Alexander Posted June 23, 2021 Share Posted June 23, 2021 (edited) okay so I'm kinda confused, please hear me out... I was indentifying as pan oriented, sex repulsed and romance indifferent aroace for a long time now. But I've read what "aegosexual" and "aegoromantic" is and I relate to most of signs of being aego. I enjoy shipping in media or reading sex scenes in books or manga, however I feel very repulsed by the thought of having sex myself. And I'm rather neutral about having a romantic relationship and I don't really want to be in one but I like reading romantic fanfiction/manga/comics and I feel happy when main characters get into a relationship etc. So I'm like 90% sure I'm both aegosexual and aegoromantic. But I still want to identify as aroace, not really as aego. Can I still identify as oriented aroace even though I'm not strictly aroace but aego? The term "angled aroace" doesn't suit me either because I don't experience romantic or sexual attraction... So wouldn't that make me aroace anyway? I'm just confused and I don't know if I can still use the label "pan oriented aroace" even though I'm aego. I just think that this label fits me a lot more than aegosexual aegoromantic. I just don't feel such strong connection with the "aego" label as I feel to "pan oriented aroace" label (there is a small connection tho). So am I still allowed to use the term oriented aroace to describe myself? Can I use both "oriented aroace" AND "aegosexual aegoromantic" labels at the same time? I really need help sorting this out. Edited June 23, 2021 by Alexander Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AceTheWarriorGrape Posted July 1, 2021 Share Posted July 1, 2021 Hi! I went through a similar experience once I discovered that I was aroace and not bisexual. I looked though a lot of romantic labels like gray, cupio and lithro that should fit (and do fit) given my perspective on romance/crushes. But for a number of reasons, I didn't like them as much as I immediately bialterous and angled aroace. Long story short, if you don't vibe with a label, you don't have to use it just because it "fits" you, and you can use as many or as few as you like. I changed labels a LOT of times, and I still wish someone could have told me earlier that I'm "allowed" to identify as whatever I want to, if that makes sense. You're not confined to a label, and you're allowed to use whichever ones you vibe with/feel connected to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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