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(as much as my hate for the phase...)

"Everyone's in the 'friend zone'."

10 hours ago, Apathetic Echidna said:

Does this all mean we should watch movies about terrible people and relationships so we don't have the possibility of getting these feelings? Basically only watching The Room for the rest of our lives.....I think that would actually make all of us worse. That would break even the most stable of us. 

I dont think that's necessary, I was just wondering if anyone had felt this.

[I'm not sure if this is the right place for this, please move if it belongs somewhere else]

So, just wondering if anyone else had heard of this- the avatar effect: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1242409/The-Avatar-effect-Movie-goers-feel-depressed-suicidal-able-visit-utopian-alien-planet.html

Pretty much, a large number people were getting sad, depressed, and some suicidal after watching the film Avatar. From the articles I've read, they felt this way because the world of Avatar was so beautiful, and we could never have that, we could never experience it truly for ourselves. Which brings me to my point- I've been experiencing a similar sad, empty feeling after watching pretty much any film recently (though not to the point of depressive episodes and/or suicidal thoughts). I went to see the new Jumanji film, The Greatest Show Man, and Downsized in cinemas recently, they were all great films (and I'd recommend them to anyone who asks) however, after each of them, even during, I felt sad in the way described by the Avatar effect. The difference for me though was that i didn't crave the beautiful world, but instead I wanted the connections the characters had. Specifically those in relationships. I'm sex and romance repulsed/adverse (somewhere in between) but long-term long for a QPR. But being younger its hard to find someone who wants that kind of relationship even in a short term way (like dating, but QP), so I feel quite lonely and all these films are just making it worse, even if they're not romance films.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Proud Hufflepuff

Erudite/Candor/Abnigation (all similar so...)

And daughter of Athena

I think I'll probably adopt.

The idea of being a birth mother doesn't bother me, but being a sex repulsed ace makes that a bit difficult (yeah I know there are other ways but, you know...)

I guess i know that there is a lot of kids waiting for adoption- I'm going to learn sign language for my job when I complete my degree in speech pathology, and in my career i want to work with Coda kids (hearing children with deaf parents). So I might potentially try and help foster/adopt any deaf children who need a home...

If i ever find someone to be in a QPR with I'd hope we could adopt children together.

My first child to adopt however, is going to be a puppy...

I really also like all these historical fiction films coming out- based on real people/true stories. I know that there is romance in some/a lot of these, but cause its based on real events I'm more okay with it, i guess its because I feel that they aren't just adding it in for the sake of it...

Can I just say that I loved Rouge One because there was no romantic story line...

I also like the vulcans from Star Trek, although capable of experiencing love and emotions they experience it obviously quite differently to humans- something I identified with, especially also being an INTJ so I like to consider myself a very vulcan like human...

I didnt save the numbers but:

1. Gifts

2. quality time

3. words of affirmation

4. acts of service

5. physical touch