Fandom Fanatic

Well, I'm not sure if you're aware, but there are other types of attraction than just romantic or sexual. Alterous attraction is a form of attraction that's inbetween platonic and romantic. It's hard to explain unless you've felt it, and even if you've felt it, explaining it is still difficult. It's more of something you have to feel. But if you feel like you are aro, but you've also felt attraction (or at least I think that's what you're describing), it's definitely something to look into.

As alto said, you could be lesbian aroace.

Hi, nice to meet you!!

7 hours ago, Harvest said:

My Mum sometimes gets mad at me when I'm stressed out. Sometimes I'm not even actually feeling anxious but I accidently talk to fast or use too many words and so she assumes I am anxious and then proceed to yell at me for it.

Yep, I've heard that one before. I'll be doing something as simple as sitting with my arms crossed, because it's comfortable to sit that way and she'll assume I'm mad.

2 hours ago, goose said:

She sounds like a real piece of work, I’m sorry you gotta put up with her.

 

Most of the time, I love my mom, I still really do. She just drives me crazy because she isn't always willing to listen to how I see things.

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3 hours ago, Storm_leopardcat said:

Do you experience platonic attraction and alterous attraction?

I mean this question for @I am a schwa. But you could answer too, @Fandom Fanatic!

Yes I do, and it is an adventure.

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1 minute ago, I am a schwa said:

Yes, I had taken both there terms into consideration actually, but I like to just identify as aro! It just feels better for some reason. I was obsessing with getting specific too much and it was driving me crazy, but once I settled for the umbrella term it all became simpler. Lithromamtic also fits, and it is similar to aego, but again, I find it more useful to just identify as aro. I don't dislike microlabels in general, mind you, I think they're really useful and it's important that they exist cause they bring people together, but in my case, they don't make me feel as good as just aro does :). Thank you for your imput!

 

Nice to meet you too! Sure, I'll check it out. Hope your sexuality crisis wasn't too unpleasant.

Sounds good! I did identify as aroace for a while, because it gave me some breathing room, which I really needed at the time, but now I think I'm comfortable where I am.

Like everyone else has already said, it really depends on what the comments were. If he was just being a homophobic asshole, then it would be filed under bullying, especially if you told him to stop. 

However, if it steps into the sexual portion, then we get into sexual harassment, which is a whole other situation.

Also, your friends are wrong. Telling someone to shut up if they were being an asshole is not a bad thing. Besides, they were rude first, you were defending yourself.

1 hour ago, AroAcedragon13 said:

Just finished skating in below freezing weather.Best decision I've made in awhile.

Sounds like tons of fun.

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TW: the basic mental health stuff. And cursing.

Guys my mom noticed I was shaking my hand when I was stressed and she basically told me “You’re giving yourself a nervous tick on purpose to draw attention to yourself.” I want to fucking die. Because she doesn’t understand how deep mental health is. She knows anxiety as just being nervous and depression as what the commercials show it as, but she doesn’t realize that my anxiety is a constant thing. I’m not stressed about anything right now, but I CANT FUCKING CONTROL WHAT MY BODY DOES. I can’t fucking control the fact that shaking my hands and bouncing on my feet keeps me from freaking out or that it keeps me from being restless. Well i’m sorry I’m fucking broken, okay? It’s not like I asked for this shit. 

28 minutes ago, I am a schwa said:

I do fall in love with people, but I don't wanna do anything with them, you know? I don't wanna date them. It's closer to the kind of love I feel for my family members. I essentially just want a buddy (or some buddies, I'm fine with polyamory!) that will be not quite like a best friend, but rather like a sibling. I don't know how to better explain this; just siblinghood. Someone or some people for whom I am special, but not in a romantic way. A queerplatonic relationship, essentially. It seems much more appealing than a romantic one. I'm not quite certain QPRs are even for me, but they seem a lot more doable than trying out another romantic relationship.

 

You fall in love with people, but don't want to act on it? Hmmm.... aegoromantic?

It's closer to the love you feel for friends and family members. Quoiromantic?

If you go here, AUREA has some great labels that might make sense.

However, go with what feels comfortable.

But hi! It's nice to meet you. I'm Fandom, ze/she/they. If you're a teen, come join us on Teen Corner, it's pretty chill over there. I recently just went through a big sexuality crisis, so my brain is full of aro stuff.

EVERYONE I HAVE THE ENERGY AND THE DESIRE TO BE PRODUCTIVE BUT PINTEREST WONT LET ME

10 hours ago, Grey415 said:

I'm not sure you'd consider a musical style an aesthetic but bardcore

ahh yes. bardcore. i saw an adaptation of Taylor Swift's "Shake It Off" on Pinterest and now I'm disappointed I didn't save it.

2 hours ago, Harvest said:

what obscure aesthetics do you like? 

for me its bastardcore and clowncore

spacecore/starrycore

i guess the "official" name is spacecore, but i love how starrycore sounds.

2 hours ago, A User said:

indeed it is, therefore i'd never ever ever use it in my life

*sigh* okay well

If you can't beat them, join them.

10 hours ago, Harvest said:

noooooooooo comic sans is EVIL

THANK YOU SOMEONE AGREES WITH ME

nice to meet you!

21 minutes ago, A User said:

hello

^{guys there's new font settings!}

YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS?!?!?!

oh dear god

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13 hours ago, Ted guy said:

Ok (about not stating age).

I'm presuming you're somewhere from 13 to 16 based on how you talk about your confusion.

I didnt start figuring out myself until I was my early 20s, so I would just let it roll out if I were you.

I've had a lot of female friends that had no interest for dating as early teens, but then in early 20s all over the place. It really switches.

I didn't enjoy my teen years because there was such a lack of clarity for one reason.

On 11/16/2022 at 5:46 AM, Storm_leopardcat said:

Have you tried aegoromantic?
https://www.aromanticism.org/en/identity-terms#:~:text=Aegoromantic %2F Autochorisromantic,Bogaert (original%2C archived).
 https://www.lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/Aegoromantic

YALL YALL YALL I THINK I FIGURED IT OUT

I THINK I'M DUOROMANTIC and that I switch between demiromantic and aegoromantic

1 minute ago, Deltalorian said:

I honestly do not know what to think of this

We've been over this. You're one of my best friends and I think you have good advice. Besides, I literally ask you about everything under the sun that I need help with.

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6 hours ago, Storm_leopardcat said:

Have you considered taking a break from LGBTQIA+ spaces for a while, especially forums and spaces like this? I feel the same, at times. It happens if you spend too much time in certain communities, and then you start to focus a little too much on your sexuality. Or gender identity. Or both

14 hours ago, sevan said:

That's true. I might need to unplug for a bit.

6 hours ago, Storm_leopardcat said:

Same sentiment as what?

So she knows you're aro, that's why she thought you wouldn't want to watch it (supposedly because it has depictions of romance?)? Or what?

Hmm, so she did let you go to your room and let you use your computer without saying anything about it?

My mom called me my given name, but I'm not revealing my actual name on the internet, so I replaced it with my nickname. 

no, my mom does not know I'm aro. She thought I wouldn't want to watch it because I'm not much of a horror/vampire fan.

And yes, essentially.

5 minutes ago, EGGHEAD said:

yes, you're right, my brain just has a hard time handling rejection (or perceived rejection)

i get it. kind of. not completely, but i understand what you're getting at.