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Oh, is that a public post? Sounds interesting! "strongly attracted to someone because of their voice (and not anything else)" and YES ... hahah as an aego some of the characters whose voices I've liked haven't even had a physical form ? that's a difficult one to explain to anyone...

Paul Joseph Watson sucks and hasn't made a cogent point in his life. I think it's unfair to blame the average aro for the opinion of a white supremacist on the internet. Of course it's ableist bs. What is anyone expecting?

I just want to say me too, too. To me, voices are more powerful than aesthetic attraction a lot of the time. I haven't heard of 'sensual attraction' but it makes sense - but I always felt there should be a word for just aural / auditory attraction to the way someone sounds.

I'm going to be a little more blunt here, as someone who has lost straight male friends because of this: She does love you - just not romantically. TBH you're lucky to be in the 'friendzone' of someone who cares about you and wants to spend time with you (which, by the way, is what friends do.) Maybe look inwards and consider why you devalue that form of love in girls you like? What I'm hearing is that these girls trust you and want to talk to you, but you see that as a bad thing, which is not a healthy mindset. It also seems that she was very clear at the start re: her orientation

Thanks for the links. As you said I don't want to speculate, but it's really maddening that the reaction is always the same. This idea that aromantic people 'hate' love (?!) or are somehow incapable of it... It's ridiculous. I am not surprised that people don't even want to mention questioning openly, let alone ID as such. It sounds like a really beautiful album though - definitely going to give it a listen.

Hah, indeed. I've always kind of known, I just didn't have the words to describe it back then. I keep hearing about that Podcast, I guess I'll have to check it out. (btw I believe the Backpacker uses they/them pronouns :) ) Coding is a huge test of patience... I am sticking with the front end languages so I can make pretty things, at least that feels slightly closer to art/design. I love the problem solving aspect but yeah, the algorithmic part is still a stretch. What kind of games are you into? Thanks for the welcome, everyone. It took me a week or 2 to build up to say hello but I'm glad I did ☺

Oh, that's too bad. It was nice having open representation, especially from someone my age. I wonder if Moses actually is? ?

I don't think anyone's mentioned but I just read that Michaela Coel (Chewing Gum, I May Destroy You) verbally identified as Aro, which is cool, she's great.

I filled it out. I'm ND so not really comfortable with a lot of touching that other people wouldn't think twice about, and it really really depends on the specific person and who's 'initiating', so I wonder if that is worth noting for other people as well? Anyway, it was very interesting to think about while filling it out.

Absolutely! I didn't mean to imply anything. I think it's wonderful that younger people are aware of aromanticism and that they have a community that understands them, I wish that had been the case when I was younger. As you said increased visibility can only be positive for the rest of us too ! Thank you for the warm welcome :) Yeah. Internally don't see anything wrong with being aro at all, and honestly I can see the positives most of the time - but the way society keeps telling us that platonic love isn't as 'valid' as romantic or that I'm missing out on something ... it can be draining! I know I was complaining before but mid-twenties - early 30's were my favourite times, you get to know yourself better and things just start to click. I hope that's the case for you. Thanks for the link, I might check out the next one. ?

Hello all I'm Syo - a biracial human shaped being, 30's, i love video games, art, food, lifting, coding, among other things. Just lurking and reading this forum has helped me to realise that I'm probably aro and I identify more with that than the ace side (although I am a-spec as well). I'm trying to accept it as a positive aspect of myself rather than frightening but I'm at the age where all of my friends are married and having babies and I'm just here like ?‍♀️. And everyone here seems so young! ? Tried 'dating' thinking maybe I'm just really in the closet, but obv that was not the case, so here we are! (p.s. always on the lookout for new friends so if you're in the UK and need some new people to hang with, hmu)