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There's no opposite of amatonormativity.

Amatonormative is the systematic idea that love, specially monogamous/monoamorous romantic love, is needed and universal. Amatonormativity is not exclusive of monoamorous romantic people, as there are a lot of polyamorous people and/or alloplatonic/alloalterous arospec that have extremely amatonormative ideas too.

There's no opposite of amatonormativity because there's no system that put love in every form as inherently bad and oppress those who express it. 

You know how alterous attraction is often described as something in between romantic and platonic attraction? well, I feel physical attraction, I'm sure of that, and I know is not of the sensual type as I'm even repulsed by kisses, hugs and all that stuff, but I don't think the attraction I feel, as I feel it could be accurately classified as either sexual or aesthetic, I think it's a mix of both. Do you think it's possible to experience a physical attraction that's in between aesthetic and sexual attraction? Is there a name for that? 

2 hours ago, arokaladin said:

As a genderqueer person, you're right that it isn't a gender 'in itself', but that's because its often used as an umbrella term that means something different to many people. However saying it's not a gender at all is a little insensitive to everyone who does identify as genderqueer. My identity is genderqueer, and genderqueer is my gender. (I use other labels sometimes to help further explain, but that doesn't mean genderqueer on its own isn't enough) It's also insensitive to those who have 'non normative' views of gender who are binary trans or cis. You don't have to be genderqueer to have political feelings about gender. That would fall under being gender non conforming, or just aware of issues with how society currently sees gender? Think of 'genderqueer' as like 'nonbinary'. You wouldn't say nonbinary can't be someone's gender, and that it's just a political stance? That line of thinking is often used to dismiss nonbinary people as genuinely trans rather than just being attention seeking or making a statement.

I'm genderqueer. 

You can call yourself  genderqueer and just genderqueer, because that's the thing with genderqueer. It can be a lot of things: A gender, an umbrella term or a modifier meaning "non-normative". But in it's origin it just meant "gender non-normative" and was in fact created by an AMAB woman who didn't like the normativity predominant in the trans community. 

Genderqueer and non-binary are not the same. Genderqueer was created as a anti-assimilationist non-normative equivalent of transsexual (transgender came later), while "non-binary" means you aren't 100% male or a 100% female. Non-binary is politically neutral, genderqueer is not (just like everything with the word "queer" in it)

This terms are not the same and they are definitively not used in the same way.

I'd like to help writing an article in Spanish. There's only  an article about romantic orientation in that language and it only contains a line on arromanticism and it never even explains what romantic attraction is.

My mom and some of my friends know, but I don't care a lot about telling other people. I don't have this "I must be out to everyone" thing. I just live my life and my sexuality the way a feel it

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I don't want biological children, but I do want to adopt.

Sexual attraction is a mystery to me. I know I'm not asexual, but not sure I'm allosexual either.

I can see someone and think they're hot/sexy, I can see the sex appeal other people may have and understand and appreciate erotism, but I rarely see a person and think "I'd f*ck them". I'm also completely indifferent about sex; I'm not repulsed by it, but I can live without it, it's unimportant to me.

Genderqueer is not a gender in itself, but more of a political instance about gender. It means your view of gender is non-normative.

you can relate to womanhood in a non-normative way, you can be a genderqueer woman; and if being a genderquuer woman is a possibility, so is being a genderqueer lesbian.

There's also the fact that woman is not the only feminine gender and a lot of feminine non binary people are, and always have been, part of lesbian and sapphic spaces.

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I was raised catholic and I went to a progressive catholic school. I do believe in God, but I do not agree with some aspects of catholic and otherwise christian doctrine, so I simply consider myself a theist. 

I'm learning about other abrahamic religions, but I don't have plans on reverting at the moment.

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Interesting. Where can I find this book?

How's everyone going?

I'm Quimey, 26 y/o, ze/hir 

I've identifying as an aro since I was 16. I don't label my sexual attraction because is too flux, too fluid and too flexible for me to even waste my time searching for a label, but I do label my alterous, sensual and aesthetic attraction (demialterous asensual omniaesthetic, my attraction is mostly to women and other feminine genders and outherine genders, that's why I call myself a brownitian aro) because I think they're way more connected to my aromanticism than my sexuality is. 

I'm abinary/outherine, meaning that my gender isn't feminine, masculine, androgynous or neutral, but is also not the lack of gender. I say i'm just outherine gendered because I don't like the main outherine gender labels like maverique, aporagender, etc. If I had to gave my gender a name, I'd say I'm an ouman.

I identify with the queer community, more than I identify as LGBT+. 

I like musicals and vintage thing, specially fashion and classic films and tv series.

I play the piano and I plan to learn to play the bass.

I like classic literature more than  I like modern one, but i'm not an ass about it. I'm not a fan of most YA book series and I have a lot of things to criticize about the ones I like; but they made a lot of kids interesting in reading and I appreciate this type of stories for that.