LoganTheAxolotl

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My headcanons: Literally all characters from Sanders Sides, Hunter from The Owl House(demi), and Omori/Sunny from Omori(Oriented Aro and fully ace).

Canon: The shows I watch don't have canon a-spec representation :(

18 hours ago, hemogoblin said:

We were just discussing this on tumblr, actually. Queerplatonic is a relationship label, not an attraction label. People may desire a queerplatonic relationship off of platonic or alterous attraction (or any other number of factors), but queerplatonic attraction isn't really a thing because queerplatonic is meant to signify a relationship type: a type of relationship that queers the societal expectations of other relationships. I hope that makes sense! I don't have much to add because I think the comparison to desiring marriage versus "marriage attraction" really helped me. :)

In case you don't know, alterous attraction is an attraction based on a desire for emotional connection that is either not romantic nor platonic OR is romantic/platonic in some aspect but the experiencer is uncomfortable as referring to it as such.

Now as to what a queerplatonic relationship means: it is purposefully vague, as that is the entire point of the relationship queering societal norms/expectations. A QPR can mean many different things. Here's a bunch of people talking about their QPRs and one person going over theirs in detail. What makes it a queerplatonic relationship is that's how the people in the relationship have decided to define it. Do you feel that platonic or committed platonic relationship describes what you want? Or do you feel queerplatonic is a better descriptor? Which terms make you comfortable? Labels are never about fitting into specific boxes. They are communicative tools that help us share  a simplified version of our feelings/selves with others. That's why there is no wrong choice you can make about a label, whether that's an identity label or relationship label. You get to define your feelings and your life.

One person who wants what you do may feel that platonic is the best descriptor. Another may choose queerplatonic. Both are valid choices. It depends on what language is meaningful to you.

Thank you for the help!

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Sunny and Basil from Omori

I'm omni oriented aro, omni acespike, and demiplatonic/queerplatonic(not sure...)

Im an INFJ

I have autism so people always say 'ohhhhhh' when I say I'm aromantic. They assume that cause I have autism, its the cause of my aromanticness.

When I was 6, I remember my mom started getting loads of boyfriends(she had before, I just thought they were normal friends). I was always repulsed by them kissing a lot. Maybe that was just cause they were adults though.

When I was 8, my mom got this boyfriend(who she later married). When he started living with us, on Friday nights we would have movie nights. My mom would sometimes pick romantic movies(typically rom-coms), and I hated them. And it isn't that she was bad at picking movies, she was great at it. But, it was the romantic movies that I hated. 

When I was 12, my mom started allowing me to watch horror movies. I was sooooooooo excited. When I was younger she would always pause the show or tell me to get out when watching horror films. But when I started watching them, I saw how forced the sex and romantic scenes were in horror movies. I thought it was disgusting.

From the ages 10-13 I made myself have crushes. First on this one friend who lots of girls liked, so I made myself like him(I creeped him out.....). When I was older, I thought that since I forced myself to like him I was a lesbian. So I made myself like my best friend. I didn't like her. I also told her that I liked her. I should have felt sad she rejected me, but I didn't, I was kind of relieved.

On another topic of mine, I remember seeing comments about queerplatonic and platonic being different. I currently identify as demiplatonic(along with other things). I've always thought that platonic and queerplatonic were the same exact thing. But thinking about it, platonic means like friendships without kissing and stuff, and doesn't queerplatonic mean to have friendships with cuddling and kissing. And I want to have friendships with cuddling and kissing but without really dating that person. So, I'm very confused. Help.

18 hours ago, MulticulturalFarmer said:

What does demiplatonic mean? Or at least where online can I find out more information about what that identity means?

Like demisexual or demiromantic, demiplatonic is when you don't feel attraction until you form a bond with a person, except its platonic. I figured out this when I realized all the people I have platonic crushes on are really close friends of mine.

https://mogai.miraheze.org/wiki/Demiplatonic

I myself am Logan, He/It/Ze  pronouns, and I am omni aligned oriented aromantic/demiplatonic and omni acespike.

Oriented aromantic meaning: Someone who doesn't feel romantic attraction, but may feel platonic/alterous attraction towards other people and may want to form romantic-seeming relationships with them(living together, cuddling, kissing, etc).

Demiplatonic meaning: Someone who doesn't feel platonic attraction to people without getting to know them first.

Acespike meaning: Someone who rarely feels sexual attraction, and when they do its it short spikes of attraction.

Omni/Omniplatonic/Omniromantic/Omnisexual meaning: Similar to Pan, someone who feels attraction to all genders but has a preference unlike Pan.

My preference regarding Omni: I like women the most, men the least, and people who are neither, both, in between, or whatever I like in the middle.