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maybe what you feel for him is sensual attraction??

Sensual Attraction - desire to have physical, non-sexual contact with someone (kissing, hugging, cuddling, etc)

when you feel sensual attraction for someone, you call them a lush.  so maybe he's a lush?

(more info: https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Sensual_Attraction)

oi, eu também sou do Brasil!! se quiser conversar sobre arromanticidade com alguém que fala português, pode me chamar na mensagem privada qualquer hora! 

if you don't feel romantic attraction then you're certainly on the aro spectrum, even though you desire "romantic acts". there are some aromantic and aro-spec people who are/want to be in a romantic relationship, even without feeling romantic attraction. there are some subsets on the aromantic spectrum that may be suitable for you, such as cupioromantic or bellusromantic.

there are also other types of attraction and relationships besides romantic. if you're interessed in researching in depth, here you can find some terms that could be useful for you

1 hour ago, Rony said:

all the labels exist to pick the one to feel comfortable with and not to be ’practical’

yes, i meant 'practical' as less stressful for me, since i wouldn't like to explain what aegoromantic means everytime someone asks my orientation, i'm not so patient  but of course, that's just my way. each person do what they feel more comfortable doing

3 minutes ago, Rony said:

For me microlabels are very confusing so I prefer to call myself just aroace, kkk.

yeah, i feel the same! i want to look for more about it so i can understand my feelings better, but if someone asked me my orientation i would just call myself aroace, it's more practical

11 minutes ago, Rony said:

Aegoromantic isn’t interested in being in romantic relations and romance-positive aro can be interested in them.

i see... thank you for clarifying! i think it describes me pretty well, i'll research more about it

that's interesting, i didn't know about this term! i'm still kinda confused though, please correct me if i'm wrong, but instead of 'aegoromantic', couldn't it be used 'romance-positive aromantic'?

yayy latine gang!!!

7 hours ago, Erederyn said:

My mom is Brazilian ?

that's so cool!!

there's Yuu Asuka from Hoshiai no Sora (Stars Align)! they had two little scenes where they talk about their feelings regarding gender with the main character. it was a really small subplot, but it was treated in a very respectful way and took me by surprise. the anime itself has many many flaws, but i'm glad at least these scenes were done nicely.

since most non-binary characters i've seen before are some kind of weird entity or not human (justifying their gender non-conformity), it's kinda refreshing seeing an actual normal person being enby. yuu is just a soft tennis club manager who is questioning their gender.

https://i.redd.it/sap3nqausp241.png (i'm not able to add images for some reason, so i put the image link)

hello! i'm brown and brazilian. that's pretty much what i wanted to say, just to make an addition to the thread idk

good to see more poc in here!

when i was nine, i had a diary that had little questions to answer about yourself, like "what's your favorite food?" and stuff like that. a few months ago, i found it while organizing my shelf, so i started reading it and there was a question that said "what is your crush's name and why do you like them?". i chose a random classmate's name and to explain why i liked him i literally wrote "because when someone asks me who I like I have to have an answer" THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I WROTE WORD BY WORD KJKFDHFKL reading that sentence now knowing i'm aro was the funniest shit ever, but it's also kinda sad that i was already affected by amatonormativity at the age of nine

when i was thirteen, my mom asked me if i liked boys or girls, all i said was "i don't know, i don't really care about that" imagine my mom's concerned face

when i was fourteen, some of my friends and classmates started shipping me with my best friend. my friends asked me several times if i liked him and i would always be like "i don't know??? how do you know if you like someone??" and they would explain to me how it feels to have a crush and i would be like #?$@error 404%#* (turns out he didn't like me neither so it was fine, the shipping didn't change anything (also shipping your classmates is so weird why do people do that))

hey! i recently finished reading Loveless by Alice Oseman and really really loved it!

it's a YA novel that focuses on Georgia, a 18 y.o. girl that just started university and is trying to figure out her sexuality and stuff, to then realize she is aromantic asexual. it's basically an aroace coming out story, following Georgia's journey on self discovery, from hearing the terms aromantic and asexual for the first time to coming to therms with it personally.

i always loved Alice Oseman's books and almost freaked out when she announced her new book was going to focus on a aroace character!!! i loved it so much and could relate to so many aspects of it, specially the she deals with amatonormativity, romance and friendship.

there are also other aromantic and asexual side characters as well, and one of them is non-binary, which is greatttt

i'm obsessed with this book, honestly slkjdk i totally recommend reading it

i can really relate to almost everything you said lskdlsfj fanfics and fictional characters are awesome. ideally, having a partner seems cool, but real life is disappointing honestly.. not all aromantics are romance repulsed, it's okay to be aro and still enjoy romance!

i'm Babo, my pronouns are they/them, i love webcomics and frogs, and i should be doing my homework but here i am!

i started to identify myself as aromantic asexual in 2017, but recently i started liking this girl and now i'm really confused about my romantic orientation. i'm not sure if what i feel for her is romantic attraction. i have strong feelings for her, but i don't really want to do anything about it nor want her to like me back, so if i do like her romantically i think i might be greyromantic lithromantic. but she might be a squish,,, i've never had one before so i literally can't tell them apart

so yeah.. i don't know any aro irl, so i joined here hoping to read other aros' experiences and stuff, so i can learn and maybe understand my feelings better!!

(english isn't my first language so please don't be mean if i made some mistakes)