confuddled Posted April 20 Share Posted April 20 hello everyone! I would like to start this off with saying i am an alloace person looking for advice from aro folks about my current relationship. a tad bit of background information on this is me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for over 9 months, but getting right into it we are both on the ace spectrum, but today we had a talk and he came out to me as being on the aro spectrum (aro-flux) we talked about it and both are more than a little lost on how to continue it. I was doing research on aromanticism at a point in my life where i belived i may be aro but decided that is not me, so i do understand and i made sure to express the fact that that was 100% valid and i didnt feel any negative feelings over this realization, that i would never be upset at someone for being who they are. My boyfriend has periods where hes 100% comfortable with physical touch (kissing, cuddling, handholding, ect) and does feel romantic attraction towards me, sometimes he feels romantic attraction but isnt up for romatic gestures/touch, and sometimes he doesn't feel any of it, i think that nobody is 100% compatible in a relationship but success in one takes comprimises and i am willing to make them, i just dont know what they are, and how we can go about still being in the relationship as we both agreed that we didnt want to break up, and i dont think a QPR would be the best situation because i very much do have a lot of romatic attraction for him. so i guess my main question is: does anyone have any advice or suggestions of what things we should talk about relationship wise? how to continue the relationship? we talked briefly about possibly taking breaks when he had moments of no romantic reciprocation, is anyone in a aro-allo relationship and how do you make it work? thank you! TLDR: Does anyone have any advice or experience on maintaining a allo-aro relationship? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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