MiniChelonia

As someone who is aroace and not a writer the main thing I'd advise is making sure the character isn't emotionally closed-off. Generally aroace characters are robots/aliens/AI who struggle with any relationship (including friendship) and are basically emotionless - which can be pretty frustrating. Good luck with your story!

Recently I've been questioning the extent of my aro-ness, and wondering if I am the rare example of someone who has actually been suppressing their feelings. I find myself wondering if my (former) romance repulsion has contributed to this, and if without it, squishes may have been crushes instead. I suspect that demibiromantic may be a more accurate descriptor but this is hard to explain to allo friends who don't know the lingo, but who I previously told that I was aro. thankyou for your post

Hey, I'm also an AVEN transfer. I think I'm liking this site more, as there seems to be less politics

I've never felt that "pull" towards parenthood but sometimes I can abstractly think that adopting a kid wouldn't be so bad. I answered "not sure" but probably should've selected "no"

I came out to my brother but that was mainly because I felt like if I didn't he would be hurt/angry.... and I had already come out to my mum so it would be easier if I could openly talk at home my relationship with my brother is complicated.

My aromantic moment is every time someone shows romantic interest Getting paranoid and anxious because "oh no I think they like me" "what if they ask me out?!?" I hate feeling responsible for allo people's feelings because they have the bad luck to be interested in me "that way" I always end up feeling awkward and guilty, wondering if I did something which "led them on"

This thought process when I was in early high school: 1. I read a post about teachers "shipping students and getting them to do work together" 2. I noticed that a teacher kept getting me to work with another person 3. Therefore, teacher ships us according to aforementioned post 4. Me having that thought meant I shipped us together (that's how shipping works, right?) 5. Shipping someone with yourself = having crush on them I didn't realise most people visualised their weddings as a kid, or imagined being married in their future. In primary school some girls had made a poll for which guys were most date able, to which my contribution was "no one" "you can't choose no one or the world will end" "fine, the world ends" Not realising that being a 3rd wheel was a thing, or bad. Having no interest in romance. *exposed to romance* "no, that's obsessive & creepy".