Guest robin Posted June 6, 2022 Share Posted June 6, 2022 tbf i’ve felt like i might be for a long ass time like i remember wondering the same thing way back when i was 14/15 it’s just super confusing !!!! cuz like i realised that every “crush” i had only really developed when someone else showed interest in me first if that makes sense ? like i felt like “oh because this person likes me i guess i should like them back” and u know it feels nice having people be nice to u the crushes that didn’t develop that way were either really short lived or i later realised that i just wanted to be close to them platonically?? and like every relationship i’ve gotten into it really didn’t feel right doing anything romantic idk… i will say that cuddles and kisses and stuff DO appeal to me but not in a “that’s what i want with someone for the rest of my life” way or a “i want to be dating them” way… it’s the same with sexual attraction, i would LIKE that but not with the same person. forever. i just have a hard time in general understanding what a crush is anyway i don’t get it which probably says a lot LMAO and also like i kinda feel… bad? i know i shouldn’t but i feel like i have kinda accidentally led people on before thinking “oh yeah i wanna be close to this person that must mean it’s a crush right?” only to end up in a relationship and realising i had no interest in them i DO want to be close to people i just don’t wanna date. i don’t want to be in romantic scenarios every day (seems exhausting if u ask me) i also may be in denial a little bit. obviously there’s nothing wrong with being aromantic but i do wish i could be in a relationship at times that i COULD relate to people romantically, i just can’t. i’ll imagine scenarios where that happens but then in reality i’m just not into it. it’s like i enjoy the idea of it in a way. idk its hard to explain! thanks for reading though ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arotr Posted June 8, 2022 Share Posted June 8, 2022 When you reciprocated a crush, did that crush last for a while? I know recipromantic is a term some people use. Also, have you heard of relationship anarchy before? It might be appealing to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest robin Posted June 9, 2022 Share Posted June 9, 2022 On 6/8/2022 at 3:23 AM, arotr said: When you reciprocated a crush, did that crush last for a while? I know recipromantic is a term some people use. Also, have you heard of relationship anarchy before? It might be appealing to you! it didn’t no, pretty much as soon as we both “confessed” i guess i immediately felt like “oh. actually i don’t think this is what i want.” and it just faded even more from there :/ i’ll check that out ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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