Guest Dr. Robot. Posted November 30, 2020 Share Posted November 30, 2020 Hello, I came here because I think I’m aromantic, but I’m feeling confused, and wanted to hear people’s thoughts on it. I’m confused because when I realized I was bisexual, it just clicked, and I realized I’d known that for as long as I can remember on some level. With aromanticism, I feel like I have to prove it to myself, because it’s not clicking like my bisexuality did. The reasons I think I’m aromantic are: -I’ve been in several long term relationships, and I’m almost always the one to end it. I never feel like I love the other person, and I’m always unhappy in the relationship after a few months tops. I just used to think I was emotionally broken or something was wrong with me. -The most happy I’ve been with another person is when I’ve had friends with benefits type situations where I’ve been very upfront about my not being able to have something romantic. -The times I can think of where I felt what I thought was romance, I now think are I was either in the closet and trying to be straight, or it was lust. -I’ve never wanted to get married, or thought about growing old with someone. The reasons I’m questioning if I’m aromantic or not are: -I’ve been dumped a few times, and it’s really fucking hurt. I also feel guilty when I break up with someone, and that really hurts too, but I figured that could just be guilt (I hate breaking up with someone more than anything in the world). I feel like if I’m aromantic, why does it hurt so much when a relationship ends? -I don’t feel romance repulsed. I have my fair share of criticisms regarding cultural focus on romance and marriage, but I’ve never felt confused by romantic acts, or grossed out from typical acts of romance. -The fact that instead of it just clicking with me like my bisexuality, it’s more so just the more I think about it, the more it makes sense. I have this worry that I’ll identify as aromantic, and I won’t really be, and it’ll do some sort of harm to the aromantic community. I know this is pretty long, but I’ve struggled with this for a while now, and if there’s anyone that ends up reading this or sharing their thoughts, I sincerely appreciate you doing so. Thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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