Ghost1e

They’re apart of the LGBTQ+ community as they are non binary and asexual, but they have borderline personality disorder and they have a strong attachment to me. I’m also a kindhearted person who hates hurting people. People might even call it people pleasing, but I feel like I’ve broken out of that stage. Anyway, I feel they would understand, but I also feel like it would destroy them. I just need to muster up the courage to break this off…

I’ve been in a 4 year relationship with someone and I’m a Frayromantic/Aegoromantic person, so I don’t want to be in a relationship with them anymore, but don’t know how to break it to the about how I am and how I feel. I feel terrible in it and feel terrible if I end it. I don’t want to hurt their feelings but I also don’t want to lie to them. I’ve been on a long journey to figure out what I needed in relationships and I’ve most recently agreed that I am an aromantic person. I see my life much happier without a romantic relationship. I always feel strong romantic feelings when I meet people, but they quickly fade as I get to know them deeper, so I just don’t care about relationships, or at least long term ones. They don’t interest me, but I’m in one right now and I hate it for myself and my partner. I don’t know what to do. I feel so bad. It hurts even more because I love them as a person because we’ve grown so close, but I don’t feel the romantic feelings. Please help

Thank you for welcoming me. Fictoromance is something I can relate to as I can’t really get to know a character super well (speaking more so on video game characters as that’s my main media) and end up knowing them for just a character and having a crush on them because of it. But, I’ve struggled all my life with getting close with people romantically as it would just fade away so quickly. I’ve always thought I was just a perfectionist that needed the right person, but I imagine my life not being in long term relationships, or relationships at all, and it feels so much more natural and makes me much more happy to think about, so it really got me wondering if I am on the aromantic spectrum

I’m quite new and new to being aromatic despite not really feeling genuine attraction all of my life. I’ve experienced romantic attraction at first when I meet certain people but it quickly fades away and it’s something I’ve never been able to explain. For a while I thought that perhaps I just haven’t found the right person, but Im beginning to believe that isn’t so much the case. I always wanted to be in a relationship but every time, my feeling went away within a day or so and more so as I got to know the person. I’ve never felt a genuine connection with anyone romantically, or at least what others describe as love. I love a person for who they are, but I’ve never felt the world melt away because of them. After I got out of high school, I ended up forgetting about relationships and not caring about them. Honestly Im still not totally sure if i’m aromatic as I don’t want to jump the gun, but I feel strongly that it may be the case. Perhaps I could get some feedback. Frayromantic and Aegoromantic have been extremely relatable to me in my experiences in relationships