lovecook

me fr. i dont really ship. its kind of just what i say even 4 qprs. i just go 'oh theyre gay' and move on. i feel alienated from the shipping community cuz i hc most charas as strictly aspec & nonpartnering; so when i see the same charas getting shipped i think 'k ig'. never related when ppl ship charas romantically

48 minutes ago, Harvest-Unity said:

i love how us younger queer people have made frogs a meme/queer culture thing, especially when you remember the 'turning the frigging frogs gay' conspiracy theory 🤭

i personally have corvids; esp ravens as my symbol bc they also display homosexual behavior and r v smart; meaning that they know damn well theyre gay. which is the funniest bit

6 hours ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

THE EVIL GRIMBALES HAVE TAKEN OVER MY HEAD 🟣🟣🟣 THEJE GRIMACE IS OCMIGN THE GIMAACFECea AWd waD aWcawe WA

wth lmfao

its elitism. ppl really dislike seeing variations in a label. same thing happens in the ace community; except everything really gets worse when allos step in on the discourse bc oh boy; they have no fucking idea what kinda shit theyre spitting. [life story incoming] i was just in an argument w a rando hrs ago abt the validity of sognaresexuality and the dude thought its invalid bc it cant be a sexual orientation when he doesnt know asexuality isnt a sexual orientation bc it describes the lack thereof; it makes me think abt the treatment of the aspec community in gen

god forbid we have any nuances and unconventional ways of exp attraction; bc some random ass will pull up and say 'umm actually ure not aspec/valid'. its so fucking annoying. just stop talking

farewell

a lot

it can be a lot of things tbf. all 3 romantic; alterous & qp attraction has this description. u just have to put them into each context to see how u feel abt it. for instance; try to think of it in a romantic context. u want to do this w some1 romantically. how do u feel? or when u want to do this w some1 in a qpr. how do u feel? if u dont have any specific relationship goals in mind; like ur answer is 'idk how id feel'; then its prob alterous

1 way to differentiate alterous attraction from the rest is its lack of goal. it doesnt have a correlating relationship type. its an attraction of simply wanting emotional closeness/intimacy wo any of the romantic/platonic/qp context

4 hours ago, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

I think that the Orchidspec is really fascinating - not to diminish the reality of it though by calling it fascinating.

I identified as orchidromantic for a while, because during my questioning phase I was trying to parse out if my past alterous attraction was romantic attraction, but soon I realized the identity didn't really speak to my experience when I found I didn't experience romantic attraction at all, not even when I was younger.

The spectrum is valid and it would be cool to hear orchidromantic experiences.

yes it is. but itll be harder to get the wider community to listen other than this cozy lil site. ppl have been knowing aro as lil to no romantic attraction for so long and orchidspec also being part of the arospec will def confuse a shit load of em. awakening even more exclus along the way. itll suck. but inevitable 

idt many ppl r ready for the orchidspec conversation yet. we just got to work on the exclus 1st be4 allat 

1 minute ago, Holmbo said:

@LIVI0what's pfps?

profile pictures

i feel like this is going to become a thread where aros talk abt liking romance and im going to be 1 of em

its def a thing. ive seen ppl matching pfps w themselves in a romantic way or ppl desperately craving for romantic relationships & activities. but there isnt a word for it afaik

1] im anattractional. meaning that i exp no types of attraction including romantic attraction

2] i enjoy queer & unconventional hetero romance. only when its well written

9 hours ago, Lajwaro-allo said:

Where can we see your other drawings?  Another trans aro artist is what I need in my life.

i dont post art anymore and im in artblock rn lol. i only show these to my friends atp

tbh vocabs for attraction does help out loads of aspec folks but i can see how it may seem forceful as well. since im anattractional idrc abt the concept of attraction v much bc i dont exp any of them; but i understand how it can become frustrating for lots of folks. the convo is kind of weird tho? the other person isnt making much sense esp w the last msg; so i wont give it too much thought

holy shit i relate to this sm. i also struggle to exp emotions and the only 1s ik i feel r rage; sorrow and other neg emotions. pos emotions such as happiness excitement etc r rarely felt. ik im capable of feeling these things when im young but somehow i no longer understand how to describe them in order for my feelings to count as a certain emotion

its hard to describe but im def some level of emotionless. my orientation got nothing to do w it tho. so ive just been chilling

i dont feel anything since im anattractional. but i do exp emotional attachment [i think]

17 minutes ago, Ted guy said:

I'm sorry you are going through this. I dont know much about Grey.

What's the difference between that and aro

grayro folks occasionally exp romantic attraction; but the attraction felt is too rare/weak for it to be considered alloro exp. while aro as an umbrella term stands for some1 who exp lil to no romantic attraction. but it can also be a label on its own; usually means 1 exp strictly no romantic attraction

34 minutes ago, AroAcedragon13 said:

I want to cut my hair its too long.

r u allowed to?

this kid ridiculing a harmless hobby is cringeworthy. but tf did u expect us to do? sit down and laugh w u? 

prob 3. if i get to meet my bro we would be 10 and 11 

14 minutes ago, Anaim said:

I dont really mind either, I'm not on aven but I don't mind the slower pace on here

its ez to catch up. thats good enough for me

7 minutes ago, Anaim said:

it really has...

I was gone for two weeks and it didn't even go to the next page

meanwhile aven tc is still fairly active. tho arocalypse is already p quiet itself so idm

atp this should be pinned bc this thread is p interesting. but i never understood why romance is so prioritized. yes; it could be the fact that u wont have children w ur friends but instead w romantic partners. but in the end its just a label thats socially constructed. social constructs r extremely powerful on our psyche but i just never felt that affected by its relationship aspect ig

i just wear black & white baggy clothes. but im planning to get an aro & ace pin to decorate my backpack; if that even counts ig