Bellu

Okay,I'm not sure about a lot of things in my life 

I don't know if I'm asexual or not 

But I do know I'm aromantic

What I don't know about being aromantic is how it happened I had 3 or 4 crushes as a kid but two stick out K and S

K was when I was in like 2nd grade and I got over it pretty fast and I moved 

But I was stuck in S till I was like 9 before switching tracks to a friendly enemy relationship (I may have talked about) 

Anyway around 9 it stopped

I no longer had crushes 

That's also when I started early puberty

So Im not sure how that happened 

On 10/24/2023 at 2:56 AM, Helion said:

It sounds paradoxical, but hear me out.

I am aromantic and don't feel any romantic attraction at all, but the main reason why it took me so long to realise what seems so obvious in hindsight is the fact that I did have a crush once in my life, actually. It was during early puberty, I crushed so hard on that one bad boy in school for like no reason. Thinking back it's so peculiar tbh. There was this guy I hardly knew, which looked kinda attractive to me and I was pretty obsessed with him, he took up looots of my brain space and I just became really silly around him, trying my darn hardest to look good, be funny and get closer to him, which was painfully obvious to my friends, who teased me about it, but for some reason even tho they were the closest ppl I had I just couldn't admit it to them because I was so embarrassed and flustered to hell and back for no reason.

One day I just stopped having a crush on that guy and that was sorta the end of my romance career- I developped to be aromantic in the end and here I am.

What are your guys experience's with crushes? It doesn't matter where you are on the aro spectrum, feel free to talk about it!

ive actually been going through the same situation 

throughout my first 6 years of school i had 2 crushes

the first one was as crushy as a 3rd grader could crush

the second,i made up in my head and at some point it spiraled into my reality

i had a bunch of mini crushes but realalisticly dont think they counted as anything more than asthetics 

anyway there a bunch of reasons why this may have happened to you

-trauma

-grew out of it

-insane hormones

-asthetics

-make belive

personaly i belive my transfermation from lovey straight boy to loveless husk 

was because of  insane hormones when i began getting older,make belive,asthetics,growing out of it,religious pressure,and fear of the possibility of being teased about it

im sorry your moms not supportive :(

very relatable

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On 10/19/2023 at 3:53 PM, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

My mother has often made comments about several guys I know and she'd often make this face of "~oooh, you like them?~" and pry about my feelings towards them; even when I bring up girls she'd also ask that same question (granted I was in a qpr with a gal friend of mine at some point, but I didn't tell my mom that). Until recently, where I told her that I don't think I'd ever want a relationship like that, which she was surprisingly not oh-that'll-change-in-the-future, she'd just keep on asking and asking.

Thinking of it on a larger scale in my country, America (and maybe some other people on this topic that also live in America could relate??), anything physical or any admiration of another person, is taken as either sexual interest or romantic interest, all the damn time. We're a touch starved country with heavy pedestals on relationships.

haha

why though?

this is not a post about asexuality aromanticism or anything similar

so you know how there are dreams that everyone  always says they have had heres a list real quick to help explain

1-teeth falling out

2-falling

3-car troubles

4-being chased

5-DEATH

6-Failing

7-Public Nudity

ive had a few of these as fever dreams being chased and for some reason car troubles (i cant drive im 14)

anywaya i thought the fact that ive experinced none of these is a cool post idea

every time from now till i complete this list or die il comment my  dreams from this list

weve got some starteds

3-ive had MANY dreams about car failure usually  im supposed to wait in the car and it starts moveing extremly fast 

or something similar

4-i had a fever dream in which i couldn't move "properly" while being chased

7-this happened last night and is the reason I posted this

DISCLAIMER:I've had public nudity dreams before tonight it's just when I've had them the other characters are always aware and I'm embarrassed

Anyway in the dream there was a random girl sitting naked in the classroom while we did are work so I was like if she can do it I can and got naked to I was kind of hiding and embarrassed but literally nobody said anything 

On 10/13/2023 at 7:25 PM, hemogoblin said:

My mother has many flaws, but this was never one of them. I would guess your mom does it because she's super into amatonormativity and has dreamed of getting to see you date and get married off since before she ever even had you. Sorry. Sounds pretty annoying to cope with.

okay thats 3rd comment telling me my parents are the onlys ones who do this

i gues this is just a me thing

Let me introduce my friends real

Quick

Like 6 lesbians 

A gay guy

5 straight guys 

And a mix of other incompatible people

My mom doesn't know this of course but every single time she meets any of my (female obviously)

Friends or hears about a girl from school she does that "oh do you like her?" Thing or if she meets them she says "that girl has a crush on you I guarantee it" usually makeingneye contact and saying "she's a lesbian" works (it doesn't have to be true)

Anyway why do parents do that?

3 posts in one day!

I'm on a roll

Anywayyy

What are wet dreams like for you?

I don't know if I've said it before mine are rarely sexual 

For instance someone will make a sex joke or il briefly be naked 

Regardless it's usually not super serious if at all 

So what about you?

What are they supposed to be like

Just curious what "varitey" of aro are you

just a fun filler question whyd you pick your user name 

i think mines pretty clever it stems from Bellusromantic but i shorten is to bellu,bell,and bellusro 

Hey everyone I know nobody her remembers me but I've been around these parts before 

I recently been struggling a lot and decided to change my life

So I'm back

Hopefully to stay

I just wanted to share my dream and get feedback

For context I'm an aroace bellusromantic teenage boy

I'n my dream I was testing for school when a teacher somehow tipped me off that I was going to go downstairs and into the bathroom to have sex with some random girl and it was required she was stereotypically pretty I didn't see her hair but somehow I know it was dark she was tan with short pink shorts a white tank and a white open hoodie Also at some point it was made clear to be she was no longer a virgin anyway we were both in Seperate stalls undressing well she was I was just scared out of my mind when she said something like "I don't want to do this" and I opened the door she was out of the stall and I ran over and Tightly hugged her I began crying I said something like "thank you so much I was scared" and a little bit of randomness related to the topic as I was sobbing my eyes out she pat me on the back and said I was cool or something like that then the dream cut to me at home doing school work by dad said it was okay and I was fine until the bus got home my mom said something that implied I'd still be forced by the government and by dad said it wasn't a problem yet and the dream ended

it left me feeling odd and I have genuine gratitude to the girl who wasn't real 

if your like a dream reader lett me know how you translate this else just share your thoughts please

There are a few bonkers folks out there who find me attractive and will start an online conversation by complimting me wether or not it's friendly or flirtatious how the hell do I respond 

I'm leaveing the site possibly permanently I don't think I'm familiar enough with myself to make decisions about my sexuality when I'm ready to understand my own emotions I may return 

I would post anonymously but why not be honest 

Heya 

For context I'm an aroace teen.      

My questions slightly awkward ngl lol as a male we get "false alarms" in our special place what do you do when this happens because obviously I'm asexual so I'm not going to the other room to "take care of it's it just really bugs me when it happens cuz I can't move comfortably and people could easily get the wrong idea it's also very distracting my question to clarify isn't how to make it go away because it's supposed to happen and it goes away naturally my question is what do I do when it happens lol do I just ignore it is there away to get comfortable 

I know once I'm adult there  will be less false alarms but my brains still gonna trigger every now and then or what if I'm scrolling the web and see a pretty girl I could honestly care less but my brain still activates 

I hope I was clear with this question 

If need ask for clarification 

Im a young teen 

I'm aromantic and asexual

Also bellusromantic 

I have 2 siblins neither of which I like M10 and F11  that's what il call them 

Im closeted to get everyone except 1.the internet

2.My cousin F15 

3.My other cousin F14 

4.my school friends

I choose to remain mostly unknown Incase my parents start looking through this form for any reason or somehow figure out

I'm a normal human being for the most part 

I like drawing animating that sorta thing 

Im secretly like kinda bigoted but not purposefully it's just what society's smashed into my head I'm working on it and I won't treat you differently based on you sexuality gender or race 

For more clarification on the bigot thing it doesn't apply to race and Its more like I think some genders and identitys are silly and I'm working on it 

I believe some types of Frogs are cabable of asexual reproduction  

So I'm just curious is there any correlation between ADHD and AroAce less so In the disorder more so in the medication because I did previously had crushed when I was 6 and when I was 11 I began taking meds for ADHD and hsvent since so it could lower libido or romantic attraction idk maybe I'm secretly straight but the medicine take away my libido lol so if you have ADHD or take ADHD mes share your thoughts 

Creativity 

I write and draw and mske comics although I rarely finish them cuz the ADHD kicks in lol

Hey I'm christian 

Read the bible being gay is controversial throughout it il give you that but it never says anything about us aroaces so your good if your scared pray and ask for guidence