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On 11/21/2023 at 7:26 AM, Keith said:

Hi! So, just as the title says, this is directed towards people who have come out not only to themselves, but also to those around them - like friends, family and ect. I've been debating doing this for a very long time, and I just wanted to ask - how has it actually affected your life? Did anything change in the way you've been perceived? If yes, then what was it like? I mean, what changed? And was it for the worse, or for the better?

P.S. Please tell me if the question sounds too invasive, because that's not my intention!! I'm just genuinely curious, since it's something I've been considering for a while.

I've come out to myself,many friends and my mom and brother. It's affected my life in a few ways. It was a journey at first but I don't regret it. I'm a LOT happier. It's taught me many lessons and shown me who i can trust. I think people perceive me differently but mostly because i'm more confident and talkative. When I came out to my mom I was angry at first. I was confused because you normally see people who are so happy but I wasn't at least not how i thought I would. I think I was so scared because it felt weird after keeping it private for so long to have someone so important know that. It felt almost frustrating. So if you come out don't be surprised I guess if you react differently than what you see in the media. It's an individual journey so it's unique to you. It's also helped me form more real and meaningful friendships. It's hard to make friends when you don't know who you are let alone the people around you. It's helped my mental health more than I can describe. There have been a few negative affects of coming out but nothing that hasn't stopped me from continuing to do it. Personally I've struggled with the anxiety of people outing me to others. I combat those thoughts by talking about it. If I'm worried about a certain friend telling someone I talk to them. It also doesn't hurt to remind others of your boundaries. Make sure you trust someone before coming out to them. Also if a friend makes you feel bad about your identity then don't be afraid to call them out. Trust me it will save a lot of hurt than if you just let it go. I can't guarantee what will happen if you come out but I can tell you that every struggle and every victory since coming out have been MORE than worth it. There have been many dark times but just as many lighter ones. If you ever need to talk or have any questions or even just want to rant don't hesitate to reach out and private message me on here.

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yeah i have a few. Isaac from Heartstopper, his experiences were very relatable and I love how they portrayed things he was feeling throughout the new season. Wille from young royals, I saw a lot of myself in the way his anxiety was portrayed and it was really authentic. I definitely feel its harder to relate to a character who is in a relationship or isn't queer.

3 hours ago, Ispeakgerman said:

Hello

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6 hours ago, NVLL said:

understandable. i dislike sex scenes when its unnecessary. but when its used to add depth n symbolism to the story idm it; such as the 1 done in arcane which is used to create contrast between the 2 charas theyre comparing

romantic n sexual scenes in horror movies is 1 of my biggest pet peeves 

ive never seen a horror movie but a sex scene in one seems really weird and like out of place? like aren't they about to die or smth and they're doing that instead? idk seems weird.

Ive started watching young royals and there's like sex scenes and it's bizzare like??? people think like this????this can't be normal???? yall are lying? people actuallly look at a picture of essentially a stranger and are like in fucking love???? bewildering and confusing. 

2 hours ago, bluster kong said:

I might want to tell my parents I’m aroace sometime just for the sake of letting them know but I have no idea how. I’m not good at opening up to people and I don’t want some big conversation like “mother, father, I have gathered you here to inform you about myself.” I really don’t want to make a big deal out of it, I just want to be able to let them know and never have it brought up unless necessary. Not really sure if there’s any sort of advice that could be given but yeah.

I have advice! I came out to my mom by writing a note and then just leaving it where she would find it before I left for school. I got a text with her response while i was still at school and it wasn't anything huge, no big conversation or anything. It hasn't come up a ton since and it's been 7 months. I'd say try something like this? Whatever feels comfortable really.

Hi!

HATED by YUNGBLUD is a fucking masterpiece 

These are so cool!!!

Hi

maybe a queer platonic relationship? try looking at other terms with this link though if you want.

https://www.aromanticism.org/en/attraction-relationship-terms 

I WATCHED SEASON 2 OF HEARTSTOPPER!!!! Its literally so amazing!!!!!!! 

1 hour ago, NVLL said:

i have to go back on the 16th this month. i want to kms

oh my god that fucking sucks.

School starts in 1 month for me. It starts on the 7th. I don't want to go back. I'm excited about it too though. I get to take art every day now so that's fun i guess. 

sounds like just anxiety 

I wanna watch heartstopper s2 so bad. i haven't had enough time yet and its killing me. i literally can't look at my yt homepage or my pinterest feed because its literally covered in spoilers. 

I FORGOT TO YELL Y'ALL!!! My mom told her homophobic and racist co worker to go to hell!!!!

i got gay skittles.

ive felt the need to cry for a few days now and now im crying over heartstopper. 

amazing!

next person gets a bag of dirt

I think you could definitely be somewhere on the aro spectrum. Here's a link to a whole list of identities with descriptions that might help: https://www.aromanticism.org/en/identity-terms 

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