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14 minutes ago, Zemaddog said:

I've noticed that on AVEN it's possible to select your timezone. Maybe the admins over there know how to handle this.

Wait, you can? Even after the update?

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As with most people here, it fluctuates. Usually I'm fine, sometimes I desire it greatly, but other times I'm absolutely repulsed.

I hate cheesy romantic stuff. I have a rather realistic view of romantic relationships. "Happy ever after" fairy tails annoy me.

What questions or misconceptions about the aro spec do you hear? This may be useful for future FAQ sections on flyers, websites and such.

• Does that mean you don't love anyone, not even your family?
• Don't you mean asexuality?
• You probably just came out of a bad relationship.
• How can you tell if you haven't dated?

To bring us closer to finding a definition to aro, we should first find what exactly separates aromantic people from romantic people. Actions, feelings, etc.

Starting with the most obvious one

YMBAI you have never fallen in love with others

12 minutes ago, Blue Phoenix Ace said:

Something else to consider, do we really need to define romantic attraction? Can we go about this another way? Maybe it would be better to compile a list of 20 or so "you might be aromantic if..." bullet points. That still leaves the conundrum of dividing aro from greyro. I really don't want it to be some checklist that you have to tick all the boxes to be aro. But the bullet points might help a reader think through things in their own mind. If they've honestly never felt a crush then they are aro, but if they think they have, then they are grey. I'm not really sure.

I do think this is the best course of action. Emotions are near impossible to define (try explaining being sad), but the effects of it is easier to describe (crying, frowning). It is not specific by nature, and they're definitely not universal, but it's a good reference.

1 hour ago, 46odnetnin said:

I think we just need another definition describing a romantic relationship. Something that draws the line between loving someone and being in love with someone. I've heard with romantic relationships, they want to be together all the time, can't stop thinking of each other and never want to be seperated whereas a strong platonic relationship needs space or you're fine with not seeing the person every day of your life. That being said I havent even been in a QPR so I'm going to let someone more experienced with any kind of relationship define that part.

A romantic relationship is just as hard to define as romantic attraction, since the only difference it has with close friendships is the romantic relationship itself. Relationships are diverse; there is no one way to have romantic relationships.

4 minutes ago, Simowl said:

It'd probably be better reaching out to places like AVEN with people who aren't aro and seeing how they define it. I don't think us coming up with a coherent, accurate definition is gonna happen.

As a mostly romantic person, I will give the very dubious and unhelpful answer of "you kinda just know"

Can we hide member profiles from the public for safety an privacy?

You're so efficient, Phoenix!

21 minutes ago, Spud said:

Someone posted a cool logo on here. I don't have the link, but we should use that.

1. That person is me
2. Thanks for the compliment
3. You can find it here

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I identify as greyromantic because I experience romantic attraction in a manner that is similar to lithromanticism, but not exactly that, and I've basically given up on finding an exact label for myself. So grey-ro it is.