Karst

It's okay if it takes you some time to figure out your gender.  Introspection and figuring out what you want in life can be complicated.

It's fine if you want to consider yourself non-binary- there aren't any Official Requirements for being NB enough to use the label.  It's just an umbrella category for people who aren't really on board with being considered "male" or "female".

Still, you don't need to be trans/NB to reject traditional gender roles! 

There's a number of NB characters in Steven Universe, as well as a canonically aro/ace side character and several sapphic relationships.

Here's a fantasy webcomic with multiple NB characters (one main cast member, plus various side/background folks): https://www.vaingloriouscomic.com/

"Pet" is French for "fart".

Also, take a look at this Wikipedia article: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brand_blunder

"In 2019, Mushkegowuk Council Grand Chief told the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation that Heinz's latest 'Mayochup' product means "shit-face" in Cree."

I understand how you feel.  As a non-binary person, I've always had a rough time with social expectations around clothes and cosmetics.  Being shoved into a dress for formal occasions was hell for me.  Clothes shopping with my parents was also less than enjoyable, since I knew that wandering over to the men's side of a shop wouldn't go over well.

Oddly enough, I've gotten more comfortable with some traditionally feminine things as I've come to understand my identity more.  I'm fine wearing skirts on hot days, for one thing- they're just more physically comfortable when you live somewhere with humid summers.

Final installment:

https://topographicdungeonmap.wordpress.com/2021/06/13/pride-month-art-project-part-iii/

Part II: https://topographicdungeonmap.wordpress.com/2021/06/11/pride-month-art-project-part-ii/

Assuming that money is no object:

I'd have loads and loads of roses, since they're one of my favourite flowers, and they bloom during outdoor-wedding season.

The dinner would be vegetarian- probably different kinds of curry, since that's easy for a caterer to make for a large number of people.

I think that instead of a cake, I'd have one of those elaborate tiered towers of pastries, so guests could choose between different desserts.  I'd hate to have the highlight of the meal be something that someone's allergic to, or just can't stand.

I'd rather wear a suit than a dress. I think I'd go for an old-fashioned tailcoat, like you see in BBC dramas.

Instead of having a single colour theme, I think I'd decorate the place in rainbows.

Welcome to the forum!

To celebrate Pride, I'm making a series of flag photocollages using images of gemstones and other minerals.  All of these images are free for you to use as profile pics, etc.

Part 1:

Aro: 

Rainbow:

Ace:

Bi:

LGBT+ POC:

Trans:

NB:

Traits/types of people I find aesthetically attractive:

- Deep voices (bass/low alto)

- Grey eyes

- Strong-but-chubby body type

- Tall women (especially muscular ladies)

In general, I'm not all that interested in stories where the main plot is a romance, although there are a few exceptions.  If it's just one plot thread alongside many other elements in the story, that's more interesting to me.

To be perfectly honest, I'm a bit weirded out by the dynamics of some straight romances in media.  A lot of the pairings in movies and TV seem unhealthy/unstable/forced in one way or another. 

In real life, I think romantic love can be a wonderful thing ... for other people.

Happy Pride!

By the way, do you have an online shop for your stuff?

Personally, I don't feel like there's any strong connection between my being aro/ace and being non-binary.  They're both important facets of who I am, but they don't affect each other any more than my love of sketching affects my religious beliefs.

Original lyrics (from Mulan):

(Be a man)
We must be swift as the coursing river,
(Be a man)
With all the force of a great typhoon,
(Be a man)
With all the strength of a raging fire,
Mysterious as the dark side of the moon

Run through Esperanto, Welsh, Chinese, Xhosa, and Amharic:

(To be human)

We have to be fast like a river

(To be human)

With all the power of a mighty wind,

(To be human)

With all the power of a blazing fire

Mysterious as the dark side of the moon

Welcome!

I opened this thread thinking it was going to be about the TV show... *facepalm*

As someone who's pretty emotionally invested in fantasy worlds (I play and run Dungeons & Dragons games, and I'm a big fan of sci-fi), I think that you have to have a balance between enjoying imaginary things and knowing that art isn't, and can never be, life.  Stories can be inspiring and an escape from the worst aspects of reality, but you can't immerse yourself in them so deeply that you lose contact with the real world.

On 12/1/2019 at 8:06 AM, nonmerci said:

Sometimes I feel like there is more non-binary or trans people here, but maybe it's because I never met in real life (I think)? Sometimes I'm wondering if aromanticism or asexuality affect gender Identity. I Don't know, but I feel like some gender coded things are linked to seduction and gender-role in a couple Not everything, of course; but for instance, it seems for me that when it comes to clothes, a feminine style is often associated with seduction (like a boyfriend complaining because his girlfriend is not feminine enough, he thinks she doesn't seduce him without "feminine" clothes).

I think that more people are out as trans/NB on the internet than in real life, especially in queer-oriented spaces.  It's easier to express your identity in a space where you aren't going to be beaten up, lose your job, etc. over it.

Historically, there have been a fair number of cultures where long hair is/was considered masculine or gender-neutral aside from the ones already mentioned on this thread.  The Celtic and Germanic tribes of Iron Age Europe had warriors with long hair- here's an example where the hairstyle was actually preserved on a bog body (spoilered for human remains).

Sikhs also don't cut their hair, but the prohibition applies to both men and women.

I use they/them because it's easier to fit into the existing grammar framework of English than neopronouns, IMHO.

As someone who doesn't have a particularly strong sense of Gender Identity (I just sort of grabbed the "agender" label and called it a day), it's amazing to me that there are people out there whose lived experiences include being more than one gender.  It honestly seems like so much to deal with.