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There are ALWAYS several factors that make a person who they are. Having said that, it’s damn impossible to change who you are.  All humans are complicated. Learn to live with who you are. 

Ah, it’s threads like these that make me wonder if I’m aromantic at all. 

9 hours ago, Mark said:

I've never understood why allos can be so obsessive about wanting to do this.

No. It’s not just allos. Asexuals are MORE obsessed with this kind of stuff, being in relationships and doing things they feel is romantic, like cuddling and sharing beds. 

On 7/14/2018 at 4:19 PM, Silyun said:

I don't know if anyone has already said it but I thought romantic love didn't exist and everyone was pretending it did ^^"

I’m still not so sure everyone isn’t just pretending. 

Endeavour Morse from the series Endeavour. 

“I don’t like you that way”

I flat out tell people the truth: “I’m not attracted to you.”

I don't understand shipping. I prefer to fanaticize about characters breaking up and living a carefree life on their own.

Honestly, I have a hard time seeing the line. I think they both intersect way more than the asexual and aromantic communities want to admit. 

In A World Obsessed With Romance, Moses Sumney Is Happy Alone

http://www.thefader.com/2017/09/04/moses-sumney-aromanticism-interview

When I see the ATT commercial and Mark Wahlberg says "watch unlimited romance ... if you're into that" and I'm thankful he's hinting not everyone is into that. 

My favorite color was green. 

Every day of my life is an aromantic moment

16 hours ago, Mark said:

How many of them have you observed in non romantic sexual relationships?
My experience is that when allo allos say "sex" they mean "romo-sex". (Which is often also the case with aro aces).

IMHO were allo allos primarily interested in sex it would be a lot easier being aro allo.
 

Whatever

4 hours ago, Mark said:

The vast majority of them are alloromantic. They desire a romantic relationship as much as those who are alloromantic and allosexual.
A romantic relationship without sex is quite possible in many societies. Especially those with pre marital sex taboos.

Whereas relationships without romance tend to be rejected out of hand by most alloromantic people. Many non sexual activities are as romantically coded as sex. Thus even aro aces can struggle with things.
Even to the point of the word "relationship" often being considered as a synonym for "romantic relationship".
 

I wonder if even for many alloromantic allosexuals romantic attraction is what matters most.

 

I have many friends who are not asexual and none of them talk about a desire for romance. They emphasize sex as the reason they want to be with their partner. So there's that. 

We're still talking about Frozen?

On 6/1/2017 at 6:19 AM, Raptor said:

YMBAI you just don't understand why it is so great to wear other person's hoodie. It propably has that other person's sweat in it! Yick!

This is a thing?

6 hours ago, jenny_any_dots said:

YMBAI you started identifying as ace and then were like how do all these ace people have relationships?... and then read this post about ways YMBA and found a lot of things that you identify with

 

just me? haha

I still wonder why asexuals obsess over relationships. And they seem to do it more than other people. 

That we're all wanting to be in queer platonic partnerships. 

2 hours ago, Ettina said:

 

The emotion isn't work, the relationship is. I totally get this, because every relationship requires work, especially if you live with the person. I argue with my parents and sometimes my brother, and we all work really hard to get along better, because we love each other and we live together. 

If you say so. But you're wrong. 

I never understand why people who say they love each other fight and argue all the time and say a relationship requires work. A so-called emotion is work?

I've just never understood the amount of time and energy people put into finding it and then keeping it going. I'm exhausted right now thinking about it. 

13 hours ago, cute kitty Meow! Mewo! said:

lol actually... I've only ever recomended people break up. I'm always biting my tongue 'cause that's all I'd say to most people, something like they say "ugh my datefriend likes chocolate but I hate it" and I go "you should obv break up. not worth!"

Yeah most couples I know do nothing but complain about the other. I honestly don't know why so many people stay together for what seems to me as convenience. 

I wouldn't recommend anyone date anyone else ever

I'm not repulsed by it but I think romance is stupid and irrational and makes no sense

Marriage a long time ago had little if anything to do with romance. Most were of convenience because people were expected to marry and women had no standing in society and often were forced to marry. In modern times a lot of people don't marry at all for various reasons. You could only count someone who never married if there was some quote that said they never felt a desire or something to be in a relationship with another person.