Spark_TheDemiboyRat

I'm almost always lonely. I'm not really sure why, but it even happens when I'm with other people. It's kinda weird...

When hearing the age you guys figured out your romantic association, it feels like I found out to early. I'm only I'm middle school, and most of you are older, or in high school. So now I have the question, is it to early to decide. I think that even if I did have some sort or romantic feelings, I would still be on the Aromantic spectrum. What do you think?

I'm offended you didn't start it up again sooner.

1989

Red sauce

Okay so, I'm Nonbinary, and I've wanted my hair cut short for a long time. I even wanted it short when I was a young kid, way before I knew what gender identity even was. My parents always said no, my mom was the most against it. I really think that cutting my hair would help my body dysphoria a lot. I'm not out to them yet, so that might be one reason why they don't understand my needs. So I do have a question. 

Should I Come out so they better understand? Or start to ask them why I can't get my hair cut? Or both?

So after hearing a couple of people's opinions, I think I'm going to "change" my name as a social construct. So with my friends or classmates, I will have them address me as my new name, and then my family can address me as my name assigned at birth, because that's where it feels most comfortable. Thanks for helping me figure it out!

Okay so I recently discovered that I am nonbinary, and I was wondering if I should change my name. If you were wondering, my name is Eva (pronounced Ava) and I'm not really sure if I should change it. I mean I would be okay with keeping it or changing it, but I don't know if it would change people's first impression. Like if the heard my current name, would they assume that I am a girl, or feminine. I dont want people assuming that I'm a female, I would much rather have someone ask my gender, or in my case what to call me. And if you do think I should change my name, do you have any suggestions?

Two days in the gorgeous country and do whatever I want. I can do things at night too, like camping, so it would be worth it.

Would you rather stay at home for a week, but have to constantly do work not have time for anything else, or stay at school all day and all night for a week, but be able to do whatever you want.

Fake

(oof this got depressing)

No, but I really want too. ?

TPBM has visited Hollywood

1971

On 11/12/2020 at 12:24 PM, senACEay_11 said:

I don't personally feel romantic attraction, but I love the idea of a (well-written, mind you) romantic component in an already intriguing plot line.

Same. As long as their well written and not rushed, I enjoy them.

On 11/15/2020 at 3:52 PM, questdrivencollie said:

When I see romance in movies, I'm just like, eww.
But in anime? I'm like "good shit!" ? 

Yeah same. I feel like the characters are better developed, and it really gets you connected to them. Although, half of the time I don't really notice that its building up to romance, even if that's what it's about.

When I got to about fifth grade all the "Cool kids" had a bf, so I would randomly choose a guy to have a crush on. I would just go, eenie meenie miny moe, and that's the guy(or girl) that I would have a crush on. Did anyone else feel the need to do this?

1969

Decent

Hot chocolate 

I'd rather eat ham covered bananas in syrup, than get married.

I'm learning a new language so true!

TPBM has a garden of any kind.

1964

34 minutes ago, senACEay_11 said:

I actually can... relate to a lot of what you're saying. I don't really care too much about pronouns, like, call me whatever you want, idc. I might prefer some over others depending on the day, but not enough to the point where I would be super uncomfortable. 

I dont really care about pronouns either, but there are some that I prefer over others.

3 minutes ago, senACEay_11 said:

Same, I usually end up selecting clothes that I could wear no matter what I was feeling that day, so I usually lean to dressing more androgynous. And yes I agree, it is very interesting how these things change.

Have you told anyone that you're genderflux yet? If so, how'd you do it? I might try to soon?

4 hours ago, cyancat said:

i tend to float in the... genderfluid, -flux, fluidflux area. at the start, i associated pronouns = gender which is a huge fallacy but alas it was the stuff my brain got up to, and lemme tell ya, every other hour i was changing my pronouns because they would sound okay, and then they wouldn't. it didn't help that i was fixating real bad on 'em. when i finally got my brain to settle down tho, my pronoun changes became less frequent (tho more bc pronouns just... don't come up that often in my life??). that being said, now i tend to experience this shift between agender, adrogynous, transmasc, and male identity? (there's a bit more, but i don't really know how to describe those so i won't.) it isn't something i necessarily notice all the time, it's just small things here and there, where i realize "huh, guess i'm feelin' more agender today." or it's behavior based, where i'm kinda gravitating more of a "masculine" feel? i don't always notice it, it just kinda happens. i sometimes use my pronouns as a general indicator abt what i'm feeling at, but pronouns =/= gender, so, eh, dunno.

That's similar to how I feel, except I'm on the more feminine side of things. All of the sudden whether you picking out clothes, or whatever else, you just get this feeling that's like hey, I feel more like this today. It's really interesting that one day you can completely one way, and then the other you feel the complete opposite. 

For my pronouns, I just use they/them. I covers all bases I guess.

I've never really felt masculine, so I think the term genderflux fits me better. Also, thanks for helping me to see where I fit in. I think I have a better understanding now.

It was actually really surprising to see that not many people know what genderflux is. Heck, whenever I searched it up, it always auto corrected to genderfluid. I wish more people knew what it was, so people new to the community would know where they fit, and where they don't.