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    Christianity and Aromanticism

    in Aromantic Relationships

    Posted

    I grew up going to a baptist church, then hopped around a few other churches for a couple of years, then settled down at another baptist church for about five years before moving to the Church Of Christ I go to now. Most of the churches I've been to haven't been too conservative so that's cool. 

    I wholeheartedly believe in Jesus and God's word and I strive to show people around me that love is what it's all about (no, not romantic love).

     

    Being an aro/ace ally is one way of showing the love :arolove:

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    Romantic Attraction

    in Aromantic Discussion

    Posted

    I took the test based on my last intimate partnership and recorded my "yes" answers as "/" and my "no" answers as "\".

    My results:

     

     


    A. Romantic love arises from pre-existing yearnings.
    (4) // \ //
    B. Romantic love begins suddenly, creating instant intimacy.
    (2) \ / \ / \\\
    C. Romantic love is blind.
    (1) / \\
    D. Romantic love is often one-sided; it loves from afar.
    (2) / \\\ /
    E. Romantic love watches for small signs of reciprocation.
    (2) / \\ / \
    F. Romantic love is often uncertain and fearful of rejection; it is exclusive, possessive, and jealous.
    (5) \\\\ / \\ / \ ///
    G. Romantic love is a fantasy-trip, a prefabricated emotion projected onto others.
    (9) //// \ ///// \\
    H. Romance creates an illusion of oneness.
    (0) \\\
    I. Romantic love depends on imagination.
    (5) / \ /// \ / \
    J. Romance is being in love with love - attempting to actualize a feeling learned from others.
    (5) // \ ///
    K. Romantic love sometimes depends on manipulation.
    (0) \\\\\
    L. Romantic love is like watching a movie.
    (3) \ / \ // \\
    M. Romantic love is an ecstatic feeling.
    (11) /// \ /// \ /// \ / \\ / \\
    N. Romantic love is an altered state of consciousness.
    (4) / \\ / \ //
    O. Romantic love sees the beloved as perfect.
    (4) / \ ///
    P. Romantic love causes violent mood-swings.
    (0) \\\\\\
    Q. Romantic love causes preoccupation and distraction.
    (5) /////
    R. Romantic love causes intrusive thinking.
    (2) \\\ //
    S. Romantic love causes compulsive, neurotic, dependent thoughts and feelings.
    (2) \ / \\\ / \\
    T. Romantic love is an overwhelming experience.
    (7) // \\ // \ / \ //
    U. Romantic love is the most important thing in life.
    (2) \\ / \\ /
    V. Romantic love includes suffering.
    (0) \\\\\\\\
    W. Near its end, romantic love clings to any shred of hope.
    (4) / \ // \ / \
    X. Romantic Love is temporary—lasting 18 months to 3 years.
    (2) / \ / \
    Y. When romantic love is over, it sometimes becomes hatred.
    (1) \\\ / \
    Z. Romantic love resists analysis.
    (0) \\\\\\\

    Total: (82)   —You are recovering from being 'in love'
                                           or you were immune to this disease.

     

     

    I get the feeling that I'm probably alloromantic, I'm just not as obsessed over it as many other people are.

    Crush vs Squish

    in Aromantic Discussion

    Posted

    Are squishes and crushes mutually exclusive? Because from what I've read, when I get scrishes (what I'm calling them for now until I know which they are), I get symptoms of both, but not all the symptoms of both. 

    When I get one, these are some things I go through:

    • "OH MY GOSH THEY LIKE THAT TOO!? WE HAVE SO MUCH IN COMMON"
    • "OUR DIFFERENCES COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER OMG WE'RE SO COMPATIBLE"
    • I want to be close friends with them
    • I want physical closeness
    • I want to spend my life with them
    • I hypothetically imagine kissing, but it's mostly out of curiosity since I've never done it before. The idea is silly, but I don't wanna knock it till I try it
    • Same with a lot of romantic situations; I can imagine my scrish and I going on a date, for example, and having a good time, but part of me doesn't like the idea of having to repeatedly find the time to it and it all seems impractical in the long run. Also why should I have to buy my partner presents to prove that I care for them? I'd like my partner to know that I love them regardless of what romantic notions I haven't done in the last couple of months, so if I do get them a present, it's because I legit want them to have it and feel happy, not for my own justification.

    I'll edit this post when I have more time

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