IM A GENERAL WHEEEEEEE Posted November 29, 2020 Share Posted November 29, 2020 (edited) Hello! I am new to this website and I am very confused about my romantic orientation. I have a strong belief that I'm aro, but I'm not 100% sure. Here are some main reasons why: -I'm not sure if I've ever had crushes on anyone before, since they might have just been squishes or plushes (a queer platonic crush) -I tend to skip out on romcoms and romantic books like Twilight because I know that I will not enjoy the romance -Although I really like fan fiction, I'm not sure if I want to be in the position of the characters in the stories I read -I don't really fantasize about relationships, unless they're about a fictional character (or characters) or they're a person I've created from my head (like someone I would possibly like) -I can only recall two serious "crushes" I've ever had in my life, one was a close friend of mine and the other was also a friend, but I'm not sure if I had romantic feelings, or if it was just platonic and aesthetic -I can't recall ever feeling "butterflies in my stomach" when I had a crush on someone -Whenever I had a celebrity crush that I can recall (which was like once or twice) I only thought they looked nice and seemed attractive, but I never wanted to do anything with them -I thought I wanted a romantic relationship, but now, I'm not so sure (a QPR sounds better) -I can't stand celebrity romance (I never have) and I don't know why (I thought maybe I was jealous, but idk) -I hate flirting and I'm always scared that my kindness will be mistaken as flirting However, the thing that makes me question these reasons is that I have always envisioned myself being with someone in the future, but now, my view has shifted. I might just not be ready for commitment, idk. Although, despite this, I do still want someone to be in my future, whether they're a close friend or something else, since I don't think I would like living alone, and living with another person, and even more people, sounds fun. I might just want a very close friendship, but I'm not sure. There are certain things that I would want in a QPR, like an emotional connection/bond, cuddling, and non-date activities (ex: hanging out, getting food together, exploring, etc.), but things like kissing, whether it be mouth-to-mouth or not so, is more something that I'm okay with and will tolerate, but I don't need it (and I might not want it, idk, I haven't kissed anybody) I have also seen that my idea of a romantic relationship sounds a lot more like a QPR, if that makes sense. Like, when I see relationships on TV and in fan fiction, I always think 'this is just a fake act of a relationship, and people don't really act like this when they're in relationships, right?'. But, according to the media and majority of the world, a lot of the behavior in TV shows and fan fiction mirrors real life relationships more than I thought. (Idk if that made sense) Sorry it's so long! I just have a lot to say! I tend to run my mouth a lot lol Anyways, if anyone here could provide some sort of feedback, I would really appreciate that! Thanks for your time, have a nice day Edited November 29, 2020 by Jayden_Alexander Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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