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On 3/14/2020 at 4:34 PM, WrenIsNotMyRealName!! said:

How so? There's aromantic trans children.

7 hours ago, Mark said:

That would be an example of a backronym.
The word "cis" is a Latin prefix meaning "on this side of".
It's a, mutual, antonym with "trans". Which translates as "across from" or "on the other side of".

 

The term for this is periorinted, which is a majority (~85%) situation.

Whilst the asexual community has had some success in challenging this assumption for asexual alloromantics nothing similar has happened for allosexual aromantics. (Nor for heterosexual homoromantics or homosexual heteroromantics who are also exclusively varioriented. Though there could be a lot of "overlapping varioriented" people who assume they are periorinted. e.g. heterosexual biromantics.)
 

Possibly romance (including seeking romance) makes sex acceptable in sex negative societies.
When it comes to child acceptable, safe for work, consent, harassment, etc there are huge differences when it comes to social attitudes towards romance and sex.

 

I wonder if romance, rather than sex, is key in respect of amatonormativity.

I thin with the varioriented question the answer is greater aromantic visibility. Slowly but surely were getting there but we still have a way to go to reach the same visibility that asexuality has and it will take some further steps to reach the same level of visibility the allo asexuals have. 

While I dont do pride marches anymore i think aro representation at some of the key pride marches could do wonders with putting aro identities out there from a visibility perspective.

I'd even be willing to go to one should an aro group be at a pride march even though in general prides arnt much my thing.

Just now, WrenIsNotMyRealName!! said:

Oooooh. It's an acronym. Wait, so does that mean fully transitioned people become cis?

Generally speaking no, but some prefer to identify as cis after full transition is complete. Each to thier own.

Please not this is going a bit off topic now

11 hours ago, WrenIsNotMyRealName!! said:

Personally, I feel like "allosexual" is a completely redundant umbrella term. From my understanding, allo is everything but asexuals. Which seems dumb to me. Why have a term for that. It's so freaking pointless and 8s just people who aren't ace wanting to feel included or whatever. Like cis heteros wanting their own pride parades. I was yelled at once because not using allo is discriminatory and making their experiences fake or whatever but using allo is singling aces out entirely and that is highly discriminatory.

I think you have missed a few things.

Allosexual = someone who experiences sexual attraction (includes heterosexuals, homosexuals, bisexuals and pansexuals)

Alloromanitic = someone who experiences romantic attraction ie (heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromanitic, panromantic)

Yes you can be an allo romantic (any orientation) asexual so no allo is not something that is anti asexual.

We are not anti ace but we want our own community.

I respect asexuality but I want a community for aros by aros (aroaces welcome) 

3 minutes ago, WrenIsNotMyRealName!! said:

So cis is just cis, there isn't an extended version of it?

Comfortable in self is an extended version.

18 minutes ago, WrenIsNotMyRealName!! said:

I know what cis means. It's just very obvious it's short for something, in the same way that het is short for hetero. 

Cis means not trans* in any way. 

Cishet is cisgender heterosexual/romantic ie someone who doesnt in anyway belong to the gender and sexual minority community, except perhaps as an ally

On 10/31/2016 at 5:01 PM, Cassiopeia said:

 

I know. It was a reply to @Saaaro's rant about aro aces not fully understanding the alloaro perspective.

What I was trying to say is that just because someone is part of this or that  part of the alphabet soup demographic, it does not necessarily give them an insight to the perspectives and struggles of some other parts of the community. To them, asexuality and aromanticism probably is quite hard to separate. If you have no sexual or romantic attraction, you have no way of telling what goes into what category-the same way romantic sexuals quite often can't apply the split attraction model to themselves.

And being lgbtq+ does not give you an automatic cleansing from amatonormativity and/or other stereotypes, so people may have said something upsetting as well without even knowing. You have to unlearn that type of bs, but there isn't many of us to actually point it out...

I'm another alloaro.

I think this is why the aro community need to grow further so our existence can educate those in the heteronormative, LGBT and ace communities.

I am convinced there are far many more Aro spec people out there but as romantic orientation is harder to decipher in many ways I'm convinced many "unaware arospecs" dont yet possess the vocabulary or understanding to even be introspective to recognise aro spec orientation in themselves. 

That's where we come in. The more aro content online leads to more aros and more education of everyone else

Hey

It sounds like you have started to question to a substantial degree as to whether you are or not.

Allthough no one else can answer this question for you, from an outsiders perspective looking in I would suggest there is a reasonable possibility you are.

Keep up the introspection and I am sure the answer will come to you once the times right.

Hey

I thought I'd join up as I found this forum on Aven.

I'm allo aro and am keen on sharing in like minded community that understand what aromantic life is like.

As for hobbies walking, any conversation with some level (no matter how big/small) of substance and documentaries do it for me. I have a few others I cant think of right now.