PissLover2

On 6/8/2021 at 10:21 AM, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

I'm bisexual, not a lesbian, but I absolutely feel the disconnect from the sapphic community. Honestly, femininity in general tends to be pretty heavily associated with romance. Plus, in order to push back against the "predatory lesbian" stereotype, this weird ideal of the Soft Pure Wholesome Fairytale Romance Sweet Pure Soft Wlw Couple Uwu thing has gotten really prevalent, which pushes away those of us who are sexual. Basically being a sapphic aro is just a bad time all around lol

Yea I feel this. As someone who has a lot of lesbian friends and has seen a lot of what goes on in the community I totally understand where you come from. I seen post about asexual lesbians being called a certain word back in the 90's(I forgot what it was called but it was a positive nickname) and how everyone was saying how cute it was. I see almost nothing about aro lesbians. I feel for all my aro wlws out there. I hope you guys get the rep you deserve 

I'd say I am romance indifferent in most things. A lot of time, specifically in movies, I don't really care about romance and it mostly feels forced to me. In specific tv shows/games I am romance positive, I really like shipping and characters getting together but again I feel as though a lot of relationships are forced, particularly straight ones. IRL I'd say I am romance positive, I love seeing my friends happy with their partners and SOMETIMES with very, very few people I wouldn't mind cuddling. I like kisses and more sexual things like that since I am allosexual but romantic things make me feel really uncomfortable most the time.

I've seen this a couple times on here. I really would like to know what this means and what the relationship would be like. What it would entail. Is it like friends with benefits? I'm a newbie to all of this and the aro community

When I was in middle school I dated a couple people. All of the relationships ended after a few weeks with us not even talking to each other after the second week. At first in the relationship I would want to hang out with them and possibly do "unsavory" things with them but it never went that far. After the first two weeks of dating I would be completely uninterested in them. I would want nothing to do with them. I just thought I was broken, or a player, something along those lines anyway. Did anyone else have a similar experience to this?  

1 hour ago, Kallie said:

I could never imagine myself marrying someone out of love, marriage has always felt like something I'd have to check off my list to be "a proper adult".

That how I felt aswell. I didn't and still don't want to marry at all. Whenever I was younger I always felt so pressured by all my family and friends to get married when I get older.