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56 minutes ago, EternallyTBD said:

My birthday is march 10 too!

mine isn'y but half-birthday is close enough

yo yo

13 hours ago, hemogoblin said:

OKAY, so let's get into this.

The song received a lot of criticism when it came out for two reasons. One, Katy Perry wasn't out yet. Two, many queer people felt like the song treated bisexuality as a phase and represented bisexuals as girls who went out to bars and kissed girls but didn't take girls seriously in a relationship kind of way. There was also controversy that it was portraying bi people as cheaters (since the song mentions hoping the boyfriend doesn't mind), as well as feeling like it played into the trope of fetishizing bisexuality as lesbians performing for men's pleasure. It's not a 'serious' representation of being bi: it's treated as a fun but drunken mistake.

This ire was compounded by the fact that Katy Perry had another song before this one (VERY shortly before this one, too) that used gay as an insult: Ur So Gay. (Which, unfortunately, it looks like the last word on it from Perry was her still defending it far after she came out and became somewhat of an advocate because "it's a joke and only insults that particular person I'm referencing, not gay people" even though it's LITERALLY using us as an insult/bad thing to be.)

I think what we lose when we are hypercritical of all our representation (because a lot of it is poor either because it's being done by people who didn't consult with the community OR because it's the only way to get representation into media*) is the fact that not all rep is going to represent every person or every experience. We are not a monolith, not even those of us that use the same label. People question in different ways. We discover in different ways. We experiment in different ways. We explore in different ways. And we are messy and fucked up and toxic - but we learn and grow and evolve. When you look back on the context of the song now, knowing that Katy Perry is indeed bi and knowing that she grew up with strict, conservative religion that supported conversion therapy, you might have a different perspective, seeing "I Kissed A Girl" less as someone fetishizing and objectifying bisexuality, but more as someone who grew up having to have really conflicted and harmful beliefs about her feelings being able to explore and come to terms with bisexuality in a manner that was accessible to her. I don't know the breakdown of this from critics, but I think it's really interesting that my high school friend group, from when this came out, was split. The one of us that strongly disliked it was someone who'd been out as trans and gay for over a year and doing heavy research into being queer for a long time before that. While the rest of us that found the song a jam were all still in denial about being queer. I think it speaks to two very different experiences/stages of our journeys.

*I reference the "Bury Your Gays" trope, which only became a trope in the first place because having our characters be violently killed off was the only way to see ourselves on screen at all. Us getting killed off was the only way we were allowed to be in stories. And while it's absolutely valid that media does you BYG to avoid doing the real work of good representation, you also have the other side of the coin where hypercritical folk want to call BYG on any queer character dying, regardless of story or context.

fair enough, thanks!

16 minutes ago, Colorfullblobs said:

March 10th yeah

oooh march 10th is my half birthday!

im September 10th

14 hours ago, whatistheromance said:

I am hungry for waffles

thanks for making me feel the same way

7 hours ago, Colorfullblobs said:

How is everyone?

am good

can't get the bloody course selection program to send a parent approval email but otherwise finew

On 2/24/2023 at 8:19 AM, EternallyTBD said:

Just opened my history textbook to a part about art stuff and the section title is “the romantic impulse”

the romantic impulse is bs 

i have magically as if by fate started a re-read of good omens today so ill be doing that 

also gsa is this Thursday so I'll be a thorn reminding ppl about aro week

happy aro week!

omg im first page and page is even number 😏

im studying for test n lofi helps me keep less distracted

"do you have a boy friend?" and remarks similar to such

only the irritating people in my family ask me about this but it's still annoying bc i feel content as i am and i don't need no boyfriend 

1 hour ago, AromanticAardvark said:

I can remember things I've read or watched perfectly

you forget things you haven't read in 1 year

guys the everything everywhere all at once soundtrack is bonkers

i have 0 regrets at finding the album on spotify

side note: this movie is actually SUPER COOL AND BONKERS you MUST watch if u like fantasy

40 minutes ago, I am a schwa said:

@A Userlove your pfp by the way

ty!

20 hours ago, I am a schwa said:

Hello! I made a thing! Just changed the lyrics to Katy Perry's I Kissed A Girl to make it aroace.

(I didn't sing it myself, I used a program that makes a computerized voice sing, similar to Vocaloid if any of you are familiar with that)

 

I know most of the lyrics are a gross generalization of what being aroace means, but I mostly based it off of my own experience, so maybe it won't be relatable to everyone but yeah.

 

Also, sorry for the shameless self-advertisement, but I made it for the aro and ace communities so I'd like for it to reach them :) I hope you like it.

 

Happy aromantic awareness week by the way!

 

 

 

banger cover i LOVE it

15 hours ago, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

I still can't believe such a homophobic song got so popular when it first came out 😭

hows it homophobic aint it gay as hell

17 hours ago, Emily415 said:

Why do things always happen on here when I'm away from my computer?

fr fr

23 hours ago, Colorfullblobs said:

I love electro swing so much 

 

also out of curiosity do you still do much rp stuff? I remember having a lot of fun that one mystery rp 

i've been in and out, mostly bc ts is blocked on my home PC and i only have access to it in school and also recent rps haven't spiked my fantasy

overused tropes and too much.. aesthetic in the lot of them

related to electro swing here's my favorite video on it: 

i am here 

17 hours ago, Colorfullblobs said:

Is that good or bad?

 

 

also

I need to stop looking at transphobia (parody or not) on the internet 

It’s fucking with my brain

look up trans memes and tiktoks as a counter solution

Canadian soldiers in the past half century have been the greatest peacekeepers on Earth - in 39 missions on UN mandates, and six on non-UN peacekeeping duties, from Vietnam to East Timor, from Sinai to Bosnia.
 

Soldier, Bacon, King

"they have to be weird, they grow up into adults"

as a random suggestion: you should probably ditch the "4.6.10 default" theme bc it's not right (it's blue, the logo is non-existent, etc.)

i am aware that "green" themes solve his problem eay peasy but i see  no point in keepin the default theme when the green ones are obviously the ones that everyone uses anyways