Collie

2 hours ago, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

What is that?

I know of this in relation to therianthropy. Like, in my case I sometimes feel like a phantom tail and phantom ears. Shifting in therianthropy is when you feel stuff related to your animal self.

Some sound like OCD, and others remind me of my autism. 

On 9/23/2023 at 12:15 AM, Just a Bear said:

right this is me helllooo

 

I had a difficult childhood and I'm pretty sure it is why i'm so sensitive. I never thought I had adhd, but recently they adjusted the symptoms for adults with adhd and the symtems seem to describe me very well. I'm also autist for sure. No diagnosis on adhd, though my doc literally prescribed meds the second I mentioned thoughts that maybe I'm adhd which I find very questionable

That's very odd and irresponsible of the doctor, yeah. On the plus side, this gives you an opportunity to just try the meds and see if they help you function better. If you don't have ADHD they have very different affects. (This is assuming the meds are stimulants.)

Welcome!

The girl here (Ari) has a dedicated fan club and has a ton of guys who want to date her, but she is secretly aromantic.

Sadly it's very normal for friendships to fade, especially when romance gets into the picture. It sucks and I wish people placed friendships on a higher priority.

That all sounds very strange and not normal

On 4/9/2023 at 2:44 PM, Collie said:

Yep, aro, ADHD, avoidant personality disorder, sensory processing disorder

Update: aro, autism, borderline personality disorder, and sensory processing disorder (which is considered to be a prominent autism trait in my case)

I no longer believe I have ADHD, even tho I have a paper saying I do. But I do relate to the HSP stuff, being autistic.

Not Tourette's, but I do have minor tics. I've noticed that they seem to act up more during times of lots of stress

Only you can determine what you are. You certainly could be aromantic! Aroallos (aromantic allosexuals) certainly exist.

So aromanticism can either be defined by not experiencing romantic attraction, or not having romantic desire. Or both. Romantic attraction would be like.... crushes and stuff, or having romantic feelings when in a relationship. The desire would be more like the desire to have a romantic relationship. Some aros define themselves on one or the other.
Desire without (romantic) attraction is referred to as cupioromantic, and romantic attraction without romantic desire is referred to as lithromantic. And of course, some aros have neither.

Also an aro lesbian! Hi!

Why do you feel like you need a boyfriend because someone else does? Do you feel like you're missing out? Or do you just want to know what it's like? Or do you maybe want just someone in your life who you can be close with? Have you considered a QPR (queerplatonic relationship)? A QPR is a committed relationship that seems closer than regular friends, but is not defined as romantic by those in it.

3 hours ago, AstrophelDragon said:

They really do.

Like now when I'm starting college and I want to find new friends here and there are meetups where I could easily find new people to talk to but it's too loud with too many people and so someone comes up to talk to me and I'm unable to say anything...(unfortunately that is what happened yesterday)

I experience that at walmart, too many people around and I swear I can hear everything every single one of them is saying. That and the other ambient noises make me get close to meltdown. I don't seem to experience speech loss episodes though. edit: I do experience partial speech loss when I do go into meltdown actually, so I take that back

Sensory issues suck ass. There are days I can't even feel good in a dark room with as little noise as possible, because I can feel the chair pressing against my back too much or something.

I have heard of people experiencing sexual or romantic attraction only for people who can never love them back, such as celebrities. Or even fictional characters

I saw that there was a day for it earlier in the month, but completely forgot on the actual day! 😱

That's always tough. If I've suspected that someone likes me romantically, I typically wait until they tell me. Which has happened a couple times, only once irl. That time, I didn't tell the person I was aro directly, just said I'm not interested in anyone. It was very awkward for weeks afterwards, I don't think there's any easy way to approach these things.

WB!

Do you want to? Do you feel safe to? Those are the main things.

For me, it's mainly just a facet of myself. It's good for explaining myself if need be. Other times it may just be an interesting bit of trivia.

Allocishets be like: *is straight, never questions their sexuality, and is sexually and/or romantically active*
Allocishets: I chose this

On 8/13/2023 at 11:45 AM, roboticanary said:

 

This just unlocked a memory from like pre-2010's era internet where my dad gave me a floppy disk of funny pictures or something. This must be an old pic

I'd rather eat a rock then date or marry

Maybe you might be in the grey area, but if you don't care about giving it a try to find out, then I wouldn't.

You might be aro if you say you "ship" a pairing but when you see art of them doing romantic things you're like "hmm, don't like that"