tyledgarlic

2 hours ago, roboticanary said:

Does lemon sorbet count? I have no idea what the difference between sorbet and icecream are. But something sharp like that is so goooood.

I did also once have icecream which was nettle flavoured. That was good and fits in with aro greenness.

 

absolutely sorbet counts! (not all of us can eat dairy after all) and holy crap nettle? thats so cool! where, what did it taste like? was it steeped, blended in or both?

27 minutes ago, Sili said:

you cant go wrong with vanilla to be paired with something else.

YESSSSS a good vanilla is the besssstt. part of why i like butter pecan so much, they (on average) use more vanilla flavoring than regular vanilla

8 minutes ago, Erederyn said:

avocado, and caju (cashew apple)

what company had those? that sounds sooo good!

curious what the gen. aro public’s favorite ice cream is so. tell me. mines mint chocolate chip/butter pecan (not together), but i’ve had some good honeysuckle and basil-avacado icecream.

this used to be a solid yes for me. cake, financial benefits, party, etc sounds fun. Now i realize that when i actually put myself in that equation i’m not so keen, sounds. excessive, to legally bind myself to someone with a whole ceremony just for tax benefit.

If i ever do feel the need, i’ll keep it to a minimum of legal requirements and ice cream cake with friends. Maybe a fancy-scmancy suit, as a treat

On 7/6/2022 at 1:34 PM, Apex said:

I would if I had a partner (or close friend) and we'd been together for a few years, and we both wanted to. Like others have mentioned, the legal/financial/medical/housing benefits are hard to pass up. Though I would want a prenup as well.

One downside is that it'd be difficult to explain to people that we aren't romantically involved- especially each-others families. I'm either way as far as a wedding goes, I just don't want something really big or expensive, and maybe a broader commitment ceremony might be better than a capital-W wedding.

legally, all you have to do is go to the courthouse with papers, ordained official, and ~60$. differs where you’re from but you can go pretty cheap w/ that, depending on whether you want to use someones house or a public space

ymba if you can’t understand why you’d date w/o sex/when you can be or already are friends

ymba if “they wouldn’t care that much unless it was a crush” annoys the sh*t out of you

ymba if you hate+/dread dating

welcome!

i’d assume it’s mostly overdiagnosis/unnecessary diagnosis of other disorders in aros. i’ve seen people’s first response to “i don’t want romance” be an armchair diagnosis of intimacy anxiety disorder or aspd, and knowing the mental health system and my own experience, i would not be shocked if some professionals impulsively do the same.

BITE I LOVE OMG i love the gradiet?!/!?!?!? so good

4 minutes ago, roboticanary said:

you have an interview in a different reality. the train is fine but the dimentional jump union are on strike which is even more of a pain.

I wish i didn't keep getting terrible songs stuck in my head.

you now can’t remember your favorite songs

i wish i lived in subtropical/temperate rainforest

On 6/13/2022 at 1:43 PM, Acecream said:

What do you mean with rejecting? Not experiencing it?
 

I don‘t fall in love. I sure „love“ my friends, but I refuse calling it love. I‘d NEVER say „I‘m aro ‚but‘ I love my friends“… When i talk about aromanticism, I say that in my case it means that I don‘t fall in love or I say that I don’t experience love. When people talk about love in general I use to say, this doesn‘t affect me/let’s me out bc I am aro. People use to tell me „yeah but you do/can love your friends“…. I hate this bc I feel like they just distract from my arones

So I use to refuse their objections and I don‘t like it when people argue about „love is love“ with „platonic love exists too“ (not only bc I know aplatonic persons exist but also bc it feels like people refuse to reflect about being aromisic) when aros say it lets us out. Bc it clearly does

so I kinda „reject“ the concept even if I experience it… does this make me loveless/allows this to use the term or is it for aplatonic people?

yeah its a wide term. could mean apl, could mean feeling disconnected from love, no love, rejecting the personal use of the term, etc.

playing with someones hair, and generally “romantic” physical contact.

hi im tyler im new here. i’ve known im aro for a while but i’d love to make more friends here!

hun thats a massive no. casual sex is seen as filler till you settle down at best, and being a whore/heartless player who leads people on at worst. i see so many people shame others for having sex with no romantic connection, not just with christians but with the lgbtqa+ community, saying they’re “the worst of the __” who gives ___ a bad name, that you can only truly be ___ if you have romantic attraction and it sucks. because people will only accept you having casual sex conditionally. only if you’ll “get a relationship soon” or if you're in an open one, hell sometimes i feel like people treat cheater better than “pathetic” people who always stick to one night stands/fuck buddies. and oh, don’t get me started on amatonormativity in fwb. then even in the aro/ace community, aro is treated like mutable with ace, the same, like you’re “weird” if you’re aro but not ace, it’s always assumed that you’re both. don’t you dare call that privilege.

On 5/26/2022 at 5:28 AM, Guest LilLover said:

It’s an interesting thought. 
Until recently I would not have identified as an aro-allo because even though romance makes me deeply uncomfortable I seem to be able to easily be romantic while at the same time finding others romantic gestures towards me abhorrent. 
 

As a woman I don’t think causal sex or unemotional sex is ever glorified in the media outside Queer media, heteronormative media seem to gleefully slut shame even when it tries to be edgy about “modern” sexuality. 

it’s not even glorified in queer media. i feel like as a community we use romantic love as some kind of softer, purer part of identity that makes us better, equal to “straights”. feels like its only glorified in the context of between relationships or in relationships, older queer medias the only place you really see that much.

14 hours ago, AromanticAardvark said:

But they take forever to complete, and you always get bored.

I have infinite, limitless motivation to study for my math exam (and finish my final project)

upon completion you are bedridden twice the amount of sleep you lost, on top of what you regularly need. meaning if you lost 4 hours one night 8 is added to your typical sleep, and so on. better not be on a deadline.

i have wings i can fly with at any time

i’d say do your best to research good therapists *for you* in your area. a good way to do that is break down what you might want, obviously someone with experience in sexual trauma but if you have any self diagnoses/symptoms and traits shared with diagnosis it’s good to look for that too. you could be able to check reddit for some proper reviews of those therapists (many useful subreddits), or find the therapists social media. you might not find the former but the latter is pretty common nowadays, and can be useful as many teach coping/grounding etc methods in case therapy’s still inaccessible to you. i wish you the best of luck