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I now have a name for it. I have Schizoid personality disorder.

Posting this in hopes that it might help someone.
So... I've been here for a while now but I found out something interesting recently & I thought I'd share. First of all, no, I didn't fall in love. I found out that I have a condition.  I've never really been able to feel happiness before. What I was calling 'happy' was really more like a lack of being sad or angry. In other words, what I was calling 'happy' was, in fact, just neural. No, I don't know the exact name of the condition yet. I'll get back to you on that. But this explains sooo much in my life! I always wondered why everyone else seemed to care about stuff like eating & music. I'd also wondered why everyone seemed to really enjoy being around each other, as if it were actually a meaningful thing to be in the room with a person they cared about. I'm fully able to care for someone's well being & to think well of them as a person, but I've never found it particularly meaningful to just be around them. I also never had self esteem issues or the need for others to like me (as that need comes from the happy chemicals that are supposed to be released when you spend time socializing) Well, falling in love also relates to intense happy feelings when you spend time with a person, so... Yeah. I might not be fully aro after all. On the up side, once I get this treated, I'll actually be able to experience positive emotions sometimes, so yay!

UPDATE:

I now have a name for it. I have Schizoid personality disorder.

Barf. Or Confused. Batfused!

What are your favorite names? Traditional, modern, exotic, or common. Just a list of your favorite names. 
I know it's a strange question, but I'm a writer, so I spend a lot of time looking up names, their meanings, & what part of the world they're from. (Plus I just find it interesting! XD )

Wow! My sister & I are twelve & a half years apart. Can't imagine 16 years apart! 

Cool! What's going to be the age gap between you & your sibling?

LOL Get down on one knee & ask her to be your best friend. XD

Okay, so admittedly, despite being in my mid 30s, I have zero actual experience... But, if I were in a relationship, I think I'd just want it to be like a very best friend, who was close to my age, wanted the same things from life, & wanted to be exclusive sexual partners. But, at the same time, no dating, no marriage, no kids, separate houses, separate bank accounts, &, just in general, not spending too much time together. Not sure if that answers your question or not, but that's what I think it would be like for me. XD

I (bio female, nonbinary, demisexual/aremsexual, & aro) have one sibling who is more than a decade younger. She's a bio female, nonbinary & bisexual. She's fully allo, though.

I have a huge... something.. crush/squish/obsession with Loki! ^_^

14 hours ago, MaxIsCosmic said:

It's like where I feel an object and I see a color in my head, for example my cat feels like a sunflower yellow but slightly more pastel :)

That's awesome! LOL

2 hours ago, Acearospec said:

I have this one, too, for letters, numbers & days of the week. 

I also "hear" tastes of certain spices & foods, but less specifically (not actual notes, but sharp, flat, minor or major chords, etc). I don't think this one is actually synesthesia from what I can tell, but it seems like it's related. 

You can hear tastes? I don't think I've heard of that kind before. Sounds awesome! XD

2 hours ago, MaxIsCosmic said:

that's so cool! I've only ever met like 2 other people with it what type do you have if you don't mind me asking? I have sound induced and Texture induced synesthesia 

OK, now I can talk. ^_^ I have grapheme-color, rarely grapheme-texture, (There's one letter that feels like a wicker basket), learned sequence-color, rarely learned sequence-texture, (There's one month that feels like velvet.), & music-color/shape.
What's the texture induced kind like?

1 hour ago, MaxIsCosmic said:

that's so cool! I've only ever met like 2 other people with it what type do you have if you don't mind me asking? I have sound induced and Texture induced synesthesia 

1 hour ago, MaxIsCosmic said:

 

My phone is being very strange at the moment :p I'll be on my computer in a bit & can answer better.

I'm in my mid 30s & I think what I feel is more like sexual desire, rather than sexual attraction, as it's not usually aimed at specific individuals. It began around puberty.

On 10/26/2022 at 9:07 AM, MaxIsCosmic said:

I have synesthesia 

I am allegoric to chocolate

I also have trypopaphobia    

I have Synesthesia too! ^_^

What are you reading right now?

What are your favorite books?

What are your favorite genres?

On 9/10/2022 at 3:10 PM, Mark said:

There's this article which suggests that alloromantics tend to develop attraction between 6 and 9 and allosexuals tend to develop sexual attraction between 10 and 13.

There's another giving an age of 7.

This one  suggests as young as 5 (or less).

 

Wow! Really? I never understood what the heck other kids were carrying on about, even when we were all very young. If they were already having those feelings, that explains quite a bit of it.

Do you have any tips or life hacks on spotting other aros in the wild? (Other than the ring) Are there any behaviors, styles, interests, or gathering places that can help to find/identify our kind? Also, do you do anything to show off your awesome aro-ness?

I know it sounds odd but I've heard sooo many people speak this way. It's as if it's not just two people caring about each other, but more like 'the relationship' has become it's own thing, separate from the two people in it. It just sounds so stupid in my opinion! Has anyone else noticed this?

YYYEEESSS!!! Anxiety sucks so much! Mine isn't social anxiety, more like frequent anxiety attacks about all kinds of random stuff. I can relate to quite a bit of what you're describing. Sorry to hear that you're dealing with that too.

Not really. I felt unsure then & I still feel unsure now. XD I guess if I happened to meet the right sort of person, who wanted the right things, & was the right age, then I got to know them as a close friend for a long time, & they weren't going to get in the way of the things that I actually want from life... IDK.

I always hear my fellow aros say that they have no desire for romantically coded activities, but what that means seems to varry quite a bit. Some saying that dating & marriage is fine, just so long as they don't have to kiss, others saying that kissing isn't all that bad but holding hands, cuddling, & using pet names is out of the question. How do you feel about the different aspects of romance? What sounds good? What are some things you might tolerate? What are the hard passes?

For most it's probably either an attraction to a certain body type or err.. to people who possess certain body parts. Also, some may have certain types of styles or categories they prefer in a partner because the other person is relatable or because they feel like they balance each other out.

What are 3 unusual/interesting categories that you fall into? (Other than being aro or LGBTQ+ related stuff, as a ton of the people on here fall into those categories.)