November

18 minutes ago, yeshomonoromo said:

Asexual people constantly talk about how sex is overrepresented, so therefore aromantic allosexuals feast on all this representation?

Some alloromantic asexuals are extremely arophobic

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22 hours ago, Holmbo said:

There went that theory. Interesting that not as many men feel the need to talk about their asexuality either.
Maybe it's dependent on which forums men vs women prefer? For example there are probably more men on reddit, they might write about asexuality and aromanticism there.

Good point! I guess we need a survey where random people are asked instead of only users of one forum ....

... and I just noticed that in this survey (https://asexualcensus.files.wordpress.com/2017/10/2015_ace_census_summary_report.pdf on page 29) the participants were asked to which gender they were romantically attracted: 15.1% of the women, 17.4% of the men and 21.9% of the non-binary people replied that they were attracted to none ...

2 hours ago, gravityspiker said:

 

I definitely agree that Susan comes across as aro! I'm also quite attached to aro(spec) Carrot and Angua in a QPP. Demiro/demisexual Vimes is also close to my heart, and so is aro Granny.

 

bookhobbit on tumblr has some meta about aro(spec) Rincewind that I like a lot, ey write a lot about him in general.

 

hm. there are a few folks who like aro Vetinari, and others who like Vetinari/Vimes as a ship -- I'm not particularly fond of either, but I'd much sooner have the former than the latter.

 

I think I had some more things written down somewhere? I'll come back and edit this if I find them.

Hmm... I rather thought of Vimes and Sybil as a QPP. Somehow I thought that Carrot and Angua were both demi, but now that you mentioned it, I can see them in a QPP, too.

And yes, Granny is definitely aro! Maybe Nanny Ogg is aro and heterosexual ?

22 hours ago, gravityspiker said:

I have some Discworld thoughts too but this is getting long so I'll refrain.

Please tell us! I'm really curious and I have some thoughts too, but I guess I'll have to reread the books again because I'm not sure ...

Anyway, I really want Susan to be aro and have a squish on Buddy (when I read Soul Music, I was really annoyed that she seemed to have a crush on him, but I didn't know that squishes exist - so maybe it fits?!)

15 minutes ago, NullVector said:

I'm not familiar with the Aven site at all - anyone here know of any data on male:female membership ratio for it?

According to the ace community census (https://asexualcensus.wordpress.com/) there are about 60% women and 13% men ...

@CraSyFantaZi That's great

When I came out to my best friend, it was really weird at first, but after some weeks I realized that it made our friendship even better because now we're both comfortable to talk about relationship-related stuff (we kind of avoided this topic before).

Nevertheless I think, it's better if a coming out doesn't change a friendship  

I answered "born aromantic" because ... that's what it feels like ?‍♀️  (though I think that my attitude towards sex and romance changed from favorable to slightly repulsed since I started identifying as aro ace)

I also don't like it when people assume that another person's sexuality or romanticism changed (especially if they blame it on a previous relationship).

On 9/2/2018 at 8:56 PM, CraSyFantaZi said:

I don't know about coming out. I'm totally aro, and don't even think about romance much. And it's not like anyone in my life actually care about my love life! Literally nobody ever asks!! Which I'm kinda thankful for.

My situation is very similar. Since I started identifying as aro ace about half a year ago, only one person cared me about my love life (ok, he just kept assuming that I'd want to have a boyfriend and was worried that we couldn't be friends anymore if I had a boyfriend - so I came out to him because I was really annoyed).

It's so much easier when nobody cares

Surrounded by boys who are ugly or idiots or both

Actually, until recently I thought that sexuality and romanticism didn't matter unless you are currently in love with someone

I'm a bad aro because I feel like I'm a bad ace because I'm aro

Theoretically I know that friendship has to be very important in my life, but somehow I don't really do anything about it, so sooner or later I'll be all alone and I don't even know whether or not that's the right way of living for me