selina

I'm turning 18 in a few weeks

I'm a 'bad' aro because...

• I don't know whether I experience crushes or squishes or something entirely different
• I like some aspects of romantic relationships
• I'm bad at friendships

green, black and colour

Kissing is the worst. One time a couple kissed right in front of me and I felt sick for the rest of the day. It's just hard for me to watch...holding hands and hugging is (mostly) okay but everything else just makes me feel miserable.

Does anyone know what I can do against it?

22 hours ago, peridotty said:

 

i know that exact feeling! did you turn it into a weird fake superiority "im-too-good-for-romance-but-especially-too-good-for-YOU" thing like i did?

sometimes I did

I always thought I was picky because whenever I met someone I would always find reasons not to have a crush on them

On 13.4.2016 at 6:45 PM, Rising Sun said:

And the worst of all, the "love at first sight" stuff. Come on, that's not love, that's attraction. You can't love the same when you know only someone's body and superficial behaviour, and when you really know someone's soul. It's one of my pet peeves when somebody pretends the contrary.

We talked about "love at first sight" in school recently. I mean we literally spend 30 minutes talking about it and in the end we all "agreed" that it's totally normal to fall in love with someone at first sight but not to really love them...

I had cake that was enough to make me happy

I don't think I'll ever tell them because they just wouldn't understand it

On 8.4.2016 at 11:48 PM, eddie said:

Thinking you want a girlfriend or boyfriend because everyone you know has one. Then you start talking to someone and you realize once again that it is not what you want. And a long time period passes and the it all happens again the same way. 

Exactly, that's why I thought I wanted a boyfriend before I realized I was aro because I thought it's just what people do 

What about Carl from The Walking Dead? I know the writers are trying to push Enid and him in a relationship but he doesn't seem to be in love with her

I'm pretty much okay with romance in fiction (because that's what romantic love is to me - fiction) but as soon as I see people kissing each other in real life or hear others talk about love I feel sick

When you hear other people talk about romantic love and you don't understand anything

I will never think of Rey as anything but aroace

I'm a proud Ravenclaw

5 minutes ago, 46odnetnin said:

And when they do stupid, stupid things "in the name of love". It drives me up the wall. I have had to study romeo and juliet 3 times and every time I get so annoyed at the plot.

I'm reading Romeo and Juliet in class right now so we're constantly talking about romantic love and the way we experience it and honestly it's like hell for me

I used to think I was straight but relationships and romantic love were always an odd concept for me