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Paul Joseph Watson sucks and hasn't made a cogent point in his life.
I think it's unfair to blame the average aro for the opinion of a white supremacist on the internet.
Of course it's ableist bs. What is anyone expecting?
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On 3/11/2021 at 10:10 PM, Apathetic Echidna said:
Hello friend! I thought I was the only one who was attracted by a voice as I have been pinging around different forums and no-one has said 'me too'. Well, I'm here to tell you, Me Too!!!! ?
So sensual attraction is just a type of attraction to something that is experienced through senses other than sight (that gets its own word, normally 'physical attraction' or 'aesthetic attraction'), so smell, sound, touch, taste would all be grouped as sensual attractions because for most people those generally aren't strong, or they come with other attractions that make the whole thing difficult to sort out.
I just want to say me too, too. To me, voices are more powerful than aesthetic attraction a lot of the time. I haven't heard of 'sensual attraction' but it makes sense - but I always felt there should be a word for just aural / auditory attraction to the way someone sounds.
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I'm going to be a little more blunt here, as someone who has lost straight male friends because of this:
She does love you - just not romantically. TBH you're lucky to be in the 'friendzone' of someone who cares about you and wants to spend time with you (which, by the way, is what friends do.) Maybe look inwards and consider why you devalue that form of love in girls you like?
What I'm hearing is that these girls trust you and want to talk to you, but you see that as a bad thing, which is not a healthy mindset.
It also seems that she was very clear at the start re: her orientation
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On 4/5/2021 at 12:03 PM, Acecream said:On 4/5/2021 at 3:20 PM, Scoop said:
I found this in a more recent article in May 2020:
No IDing as aro in this piece when it would make sense to. I don't want to speculate on a person's sexuality and there's conflicting info here so I wouldn't confidently say he's aromantic.
Here's the article. It's an interesting read, Sumney is really fucking good with words. Be warned tho you need to turn ad block off to access it and when you do you get a million ads lmao
Thanks for the links. As you said I don't want to speculate, but it's really maddening that the reaction is always the same. This idea that aromantic people 'hate' love (?!) or are somehow incapable of it... It's ridiculous. I am not surprised that people don't even want to mention questioning openly, let alone ID as such.
It sounds like a really beautiful album though - definitely going to give it a listen.
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On 4/6/2021 at 3:24 PM, vinniebandit said:
Hi. You're all young! ;) Just listened to the Sounds fake but okay podcast featuring Barefoot Backpacker and he's still younger than me!
Better late than never, right?
Hah, indeed. I've always kind of known, I just didn't have the words to describe it back then. I keep hearing about that Podcast, I guess I'll have to check it out.
(btw I believe the Backpacker uses they/them pronouns :) )
On 4/6/2021 at 4:01 PM, InvisibleSquid said:Anyway, Hi and welcome, Syo! I'm also an avid gamer, and I went to art school. Dabbled in coding, but didn't have the patience for it. now I just fix computers for a living. Anyway, apparently ice cream is an aro thing, so I shall welcome you with the appropriate dessert.
Coding is a huge test of patience... I am sticking with the front end languages so I can make pretty things, at least that feels slightly closer to art/design. I love the problem solving aspect but yeah, the algorithmic part is still a stretch. What kind of games are you into?
Thanks for the welcome, everyone. It took me a week or 2 to build up to say hello but I'm glad I did ☺
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1 hour ago, Scoop said:
She doesn’t ID as aro anymore according to this piece she wrote about Moses Sumney. She is great tho.
Oh, that's too bad. It was nice having open representation, especially from someone my age.
I wonder if Moses actually is? ?
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I don't think anyone's mentioned but I just read that Michaela Coel (Chewing Gum, I May Destroy You) verbally identified as Aro, which is cool, she's great.
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I filled it out. I'm ND so not really comfortable with a lot of touching that other people wouldn't think twice about, and it really really depends on the specific person and who's 'initiating', so I wonder if that is worth noting for other people as well? Anyway, it was very interesting to think about while filling it out.
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On 4/1/2021 at 3:18 PM, Erederyn said:
Welcome, nice to meet you!
Hahaha, I feel this ~ It can feel odd sometimes when others around me are "moving on" with their lives and I'm just chillin, not sure how my future will look like. I'm almost 30, so I sometimes feel like an oldie with the younger people in the aro community, but it's also exciting to see that people are able to find out about aromanticism when younger. Yay for increasing visibility!
Anyway, I hope you enjoy your time here!
Absolutely! I didn't mean to imply anything. I think it's wonderful that younger people are aware of aromanticism and that they have a community that understands them, I wish that had been the case when I was younger. As you said increased visibility can only be positive for the rest of us too ! Thank you for the warm welcome :)
On 4/2/2021 at 5:06 PM, roboticanary said:Hi Syo
I agree with that idea of trying to see it as a positive. But yeah, it is tough when other people are doing the things that tend to be seen as life milestones.
I know, I'm in my mid twenties and already feel old
If you are looking for aro friends to hang out with it might be worth checking out the aro socials which have been running for the last few months
https://www.arocalypse.com/topic/3574-interest-in-google-meet-aromantic-socials/
Yeah. Internally don't see anything wrong with being aro at all, and honestly I can see the positives most of the time - but the way society keeps telling us that platonic love isn't as 'valid' as romantic or that I'm missing out on something ... it can be draining!
I know I was complaining before but mid-twenties - early 30's were my favourite times, you get to know yourself better and things just start to click. I hope that's the case for you.
Thanks for the link, I might check out the next one. ?
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Hello all
I'm Syo - a biracial human shaped being, 30's, i love video games, art, food, lifting, coding, among other things.
Just lurking and reading this forum has helped me to realise that I'm probably aro and I identify more with that than the ace side (although I am a-spec as well). I'm trying to accept it as a positive aspect of myself rather than frightening but I'm at the age where all of my friends are married and having babies and I'm just here like ?♀️. And everyone here seems so young! ?
Tried 'dating' thinking maybe I'm just really in the closet, but obv that was not the case, so here we are!
(p.s. always on the lookout for new friends so if you're in the UK and need some new people to hang with, hmu)
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Oh, is that a public post? Sounds interesting!
"strongly attracted to someone because of their voice (and not anything else)" and YES ... hahah as an aego some of the characters whose voices I've liked haven't even had a physical form ? that's a difficult one to explain to anyone...