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Don't know if I'm aro.


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So I've been out as ace for about 4 months now, and I've recently began wondering if I'm on the aro-spec too. I do have my doubts though, considering I've been in two relationships back to back, with at least some romantic attraction in those. I'm confused as to if it was all romantic attraction or if it was mostly sensual/aesthetic or whatever, but no matter. Here's what I know: 

- I've had to fake having crushes to fit in.
- I didn't have a crush or like anyone until 8th grade (when the two back to back relationships were) and I haven't liked anyone since.
- I thought I was omnisexual/romantic bc I felt the same about everyone, which was nothing.
- Never been in love/experienced intense romantic attraction.
- Cannot imagine myself in a romantic marriage, can with a platonic one.
- I get romance repulsed sometimes.
- Kissing is gross, in a romantic sense or not.
- Some aro-spec labels feel right, but I feel bad fully committing to anything considering I change my mind about my romantic orientation every day. 

A note: I am still pretty young, so I might just not have enough experience with this yet. I am also autistic, which might be messing with some things. 

If you have anything that could help, please let me know!

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these conditions all sound pretty aro to me. if your experience fits under the arospec right now then feel free to identify since you even said that some arospec labels suits you

you have more than enough time to figure out your orientation. right now stick with what you think is the most comfortable for you

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7 minutes ago, sevan said:

these conditions all sound pretty aro to me. if your experience fits under the arospec right now then feel free to identify since you even said that some arospec labels suits you

you have more than enough time to figure out your orientation. right now stick with what you think is the most comfortable for you

Thank you! I'm going to identify as aro-spec until I find a label that better fits who I am. I do hope I can find one soon, as specific labels make me feel validated. Anyway ty again :]

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