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ah i've been there. asexuality =/= aromanticism. wish people would open their eyes and see those aren't interchangeable labels.

...Are you all dead?!  There haven't been any new discussions as of recently, and almost no one is ever on. ANYONE HEEEEEEEERE?

On 4/16/2017 at 11:59 AM, TheGreatUnstitched said:

I will never get how the relationship you have with  some person you started dating three weeks ago takes precedence over friends you've had for years. 

YES!!! FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT!!!

On 6/27/2016 at 0:40 AM, hangryeowyn said:

2. (This moment is a lot more embarrassing to think about now but I'm sure you guys will understand) In high school, I was paranoid that the guys I knew might approach me out of the blue one day and ask me out or something and I wanted to be prepared ahead of time, so I would regularly sit myself down and analyze my feelings towards the guys I knew to see if I had a crush on any of them. It wasn't until later that I was informed that people who feel romantic attraction don't actually need to sit down and go over it: they automatically know. 14/15/16 year old me didn't know that at the time, but oh well.  This was Young Me actively trying to be prepared to meet "the right one."

 

I actually do this waaaaaaaaayyyyy too often.  

I also remember having to fake a crush in primary school. (I might have already put this, but the memory still makes me laugh. ) 

On 11/19/2016 at 0:17 PM, Holmbo said:

I think they might get kinda confused about the concept so I want to have a good moment to explain.

Wow, that makes sense as to why you would want that. I wish you luck!

On 4/8/2016 at 3:06 AM, Cassiopeia said:

You might be aro if you felt suffocated and overwhelmed in a romantic relationship.

 

 Never been in one.  

On 5/15/2016 at 3:16 AM, Zemaddog said:

There's also the fact that I really wouldn't even know what to do in a romantic relationship. I  get really uncomfortable with physical contact (except handshakes), so much so that I can't even hug my own grandmother without feeling awkward. I can't imagine how awkward it would be if someone kept trying to be physical with me.

Kinda the opposite of me. I have no interest ever in being in a romantic relationship, but if I consented to it, and actually liked that other person, I guess I would be comfortable in one. But I wouldn't do anything other then high-fives or the occasional hug, I guess.  

I can't say I ever showed an immense amount of signs when I was younger...but when I was around 8 years old, I had to fake having a "crush" to fit in with other girls and boys, so there's that.  

On 5/15/2016 at 4:19 AM, omitef said:

I don't know if this has more to do with asexuality, but I've always been grossed out or uncomfortable around people doing any sort of public displays of affection. Even if it was just hugging. 

SAME.

Birthday cake ice cream!

I don't consider myself a musician, but I do play the violin! My most favorite thing to play is on the 'A' and 'E' string!

I was about half-way through it...but then it contained some weird stuff and I found it to be too stereotypical, so I never finished it.  

I tend to feel better in colder temperatures. Not freezing, per say, but more so cold. It helps me think (kind of weird, I know. :P).

I live in the Americas but my family's blood line is from India primarily. It's a nice place, still in that nostalgic area where you can still walk to school without worry and things matter more than phones, surprisingly. It's also a really beautiful country.  

Yeah, pretty much. You can still be aromantic, and want to date, despite not feeling any attraction to a gender.

The first I definitely understand why you would find that weird. I would, to, honestly. 

But the second one, I mean, it's like if you were friends with someone, and they hurt or something, and then your best friend became friends with that person. Kind of like betrayal. (For the record I'm going off of logic, here. Not experience, lol. XP)

On 4/3/2016 at 11:13 AM, DannyFenton123 said:

Also, I find it annoying when I talk about shows I like and people immediately go to shipping. There's not an inherent problem with that and I know a lot of people like to do that, but there's a lot more to stuff than who likes who 

EXACTLY! There's more to a series than shipping! 

Coming out? Well, I came out to my parents, siblings, and some of my friends and peers a while back. My parents accepted it pretty easily, because in my house romance isn't really accepted until I'm a lot older, and they know how terrible I would react to any sort of romance.  My friends accepted it, as did my siblings, but when some of my peers came to know, they...were not the same, to put it in the least. My favorite reaction by far was when one of my classmates knew I wasn't into guys, he automatically assumed I was into girls, and when I told him I wasn't he said I was probably beastsexual, into animals. You gotta be kidding, I don't even know about that, and he does, yet he has never heard of aromantics (or even asexuals for that matter)?! Just goes to show how much people know!  

Actually, I didn't really identify as anything until I learned the definition of aro/ace. So I suppose that I identified as aro/ace right from the start. 

I feel somewhat the same. I actually am pretty romance-repulsed and have been classified as philophobic. I do ship fictional characters but if it's nonfiction and if it's even somewhat related to me I feel disgusted and all sick inside. It's weird.