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Posts posted by DaviM703

  1. There are a few by Ava Max that I think could work as aro songs. Not Your Barbie Girl is probably the most of an aro-relatable song, but So Am I is also relatable as it is about the experience of being different and My Way is about not conforming to a female role, which traditionally includes being partnered with and subservient to a man. Salt is a good one about doing well after a breakup which I know some people here like.

  2. I've definitely gotten the impression societal beliefs about romance are sexist, like the idea it should be men pursuing women and that men should pay for everything on dates while women are the more passive partner in pretty much all situations. With the level of importance of women in my life as all kinds of influences and all my close friends who have a binary gender, I sort of wonder now if that's a factor in my aromanticism as well as being related to one of the reasons I don't identify as a man. Definitely not all of it as I'm uncomfortable with romantic kissing and settings designed to be romantic, but it may be a factor.

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  3. That seems a lot like me, I've never really been comfortable with formal dances and I've also been more comfortable with funerals than weddings in recent years. I also haven't been drawn to the idea of college parties, which may be good since lots of students at my college got suspended for them last year with COVID going on.

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  4. I've recently been reconsidering my sexuality since being out as non-binary for a while. I thought I was a man before, mainly attracted to women, and thought I was demisexual. However, I'm starting to think it might be more that I was repressing most of my sexual feelings because of discomfort with cishet male sexual roles, especially in the #MeToo era. Since being out as non-binary, I think I can feel sexual attraction much more easily, though still feel uncomfortable with the idea of having a dominant masculine role in any actual sexual encounter but just don't feel like I automatically would since I'm non-binary and not a man.

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  5. You become the richest person in the world and get that wish with the money you got from not paying employees enough, then this time the petition to not let you back onto Earth succeeds and you never get to come back.

    I wish it was easier to make friends.

  6. You get implanted with a mind control device. Now someone else has total control of everything you do.

    I wish Donald Trump were in prison.

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  7. You lose the ability to feel tired and so there is no warning when you need to go to sleep. Therefore you will just fall asleep in the middle of whatever you are doing even if it is in public at the time when you run out of energy, and feel wide awake until that moment so that you can't prepare for it.

    I wish I had faster internet.

  8. Kings and Queens - Ava Max (does talk about kings and queens like they are couples, but zero reference to romantic feelings and is about female power)

    Unwritten - Natasha Bedingfield

    Just Like Fire - Pink

    Thunder - Imagine Dragons (Not sure if "Believer" also counts as feel-good but that's also an Imagine Dragons song not about romance)

    Katy Perry's Roar is a very upbeat song about escaping a romantic relationship.

    Since someone mentioned Fight Song but didn't remember the original artist, it's Rachel Platten.

  9. Not exactly an aromantic song, but I just realized through internet research that the song Gloria was originally a song expressing romantic love from a man to a woman, and I think it's really cool how Laura Branigan transformed it into something completely else, about mental health and talking to someone who seems to be going crazy in looking for love. I've been a fan of the song for a while and after listening to the earlier versions I still definitely like Laura Branigan's lyrics the best.

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  10. This was definitely sexual attraction because I felt some degree of sexual desire toward her, but I think I don't feel any pretty much ever to people I know nothing about even if they are naked, and can only feel it toward people I have some kind of interest in as a human being rather than just sexual appeal. What I was asking if there was a name for is being able to feel sexual attraction only with another type of interest in the same person but not necessarily a close relationship.

  11. I've been not totally sure what to call my sexuality for a while. I know I'm some kind of gray-ace or demi, and don't consider partnered sex a high priority but I can sometimes feel sexual desire toward people I don't know well, and I think I've figured out that it's only with another type of interest in the person rather than on its own. For example, in 2019 when I was starting at a new college, I had a guided tour around campus led by a student, and my tour guide mentioned having been lonely and not having a lot of friends her first year there, which I could relate to and after that I became interested in her based on that relatable experience and also noticed she was wearing short shorts and had nice legs when I hadn't been at all interested in her physically before. Can anyone relate to this experience of only being sexually attracted to people you are interested in for another reason as well, and does anyone know what it's called?

  12. You get more motivation, as the result of someone threatening to shoot you if you don't do it. Now you have to fear for your life.

    I wish Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez was president.

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  13. I've recently identified myself as non-binary, and at least in theory I don't feel as uncomfortable with it as I now do with presenting in a way that seems too masculine with my clothes. There's a swimming area in nature near me that people unofficially treat as clothing-optional, and so far I've been too nervous to skinnydip there except when there is clearly no one else around but I feel I would be more comfortable with it with friends or in a place outside my town where it's officially allowed.

  14. No one is afraid of anything involving the letter A anymore. Therefore, when a giant letter A falls off a sign right above you, you're not afraid and don't run so it lands on you and injures you.

    I wish for this wish not to come true.

  15. I have a really special best friend, who I've only known for one school year but have tried to be friends with enough people to know that friends like her are very hard to find. She was talking to me today about ideas about where she might want to live after college. I kind of feel like I would rather be close to her anywhere than not, a feeling that has become stronger because of how hard it was not being able to see her during my state's lockdown that is just starting to ease up now, and she seems open to that though she isn't looking for anything labelled as more than a friendship with me but says she doesn't see why friendships should be any less important than romantic relationships and she considers me family. I'm noticing by searching online that moving to stay close to a best friend doesn't seem to be a thing to most of society, as all search results when I look it up are either about just becoming roommates presumably in the same area or about friends moving away. Does anyone else have any ideas about this?

  16. No one ever crosses property boundaries. For two weeks that is a good thing as it stops the coronavirus from spreading, but even after the virus is fully contained, everyone continues to act like they are on lockdown and the world never goes back to normal.

    I wish the coronavirus didn't exist.

  17. I'm kind of in this exact situation. I've been posting about it as it develops in my own thread, but I have really strong feelings for my best friend that I don't think are romantic. She doesn't have a romantic partner currently but has indicated that she wants one, but she has also expressed a clear dislike of the amatonormative ideas that friends should be seen as less important, and she and I definitely have some kind of platonic relationship that is at least a little closer than an average friendship. She has actually helped me feel significantly better by making it clear that I am still very important to her and will be even if she gets a romantic partner, but it does still hurt a little knowing I probably won't fully be her most special person.

  18. Update: She previously thought she was pansexual but now thinks she might be a lesbian. I don't know why it's so hard for me realizing she may not be up for any more than what we have now since what we have now is already so special but I just really want her as the closest person in my life which I don't feel will be possible if she has a romantic partner and I don't know how to deal with those feelings.

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