Arsenic

You get bored of it.

I wish my parents were able to understand what being genderfluid means and that they accepted me.

I am still not sure on how to define romantic attraction, and there is only one person I've been attracted to romantically: my best friend of seven years and current partner. I would define it as needing them in your life, wanting to know everything about them, take care of them and spend years by their side, cuddle, make them happy... The thing is that this definition could be applied to a lot of different feelings, not only to r. attraction. Sorry if this is not very helpful.

Am...money, I guess? Money equals tattoos. I prefer tattoos over silencing me.

Money or being able to shapeshift for a day.

You know your result. It is so terrible you get kicked out from school.

I wish I was invisible and no one knew about my existence.

The power never does what you want, so it is very easy to mess things up (like, imagine breaking gravity and that everyone in earth floated to space and died).

I can solidify liquids. Doesn't look like a cool power? Imagine figting against a villain who solidifies your blood. Bam, dead.

You actually create a paradox that destroys the universe. I hope you are proud of your actions.

I wish my classmates did their job when they had to.

On 4/20/2022 at 11:38 AM, Cocothecoconut said:

As long as you aren’t hurting anyone you shouldn’t be ashamed of your fetishes/kinks.

 

Me, getting horny with the idea of phisically hurting people.

A LOT of things happened lately. Okay, a little abstract:

1- I am in a romantic relationship for almost three years and a half with my best friend of seven years.

2- A few months ago I started questioning if I was aro and I started labelling as demiaro.

3- Came to the conclusion I was aro and feeling alterous attraction to my girlfriend.

Last week I decided to come out to my girlfriend as aro, and it went REALLY wrong. I almost lost her, and it felt terrible. My identity as aro suddenly disappeared, and I felt miserable for hurting my partner and best friend, and I could do nothing but crying about it. We met up and we had a terrible argument, and I don't know how, but we could fix things up (that happened exactly a week ago), and now we are feeling better and still together.

The thing is, after this situation, now I am sure about nothing regarding to my romantic orientation. I guess I am demiaro, or even allo (I don't think so but there is the possibility), but not aro, because I am definitely feeling romantic attraction for my partner. I guess I will remain unlabelled, I do not want to question my identity anymore, I am tired and I don't want to mess things up again with my partner.

I don't know if I will come back to this server, I want to clear my mind up at least a bit before coming back here. You are a lovely community and it felt amazing to be a part of it for this time, thanks for everything💚🐸

4 hours ago, TheCloudyEnd said:

The city is green. As in ecofriendly and everyone likes to take care of their plants. It's a law that people must be allowed to have pets, landlords cannot refuse. People are allowed to get married, but it's only for fun, because you don't get any legal benefits from it. Instead, if you want those legal benefits associated with getting married, you can prove you've known someone for a certain amount of time and that you care about each other, and you're allowed to do that for friends. This way, if your best friend of 10 years who you do everything with goes to the hospital, you will be allowed to visit them, you will be allowed to take time off work to do so if you need it, and no one will give you crap for it because people value friendships here at least as much, if not moreso, as romantic relationships. In elementary school, kids are not telling each other, "everyone has a crush" when someone says "I don't have a crush." In middle school sex ed, no one is acting like you will definitely be into sex and relationships, sex ed(which is definitely offered without controversy) is just information, and a safe place to ask questions. No one judges you for being single here, and platonic coparenting is completely normalized. People generally assume you are friends with your ex here, unless you say otherwise, because it's not seen as the standard to hate your ex just because you were romantic with them at one point (seriously wtf is with that??).

 

This, however this standard will not raise the cost of living. There are rules in place to keep the rent prices manageable. In irl society the normal of couples living together and both of them working has led to higher expected household incomes and higher rent. That won't happen here, because it's just as normal for someone to live alone as it is for them to have friends or partners living with them.

Oh, and someone mentioned clothes stores. Inclusive sizes. And not the "inclusive sizes" you see at companies advertized on tik tok where bras only go to a size G, stores will have everywhere from xs - 5xl+ clothing and if someone is bigger than that employees will order their size, no fatphobia here, and no making people have to resort to wearing a bra that's too small for them just because the only bras sold in their size are $70+ and theyre a poor college student who can't afford it.

And since someone brought up binders, let's talk about healthcare. Healthcare is trans-friendly and doctors don't act weird about it (Which sadly is common irl). And trans people have access to counseling and transitioning services, for free.

I LOVE THIS ALL! Seriously, we all should create our own city. We could, couldn't we? I mean, we're a lot, and each one of us could specialize in one thing to make this work. I bet there are doctors here, and lawyers, and architects, an teachers (one here)... 

Okay, one thing. People say that when you feel romantic attraction for someone then you think about them constantly. My question is, what do you think exactly? I mean, how do you have that much of thoughts? How do you have so much things to think about an specific person?  How is it that you don't run out of things to think about? I never understood that.

Labels exist to make us easier to describe ourselves and make us feel comfortable. If you don't feel that alloromantic describes you and don't feel it like a label that suits you perfectly, then using it wouldn't make sense. I know there is a label that describes a fluctuating orientation, like, you can be aro one day and the next one be hetero allo, or bi allo, and the next time gray aro... I don't know. If alloromantic doesn't sound appealing to you then you can remain unlabelled or look for more specific labels until you find one you feel comfortable with.

You shouldn't blame yourself for that, but don't fill that kind of forms if you are not interested in accomplish what it is for. If someone ever made fun of you for not filling it (which I don't think is very probable) just say that you are aroace, and if they don't respect you and your boundaries just leave the forum. Everyone's identity should be respected. 

We already had the aro moments. Now, the ace version of it. I'll start.

Some time ago I was walking on the beach with a friend of mine, and after a few time we arrived to a place where everyone was naked. We saw a beautiful girl, and my friend said that he felt embarrassed while looking at her. My response was 'but there is nothing to be ashamed for! It is like watching a beautiful art piece... Like being on a museum. It is nothing wrong with appreciating her beauty?'. My friend put on a weird face, like he didn't understand me. He said 'uhm...well...yeah, I guess...'

Now I look back in time and realize we didn't see the situation the same way. While I was feeling aesthetic attraction, and appreciated the beauty of that girl like if I was looking at a good organised library or something like that, my friend wanted to do the nasty with her. I thought  everyone appreciated naked bodies in the aesthetic way, not in the sexual way. How did it take me so long to figure out my identity? 

54

Nah, false.

TPBM prefer beach over mountain

Coconuts on my place usually teach elephants rap

LANGUAGE

Okay, I don't know where to put this BUUUTTTT I found something! There is an album called Aromanticism, by the singer and composer Moses Summey. I haven't listened at it yet, I literally found about it like two minutes ago and I wanted to tell you all. Look at what wikipedia says about it: it is a concept album about "lovelessness as a sonic dreamscape" that "seeks to interrogate the idea that romance is normative and necessary". Now that my work is done, I am going to listen to it.

Update: it has a nice vibe, I like it, it's relaxing.

done

20 hours ago, alto said:

Kind of?  I'm waiting for it to be time for my study group.  There are things I could be doing in the meantime, but I am not doing them.

You broke the game... You must continue the chain...

5 hours ago, Jackson_Glass said:

I am so confused- do you put the milk first?

Of course I do! As it should be:(

2 hours ago, Jackson_Glass said:

cereal all the way. whoever picked milk just why- 

Man, why... Here ends our friendship. You put the milk (not a lot) and after that the cereals....

This topic will start a war.

Oh yeah.

JEWELRY 

Queen unicorn earned elephant's new lingerie, in zoo

False.

TPBM would like to have an ostrich as pet