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Not much. I only came out to 4 people in my life. I have mentioned it on private my TikTok & Instagram, but I'm not close with the people that follow me on these (we only follow eachother because we share similar interests, worldviews and ect). I have talked about this topic with some of my newest irl friends, so they might have a little bit of an idea about what being aro means, but they don't know that I am on the aromantic spectrum myself. It's not that I don't want to tell them, but more like I don't know how to bring it up without it feeling forced.

Hello fellow fanfics enjoyers!! 

I personally love alternative universes, such as 'what if...?', 'modern AU' (if the series is canonically set in the older ages), or when a writer takes characters from one series I'm a fan of and puts them in an another series I'm familiar with (example; AOT/Attack On Titan character in Haikyuu) (but not crossovers, because I don't like those). I'm also somewhat of a hopeless romantic, so a lot of the fanfics I read do in fact include romance.

My main fandoms are "Bungou Stray Dogs", "Naruto" (I haven't watched it in a while, but I'm pretty attached to the characters), "Attack On Titan", "Jujutsu Kaisen" and occasionally "Sherlock". ^^

When it comes to writing I like to include my personal headcanons, so I mainly base my work off of those.

3 hours ago, MondoBilby said:

Maybe try talking to her about everything you feel here. She seems like an understanding person, I'm sure you two could work something out. 

Sorry you're in this situation though, I hope you find a solution even if it's different from what I suggested.

Thank you for the reply!! I think that's what I'm going to do. 💗💗

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I think I can somehow relate to your situation. Everytime I visit my family it feels forced; like I'm expected to form some kind of relationship with them, but for some reason I just can't? I'm not sure what is the reason for that. Maybe it's because we don't see eachother enough? Or maybe it's because I don't really like them as people? I don't know. But I don't think I would go as far as to say "I don't care about them at all". Their existance is pretty much neutral to me, but I do hope they're doing fine.

The only person I have a rather good and close relationship with is my brother. He's the one I see on a daily basis (aside from my parents, but they're quite difficult people which is why I don't want to talk about them), and even though a few years ago we practically couldn't stand each other, we're doing much better nowadays.

When I was younger I used to be pretty close with my cousin on my dad's side, but we haven't spoken in 2 years (I think), so I'm not sure if that statement is still up to date.

I already posted it on reddit, so I thought I might put it here as well.

Lately I've found myself in a strange situation, to say at least. So: one of my friends confessed her romantic feelings to me, and although (not to sound rude) I've had my suspicions, I never thought she would confront me about it, nor that she actually really felt about me this way.

I've thought about dating her a few times in the past two years or so that we've known eachother. The bare thought of being in a relationship with her isn't by any means disgusting, or unappealing, or whatsoever. Frankly speaking I just don't feel anything while imagining myself in it. And that's what I told her: that I in fact have thought about dating her, and that my feelings for her could be classified as romantic ones, but since I have a problem with labeling my own emotions, I can't be sure about it. I also mentioned that I may be emotionally unavailable, and I don't want to feel like I can't love her the way she deserves and wants me to. She accepted it, saying we can still try, and I'm not really sure how it happened, but I agreeded to it, and I feel completely lost.

I keep on unintentionally creating scenarios where I'm breaking up with her, which is something I did in my last relationship as well, before I figured out I might be on the aromantic spectrum, so I suppose it's not a good sign. One part of my brain tells me I should immediately break up with her, in order to not 'get stuck' in a relationship that's literally eating me alive (in the sense that it's not letting me live in peace, because I get so stressed thinking about it), but the other one keeps telling me that maybe I should stay in it, to see where it'll lead me, because what's the worst thing that could happen?

Anyways; I'm not really sure what I wanted to achieve by making this post. I guess I was looking for some kind of advice...? So if anyone has ever been in a similar situation, or felt something similar, or just wants to say something, I'd be glad to hear it.

UPDATE (in case anyone's interested): We talked it out!! I won't go into details, because we decided to keep those private, but I just wanted to thank everyone who has read/replied to this post!! ^^

I'm fine with it (depending on the person though) as long as it's not sexual. Like kisses on cheeks/the forehead are okay, but anything beyond that is a huge no for me.

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Neither is 3173!! (We're so far already?!)

I also tend to connect with animals better. I have a dog named Izzy. She's currently almost 5 years old and I love her so much.  💗

I feel you. Most of my friends aro allo, so they tend to talk about romance a lot. I know I can't and I don't want to forbid them from doing it, because I understand that it is important, however I can't help but get a little sad that I can't really relate to them.

Hello and welcome on the forum!! Good to know there are other theatre aroace people out there!! ^^

I'm so sorry to hear that. Although I don't really know what to say, since I'm not experienced in that area, I want you to know that I am being sincere and I hope you'll get better soon. I also agree with the points Holmbo made above me - that grieving takes time. It's different for everyone, so you definitely shouldn't feel pressured to get over it quickly. It's important to take your time.

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"do I have to perform cpr on it?

I'm offended because I also don't know what that is.

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On 12/22/2023 at 12:34 AM, smac n cheese said:

I didn't say we should kill him, why is everyone ganging up on me?

I didn't say we should kill him. Now where is my bumbershoot?