For me, romantic attraction usually means when I look at someone or notice them I experience a rush of adrenaline, (the whole heart starts beating quicker thing,) some jolt of postitive-ish strong warm feeling, and heat rushing to my face, (though I'm pretty sure I can't blush so it's just embarrassing to feel,) and my brain just thinking "that person EXISTS" aggressively and points their existence out again and again in a sort of loop for a few seconds, and because I understand it as romantic attraction it's usually accompanied by "and you're ROMANTICALLY ATTRACTED TO THEM", which is weird enough if it's some random person that likely doesn't specifically realize I exist as I've never talked to or really interacted with them, and even stranger if I'm talking to the person or they're my friend, because it's kind of just an annoying feeling that makes things awkward on my end since they can't tell and I'll never tell them. There is a positive to romantic attraction for me, which is that it makes conversations easier because I'm terrible at talking to people but because I'm focused on my attraction I don't realize how awful a conversationalist I'm being. There was a period of time when I thought I was aromantic because my romantic attraction didn't seem romantic enough. I imagine for other people romantic attraction might include an amount of extreme affection for whoever they are attracted to, or the desire to spend time with them and get to know them better, but that isn't a part of mine. I do not experience obsession for those I am romantically attracted to outside of the moment where I am experiencing romantic attraction and actively commenting on it in my brain or when I decide to think about who I have been or am romantically attracted to. I think I do occasionally experience a comparable obsession platonically, though that is mostly composed of relentless assertions of affection and loyalty and also only occur when I'm talking to or physically in the same space as the person or thinking of my friends.
Just for fun, here are a few odd examples of attraction I've experienced. One time when the feeling usually described as one's heart stopping or stomach dropping (I think this is the only time I have experienced this) happened when I saw someone that I could not recall being previously attracted to, and I was just like "huh, that's strange". One of the few times when I've definitely experienced aesthetic attraction, I was taking a big test sort of thing, and my brain would just occasionally remind me that the hair of the person sitting across from me was pretty throughout the two hours we were there. There were a few minutes one time when I think I experienced romantic attraction in the way that is expected, as my brain was just filled with affectionate thoughts for this one person I was romantically attracted to but had never seen or talked to before this event, but then I had to go to the bathroom, and after I came back and saw them again it was just gone.
If you've read this far, thank you for your time! I hope my story of how I experience romantic attraction has been entertaining to you.
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For me, romantic attraction usually means when I look at someone or notice them I experience a rush of adrenaline, (the whole heart starts beating quicker thing,) some jolt of postitive-ish strong warm feeling, and heat rushing to my face, (though I'm pretty sure I can't blush so it's just embarrassing to feel,) and my brain just thinking "that person EXISTS" aggressively and points their existence out again and again in a sort of loop for a few seconds, and because I understand it as romantic attraction it's usually accompanied by "and you're ROMANTICALLY ATTRACTED TO THEM", which is weird enough if it's some random person that likely doesn't specifically realize I exist as I've never talked to or really interacted with them, and even stranger if I'm talking to the person or they're my friend, because it's kind of just an annoying feeling that makes things awkward on my end since they can't tell and I'll never tell them. There is a positive to romantic attraction for me, which is that it makes conversations easier because I'm terrible at talking to people but because I'm focused on my attraction I don't realize how awful a conversationalist I'm being. There was a period of time when I thought I was aromantic because my romantic attraction didn't seem romantic enough. I imagine for other people romantic attraction might include an amount of extreme affection for whoever they are attracted to, or the desire to spend time with them and get to know them better, but that isn't a part of mine. I do not experience obsession for those I am romantically attracted to outside of the moment where I am experiencing romantic attraction and actively commenting on it in my brain or when I decide to think about who I have been or am romantically attracted to. I think I do occasionally experience a comparable obsession platonically, though that is mostly composed of relentless assertions of affection and loyalty and also only occur when I'm talking to or physically in the same space as the person or thinking of my friends. Just for fun, here are a few odd examples of attraction I've experienced. One time when the feeling usually described as one's heart stopping or stomach dropping (I think this is the only time I have experienced this) happened when I saw someone that I could not recall being previously attracted to, and I was just like "huh, that's strange". One of the few times when I've definitely experienced aesthetic attraction, I was taking a big test sort of thing, and my brain would just occasionally remind me that the hair of the person sitting across from me was pretty throughout the two hours we were there. There were a few minutes one time when I think I experienced romantic attraction in the way that is expected, as my brain was just filled with affectionate thoughts for this one person I was romantically attracted to but had never seen or talked to before this event, but then I had to go to the bathroom, and after I came back and saw them again it was just gone. If you've read this far, thank you for your time! I hope my story of how I experience romantic attraction has been entertaining to you.