MaxIsCosmic

Astronaut

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I think it might be a situation where two things can be true at the same time, while you may struggle with issues around feeling emotions you can still be Aramaic. And perhaps those two things are related and perhaps they are not. As jot-aro-kujo said sometimes it doesn’t matter, from what I know being aromatic just means no feelings of romantic attraction, wether that is caused by something or just exist on its own still results in the possible label of being aromatic.

Most of my family simply doesn’t care about identity so it isn’t discussed a lot. My friends know I’m on the aromantic spectrum and my sibling knows.

I personally have seen this question so so many times and have asked it myself and the only conclusion I can come to is that is feels vastly different for everyone so there is no one easy answer. Additionally love comes with time and sometimes it’s ok not to know. If you try and for the development for something you don’t know it could end up harming you and other around you.

'man. I'm practically drowning'

Will wood and Love joy are some of favorite artist ever :DDD

I love Pesto so so much. 

I'm Max I use They/He but I am nonbinary. I am gay demi romantic and asexual 

True crime and fan fiction 

6 hours ago, sydd said:

so I thought should reach out to the romantic community because I need some advice. I've had romantic feelings for one of my friends for the past year. They have been in romantic relationships before and never said anything about being aromantic. I talked to them about how i felt and they said that they liked me too. but the next day they told me they were questioning if they were aro/ace. I completely understood that it is entirely their decision and told them that. But they said they wanted to ask me out on a date. I asked so many times if they were sure that they wanted to ask me out. Because I really liked them and didn't want to get heartbroken and it would be much easier for me if they waited until they were sure. after about a week they stopped talking to me as much which was really odd for them as we were friends before we were interested in each other. 

this past weekend we went to a band competition and were on the same bus. we were performing in different groups so I didn't see them all that much. they really didn't talk to me the whole day; whenever I snapped at them, I was left on opened multiple times. I tried congratulating them on first place and just tried to spark a conversation but I kept being left on opened. I ended up telling them that I was really upset about them leaving me on open and they apologized. but later that night they texted me and told me that they no longer had feelings for me. but they didn't say it as if they were telling me right then. they said it as if they had told me beforehand. they simply mentioned it and moved on. 

I understand that they were figuring themselves out but it really hurt to just have that information dropped so casually as if my world hadn't been shattered at that moment. I'm trying to create some distance between us right now because I don't think I can handle being just friends. I don't know if I'm valid for being mad at them. I know I have no right to be mad at their relationship choices but it still really hurts. you know?

It’s definitely fair to be disappointed and sad that your feelings aren’t reciprocated, and I think you are handling it really well considering the manner they told you.

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tpbm likes indie rock 

false I want to tho 

tpbm plays magic the gathering 

23 hours ago, KoconutBounty said:

your welcome for the edication!

im pretty okay with mushroom soup so yum?

Ramen with Veggies

Yum!

guacamole?

I always liked sorbet better but if I had to choose an ice cream flavor then I'd say strawberry

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3 minutes ago, KoconutBounty said:

(im sorry it does, though its not just chili, its put on top of spaghetti noodles with cheese)

yeah my nana makes it a few times a year and it tastes good it's just not worth the stomach pain later 

yum!

fruit smoothie? 

ew (chili upsets my stomach for some reason) :(

crab cakes?

I’m very open to touch espresso from friends I tend to be a bit more cautious with strangers but if someone ever really needs a hug I’m glad to give it ^-^

10 hours ago, hemogoblin said:

1. IMO, the simplest definition is probably along the lines of "as the name implies, it's a type of relationship that is queer to the relationships we typically expect. It is a committed relationship that is not romantic, nor purely platonic, but is something else that cannot be easily described or defined. If you're confused, that's okay. You don't need to understand something to accept or respect it."

2. Queerplatonic is purposefully vague, which makes it hard for people to wrap their minds around, so the best definition may be to clarify what your queerplatonic relationship is rather than what anyone's could be, since a qpr can be anything people want. I don't know what that means for you. "We're friends who prioritize each other./We're friends who would rather commit to each other than to romantic partners./We're each other's most important people./We're like Meredith and Christina in Grey's Anatomy./We're very sensual and touchy but we're ultimately not romantic or sexual./We've transcended best friendshipness./We're not dating but we do check in with each other before making any big decisions./We're two people who care for each other very greatly and want to be in each other's lives but don't want to date each other." Whatever it is, don't worry about explaining what it can be. Just explain what it is to you.

3. Unfortunately, most likely, there is simply nothing you can do to force people to understand what you and your qpp have. Often, people don't understand not because you're not explaining it clearly enough but because they do not have an open mind and do not actually care to learn, which would require listening. They have set their mind, and they would prefer to keep annoying and poking at you and your qpp rather than learn and let it go and respect you and your qpp.

On one hand, I do believe this will get slightly better as you get a little older. In my personal experience, teens can be especially stubborn and mean about this kind of thing. They're learning these lessons from adults, they're trying to gain their own autonomous power, and this can tend to come out in a way that is just meanness and disrespect for other people, especially other people who are different. It can feel - and be - that adults treat you like you know nothing and are therefore undeserving of being heard, and teens can turn around and perpetrate this amongst their peers by pretending they know everything. Some people will grow out of this a bit as they age (I did!). As you get older and have more experiences, you realize how narrow your worldview is and that you don't actually know everything and can be more open to learning and growing. (Some people, anyway. Others certainly stay closed off and close-minded as a result.)

But mainly, this may just get better as you get older because you will gain more power and autonomy to walk away from people like this and keep them out of your life. You have more room to take space from people like this. You believe in yourself more and have a bit more room to stand up for yourself without being told off by the nearest teacher. You will be less stuck with dealing with people like this for 8 hours a day because even when you have to work with them, bosses will truly care more about the work and people like this will genuinely just have less time to sit around mocking you.

So the best way to deal with this is probably to give up trying to explain it and instead stop engaging in it.

"Haha, what a simp." ~ "Yep, exactly. Now, the lunch line has moved and if you don't, I shall move up in front of you."

"So you're dating then." ~ "No, but as we're not friends, I don't really care what you're determined to think about this. What did you get for question 4?"

"MaxIsCosmic and [QPP] sitting in a tree!" ~ "That does sound fun. [QPP], why don't we go find a tree to sit in? *walks away*"

"You're totally [datemates]!" ~ "Whatever you say. Oh, I better to get art. The bell is about to ring."

Flippantly accept or brush off what they're saying, then change the subject, walk away, put earbuds in, read a book, whatever. The truth is that it's unlikely you can foster an actual discussion on this because you are interested in discussing - they are merely interested in forcing their perspective on you. You cannot have a conversation if all parties aren't willing to listen, and it seems these people have proven they're not willing to listen. Disengage and focus on people you enjoy being with and engaging with. It's annoying and it's disrespectful, and they absolutely shouldn't talk over you like this. But at the end of the day, what matters is that you and your qpp are happy with your relationship. You don't need the approval or acceptance of these people. They're going to think what they're going to think, so spend your time with people who do respect you. Spend your time doing what you enjoy.

I read this and I think this so going to help me a bunch thank you so much!

I’ve tried to explain this to a lot of people at my high school about the relationship between me and my queer platonic partner, we hold hands and hug a lot so people always say we are dating even though we aren’t. And when people ask I try and explain it but they seem to want to believe we’re dating. It’s getting annoying because my partner is getting called a simp nonstop and people don’t want to believe we’re not dating.