Dodecahedron314

The first Avengers movie, from what I can remember? Definitely not the second one, though. I am forever salty about the second one. 

Out of the Star Trek movies, I don't remember much romance in Search For Spock (III), The Voyage Home (IV), The Final Frontier (V), or First Contact (VIII). (Can't speak to Nemesis (X) or the newer ones because I haven't seen them.)

Also, both Labyrinth and Real Genius (all right, so there's one kiss scene in the latter, but it's totally irrelevant to the plot and completely skippable, and they don't even act like they're in a relationship anyway). I might remember more later. 

On Tuesday, April 26, 2016 at 11:51 AM, PerformativeSurprise said:

 

I always hate those kind of questions! Whenever someone would ask about what my "type" is or what qualities I find attractive in a partner, I would freeze up or try to deflect. Now that I'm more open about being aro I just answer honestly,  but before I would get super awkward.

"What's your type?"

"I use the backspace key a lot. Which, incidentally, is what I will use on YOU if you continue to ask me such questions."

Me, sophomore year of high school, after both of my friends had recently come out as lesbian: "Well, I guess this makes me the token straight friend, then."

Me.

Straight.

HA! BAHAHAHAHA!!!! Oh, young Dodec, you sweet summer child.

Perks of getting better at a language: Now you can finally start to understand all those songs in your target language that you downloaded when you first started studying it.

Drawbacks of getting better at a language: You now understand some of said songs just enough to realize that they're actually love songs.

I was going to add mine...and then I just wound up serial-smashing the like button on every single post in this thread I agreed with (in no particular order: Katniss, Kaylee, Rey (if they try to make her and Finn a thing, I swear I will riot), Annie (I'm incredibly happy to find out other people here read Gunnerkrigg Court!), Natasha Romanoff, Light and L, etc.). I'd also like to throw in basically the entire cast of Todd Allison and the Petunia Violet (and in addition, Elijah and Meredith are in the most QP of relationships and no one can tell me otherwise), as well as Janice and Maureen from Welcome to Night Vale (I also strongly headcanon Carlos as demiromantic demisexual) and Dr. Hilbert and Captain Lovelace from Wolf 359.

On 4/12/2016 at 3:15 AM, YJR said:

I sometimes ship fictional characters in a QP way but it's hard to get other people to sympathize with me.

 

me: *starts chat*

me: wouldn't it be great for these two to help each other out, smile and cry and sing together, have deep conversations, maybe hold hands, feel warmth and trust and hope in each other

A: yeahhhhhhhhhh

A: let's make them go out

B: let's make them kiss and have sex

me: *leaves conversation*

I can definitely relate--I don't always ship, but when I do, it's always queerplatonically. Especially since it's very satisfying to find characters that work really well together on a strictly platonic basis as opposed to just having to kind of squint and avoid the romance implied in some relationships.

The song I've had stuck in my head for about the past week is at 3:36, but I highly recommend watching the entire video, because all three songs are just absolutely stellar, especially the last one.

11 hours ago, Vega said:

Demorgan, you're probably right. But I still think it's a good excuse to run away from a random guy.

 

I get so paranoid too. I don't get hit on a lot, but it's happened enough that I tend to get really paranoid whenever a guy starts talking to me. 

It's the worst with straight male friends though, I've gotten asked out by most of my male friends and it's always awful.

I have the opposite problem--in the extremely rare cases in which I have been hit on, I have invariably been 100% oblivious because it's just not a thing that even enters my mind. Both times that it's happened (to my knowledge, anyway), I only realized it because my friends told me what was going on afterward (although I still highly doubt one of those instances...but the most recent one was definitely a lot more suspicious, and a lot more creepy.) After the last instance, I'm starting to think I should perhaps start being slightly more paranoid...*shudders*

Alan Turing

18 hours ago, 46odnetnin said:

I'm usually fine with it, you do you, but when it gets to ridiculous levels I just have to go. Like when they are a new couple and they're constantly holding hands and glancing at each other really gets on my nerves, or when the girl just sits on the guys lap and they're cuddling and murmuring to each other just STOP. I look away when people kiss as well, it jsut seems strange to watch.

To be fair, sittinf on someone's lap doesn't necessarily imply romantic attraction, my QPP does that to me all the time, monpolizes my arm, etc. Of course, that meant that in high school, everyonr mistook us for a couple (a lesbian one at that, which is doubly absurd because neither of us are female or allo), so I certainly won't deny that the implication of romance is a common one, it's jist that it's not necessarily universally applicable. I can certainly see why that sort of thing woild set you off though, it's completely understandable. (Sorry for the typos, the mobile site hates my phone and makes it so i can't edit what I've typed whenevr I'm making a post that includes a quote >.< )

Somebody asks you what a non-platonic relationship would look like and you genuinely have no idea because it's just not something you can really conceptualize. 

I'm really lucky on the "forever alone" front because my QPP is grayro, but because there's very little chance we'll be able to interact much IRL until we're out of college (our schools are about 1100 miles apart), I worry that we'll grow apart and then when I graduate I'll be left with no one because all my other friends are alloromo (though one is questioning grayro, but they're graduating this year so I don't know that we'll stay in contact). It's not necessarily the knowledge that unless I'm secretly demi or something I'll never feel anything romantic that's the problem...it's just that friendship is one of the best things in the world to me, and it worries me how everybody generally says that friends are less and less of a thing as you age and everybody starts getting married. I'm not at the point in life at which that sort of thing starts happening quite yet, but I know it's coming, and sometimes I do worry about it (and the thought of having to attend all of those weddings as a romance-repulsed aro is nerve-wracking as well).

I don't know, a lot of the time I wonder if it's weird how important my friends are to me, and I worry that it would come off as clingy if I were more open about it. Sometimes I get the feeling that people mean a lot more to me than I do to them. 

Wow, that wound up being way more of a long, rambling rant than I anticipated...

IRL stuff generally tends to trigger it more than in media, especially PDA--the closer the people are to my vicinity, the worse. (Especially if I hear kissing noises, that's just an immediate OH GOD WHY ALL THE NOPE) Media isn't usually so bad in small doses and if it's done tastefully so that it's not the main focus of whatever it is or it can be interpreted platonically, but if I'm exposed to a lot of it over time the cumulative effect can make me feel really terrible and broken. 

1 hour ago, tea-cup-full-of-spiders said:

My QPR partner and I are constantly being confused as being in a romantic relationship. People will ask us about it, and when we explain it to them, they refuse to except that our relationship is anything but friendship...

Argh, same. What's really annoying in my case is that a lot of people thought that that meant we're a lesbian couple...when neither of us are female...or allosexual...or alloromantic. It's impossible for that misconception to be any more wrong.

1 hour ago, DannyFenton123 said:

Also I find it annoying when I talk about shows I like and people immediately go to shipreason) There's not an inherent problem with that and I know a lot of people like to do that, but there's a lot more to stuff than who likes who 

This is why for the longest time, I just stayed as far away from fandoms in general as i could...and my limited experience with fandoms so far has indeed borne out my fears that everything would, indeed, be about shipping, even if there's so much more cool stuff to focus on in the show/movie/book (*cough*cough*the Night Vale fandom and its unhealthy Cecilos obsession*cough*cough*). 

1 hour ago, Tal Shi'ar said:

Those moments when you're watching a DVD with certain people, and they'll let the romance/sex scenes play out, but fast forward the really cool battle scenes, and you're left sitting there disappointed.

That's...just...objectively the opposite of how you're supposed to watch movies... *scratches head at alloromantic people*

1 hour ago, Vega said:

Also, ugh, yeah. The whole "I know there's a giant monster about to destroy the city, but like I think we should talk about our feelings right now!" thing is a mess. 

*coughcoughcough*AGE OF ULTRON*coughcoughcough*

Anybody have some anti-amatoniormativity cough drops? 

(Sorry for the typos, my phone isn't playing well with the mobile site for some reason and I can't edit anything I've already typed more than a few words ago for some reason)