been there yet but I can imagine it’s awful. There’s not many love obsessed people in my school (thank goodness for that) but it will probably change since I’m only a freshman (1/4 years in high school done)

Same! Well at least the freshman part. Congrats on making it through : )

Maze runner. You can start it, and it’s  good and very complex etc., but by the time you get to the last book you can’t remember anything because it is complicated and so very bland at the same time. For me it felt like all emotion and sense of purpose had been drained from the series until it you no longer knew or cared what decisions the characters would make. I know some people who enjoyed it though, so I guess maybe it’s not actually that awful?

I would totally get platonically married, maybe even have kids some day, etc. But definitely never romantically and I think our lifestyle would reflect that 

I’m offended that you don’t see the beauty of that extensive rickroll

I would probably want to live with a friend at least for a little but definitely not share a bed