To be honest, for a long time I thought that romantic attraction (RA) is just sexual+platonic (S+P) attraction.
So now I know that romantic attraction is an attraction on its own, yet I still think that s+p is enough for a relationship. Many allos have sex without RA, but when aros do it, they suddenly have a problem.
Im cupioromantic bisexual, so I feel S attraction and want to be in a relationship. I just know I won’t be RA to them. I came out to my family (they said not to lose hope, I’ll find someone someday 😂). I came out to my friends, they were supportive but confused. So far I didn’t pursue any relationship cause I live in a homophobic country. But if I will, my family will judge me (they’re conservative) but my friends will support me (they’re harlots at heart 😂 )
As for society, I think many people are very uneducated. Our traits have been associated with negative people (“fckboys", “hard to get”, “cold hearted psychopaths”, etc), so obviously they get offended by our existence (I’m not defending them btw). I think for now we should ignore them (I know it’s easier said than done).
We should also try to get represented more in media.
As for should you come out to your partner.
There isn’t a definite answer. It solely depends on a situation. As people above mentioned, for random hookups, the only thing you must mention, is STDs, you aren’t obligated to come out to them. For a more committed relationship, you can say that you’re aro. But you can’t control what the other person feels. They can fall in love whether you told them you’re aro or not. Allos also had a lot of relationships with mutual benefits, then one side fell in love. That happens with everyone.
So as you can see, it’s very interesting and unique
Hope my rambles helped ✨