Skylord

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Both true and false, I love cats, but sadly, I'm allergic to them... 

TPBM has been to a cosplay convention. 

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True, I have a small greenhouse, a few plants outside that greenhouse, and a window garden of succulents. 

TPBM has been to Antarctica. 

Who cares about "coming out" anyway? I just let people try to figure it out for themselves what they think I am. If they get it wrong, I really don't care, they can just ask me if their so interested to know, but I'm not going to go out of my way to tell someone something they don't want/care to know. 

I'm going to be honest, I don't much care for the A Christmas Prince series, particularly the first one. I probably wouldn't have watched it if my mom hadn't convinced me to and I probably wouldn't have watched the following films if I hadn't seen how hilariously awful the first one was. Right from the start, the main character is deceptive and lies to get to where she's at, but it doesn't matter, they have romance on their side!.. No, just no. I don't care how cute it is, I don't think any sane person would want to marry someone who lied about who they were from the moment you first met, trespassed before that, and literally stole your personal documents. And the character development is, at best, not good. The characters hardly change during the entire 1 hour and 32 minutes. The films that follow are practically the same thing, but the plot consists of them getting married and then having a baby, the "key points" of any normal person's life. Why do people like these kinds of mediocre films? 

Knowledge, blasphemy, hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia, andante, prestissimo, and flautando all are fun to say. Music terminology has some pretty interesting words from multiple languages, mostly Italian, French, and German. Fortissimissimo is probably my favorite one. 

I was doing some research earlier, as I'm still rather confused about myself, and I came across autochorisromantic/aegoromatic, but I can't seem to find very much information about it. I made this so we can all discus this and maybe get some answers. 

The LGBTA Wiki description: "(Autochorisromantic) describes those who enjoy the concept of romance but have a disconnect between themself and the subject of romantic fantasies." - https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Autochorisromantic

Are there any Autochorisromantics or other people who know more about this? 

I actually was thinking the same thing recently (I haven't read Loveless yet, but I plan to) and I think that kind of pushed me to make a character who's an Aromantic Pansexual. I didn't just throw an orientation on a character though, it does fit well with who he is, but I might not have given him an orientation at all if I hadn't felt that aroallos are so underrepresented. I really hate that the closest there is to aroallo representation in the media are slutty and/or uncommitted people who, in general, are seen in a very negative light. 

I'm hoping that, with this character, I might be able to show that it's okay for someone to feel sexual attraction and not romantic attraction. Though this might take some research, because I don't really know what either of those are supposed to feel like. 

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I'm usually okay with romance, but one of the main things that puts me off is when the main character falls for an absolute jerk who treats them like trash, yet by the end, they're together and everyone treats this like it's not going to turn abusive. Another thing that I find particularly annoying is when a character obsesses over their love interest and doesn't have any life aside from their job at a local grocer and a friend or two to confess their "love". Both of these tie into my hate for underdeveloped main characters, they have the exact same goals as in the beginning and hardly change as a person, other genres are held to a general standard, so why should romance be exempt from that? 

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13 hours ago, RoboticHumanoid said:

YMBAI you googled what a crush is for the 7th time

I googled it once  and was like "okay, kinda makes sense... I guess...", but then I kept googling it because it just doesn't make sense. What even is a crush? I still don't understand and I've probably googled it way to many times to count.  

YMBAI you didn't understand why everyone in school was always so focused on relationships when there's far more important things to worry about. And if you overheard someone talking about that stuff, you would start feeling like you are missing some kind of piece to solving the 100,000 piece puzzle that is attraction and you'll probably never find it, despite trying as hard as you can to understand. 

True! Multiple instruments, actually, mostly cello and piano. Though, if you give me an instrument and roughly an hour of time, I should have a basic understanding of how to play it. 

TPBM likes to cook. 

True, I've had an Ace of Spades card on display on my desk for a few years, it's been there since before I even knew what aromantic or asexual meant, I just thought it looked cool since Ace of Spades is usually the highest ranking card in a deck, but now it has a meaning to it.

TPBM has a large book collection.

I was wondering when I'd get a proper explanation on this subject... anyway, this is my favorite:

True! Especially extra dark.

TPBM likes raspberry cheesecake

On 10/21/2020 at 10:49 AM, Vhenan said:

Skoliosexual: attracted to genderqueer and transsexual people and expressions (people who aren’t identified as cisgender)

On 10/21/2020 at 12:19 PM, Leton. said:

Careful with that. Many trans and/or non binary peoples don't like it, as it often slip into fetishism. And it's better to use "transgender" than "transexual" for the whole community  (even if some trans peoples use it, which is fine). Something about the etymology too? 

There is also the matter of separating trans men and women from cis men and women with their gender whish is...not great. 

I always thought it was just attraction to people with non-binary identities. 

I recently had a conversation like that with my mom, she kept pressing that everyone wants a relationship and intimacy with someone eventually, and I just was sitting there acting like I understood why she even cared if I didn't want that kind of relationship while hiding the fact that I was growing more hopeless by the second... Good times... My mom is a great person who usually understands everything, but I don't think she really understands this. 

On 10/23/2020 at 4:01 PM, senACEay_11 said:

I relate to what you're saying. Media venerates romantic relationships and make them out to be some grand, amazing thing that everyone wants, and then people are bashed for not wanting a romantic relationship.

Romance in fiction is awesome, but romance in real life is like... meh. I thought I was romantic, but it turns out I only like romance in fiction. Not romance novels though, I literally can't read those without laughing through half of it, and their usually pretty boring too. Romantic subplots are great though, when done right. 

A sweater with no sleeves. 

Isn't that just a vest.

Bikes with irreplaceable wheels. 

Knitted dining table and chairs. 

I know I'm asexual, but this whole romantic thing still has me confused, so even though I'm on AVEN, I came here so that I might be able to get answers and learn from the aromantic perspective of things. I thought I might be panromantic, but I'm not entirely sure, I have some sort of non-sexual attraction to people regardless of gender, but it doesn't feel the same way that most people describe romantic attraction, but it's not necessarily platonic either... it kind of fits what I've heard about queerplatonic attraction, so maybe that's what it is? And I've only ever had this feeling for two people. I've done research, but I'm still confused.

Anyway, I guess I should say hi now.

Hi.