Idk if I’m lesbian or bi

[Guest 4beepers]

I’ve been dating a man for 2 years and I’m so scared bc recently I’ve been worrying ab my sexuality again. Ive been identifying as bisexual for about 3ish years. Before i dated my bf i was thinking about if i was bisexual or lesbian but we were like best friends and i knew he really liked me and idk if i liked him as a friend or romantically i was just so confused but i just went for it. I’ve been thinking about it like A LOT recently and I’m so scared because i care for him so much and don’t want to lose him😭 help me please 

[Guest ili]

Hii

Sexuality is fluid by nature, I've never been in your position but I believe communication is key. It sounds cliche but I don't have anything else to recommend. But you're absolutely not alone, that's for sure, I know Paulina APC (chilian visual artist) divorced her husband after becoming a lesbian (I didn't follow the whole story but they're still very good friends and there's no hard feelings).

[Guest]

Idk whether you’d even check here again but just my 2 cents:
 

1. Are you TURNED ON by/ATTRACTED to men IN GENERAL? Yes/No/Idk

2. Are you TURNED ON by/ATTRACTED to women IN GENERAL? Yes/No/Idk

3. Are you TURNED ON by/ATTRACTED to enbys IN GENERAL? Yes/No/Idk

(by turned on/attracted I mean whether you feel sexually/romantically attracted)

If you answer Yes to any 2 of these questions, you’re bi.

If you (as a woman) only answer Yes to the question about being turned on to women, you’re lesbian.

For everyone else, the combinations of your answers to these 3 questions will figure out what you are.

Such as answering Yes to all of them = pan, No to all of them = ace or aro, and if your answer to anything is idk = it’s ok to be confused.

 

Edited September 4 by ABC

[squinkiy]

On 9/4/2024 at 10:13 AM, ABC said:

Idk whether you’d even check here again but just my 2 cents:
 

1. Are you TURNED ON by/ATTRACTED to men IN GENERAL? Yes/No/Idk

2. Are you TURNED ON by/ATTRACTED to women IN GENERAL? Yes/No/Idk

3. Are you TURNED ON by/ATTRACTED to enbys IN GENERAL? Yes/No/Idk

(by turned on/attracted I mean whether you feel sexually/romantically attracted)

If you answer Yes to any 2 of these questions, you’re bi.

If you (as a woman) only answer Yes to the question about being turned on to women, you’re lesbian.

For everyone else, the combinations of your answers to these 3 questions will figure out what you are.

Such as answering Yes to all of them = pan, No to all of them = ace or aro, and if your answer to anything is idk = it’s ok to be confused.

 

hey common misconception is that bi ppl arent attracted to enbies! bi is an umbrella term and someone can fall under the definition of pan, being attracted to everyone without preference, and still be bi if theyd prefer that label. also, lesbians and gay ppl can also be attracted to enbies and enbies can be gay, bi, or lesbian depending on who theyre attracted to

[Guest]

16 hours ago, squinkiy said:

hey common misconception is that bi ppl arent attracted to enbies! bi is an umbrella term and someone can fall under the definition of pan, being attracted to everyone without preference, and still be bi if theyd prefer that label. also, lesbians and gay ppl can also be attracted to enbies and enbies can be gay, bi, or lesbian depending on who theyre attracted to

Thanks!