I relate autochoris identity (I think I want but I really don't) to my shipping. Like, finding a good ship is like how people describe falling in love to me. Maybe could be described as living vicariously, but I don't really think of it that way. And like, I'll totally do the whole self insert shipping (I'm trash I know), but don't tend to have those desires/attractions in real life.
I find shipping real people to be vaguely non-consent (even people who masturbate to real people I'm like WTF invasion of privacy and not consentual but that's a complex discussion not meant for here). Especially when it gets creepy where people say they don't want people to ship them and they still do and send people art/porn and stuff about the ship. Like, boundaries.
