WrenIsNotMyRealName!!

9 minutes ago, sunny said:

this isn't a contest

Did I say I was competing? 

6 minutes ago, sunny said:

As an aro/ace mess of a human being

6 minutes ago, sunny said:

but I care and love in my own way

Imagine if you couldn't even do that.

I don't get why people cheat in the first place.

Sounds like what I've been doing for the past 4 years and I'm aro. Though, I DID find out(after self-reflection) that all the crushes I got I had invented so I had something to do. Don't know if you relate to that piece though.

2 minutes ago, Kirakira said:

He has said that he is pretty sure he’s somewhere on the spectrum, but not 100%.

That's what I heard too.

7 hours ago, Ch0c0 said:

In my religion, God encompasses everything.

My "religion" is kinda the same. There is not God, just          . You know? Like, the utter existence of reality but by creating a word for it, we're making it less than it was already so it can only be called        . But someone who exists as nothing, that's pretty impressive.

8 hours ago, pressAtoQUEER said:

They're people just like the rest of us. Thinking of them as godlike reminds me of when people's first reaction to asexuality is "oh, you must be so productive!" Like, no, I'm depressed with terrible executive dysfunction issues, lmao.

Yeah, I know they're just human. I was just really bored and wanted to ponder something that wasn't "just human", you know? And yeah, being double A I have some issues regarding it too and having another A added on would probably just make it worse.

they're not only asexual and aromantic, but an agender too? Like, that's someone devoid of like EVERYTHING. I would believe them to be a god.

Just now, Sufletromanesc said:

Generally speaking no, but some prefer to identify as cis after full transition is complete. Each to thier own.

 

Please not this is going a bit off topic now

How so? There's aromantic trans children.

1 minute ago, Sufletromanesc said:

Comfortable in self is an extended version.

Oooooh. It's an acronym. Wait, so does that mean fully transitioned people become cis?

6 minutes ago, Sufletromanesc said:

Cis means not trans* in any way. 

 

Cishet is cisgender heterosexual/romantic ie someone who doesnt in anyway belong to the gender and sexual minority community, except perhaps as an ally

So cis is just cis, there isn't an extended version of it?

2 minutes ago, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

 

Why would I when you can tell me. Sorry I prefer personal definitions rather than textbook.

Just now, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

 

...You compared us to cishets without even knowing what cis means..? Dude.

I know what cis means. It's just very obvious it's short for something, in the same way that het is short for hetero. 

Just now, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

 

I've LITERALLY already explained to you why it's rude to compare queer folks (us allo aros) to cishets "wanting to be included". You came into OUR space- Admittedly, yes, a public thread, but still a thread made for allo aros, meaning it would be polite to respect that- And essentially called us cishets, and said that having terminology to describe ourselves (which, might I remind you, was created BY ASEXUALS) "seemed dumb". You REALLY don't think that's rude?

Not particularly. And also, until recently, I didn't know allo was made by aces. Had I known that originally, I wouldn't have compared it to cishets. Side point, what is cis short for?

10 minutes ago, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

 

You didn't have to be so rude about it, though... But whatever. I guess I'm used to taking the hits for the sake of education at this point anyway. What else is new.

Please stop with the toxic victimization, I get enough of that irl. Anyways, as was in our original conversation, I wasn't being rude. Was I trying to start a fight because it was 1 in the morning and I was bored, yes. Was I emotionally committed enough to actually charge the words, no.

18 minutes ago, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

 

...Did... Did you just come in a thread about allo aros just to vague about me?? Bruh.

Nope. I wanted other opinions and I've gotten some more in depth descriptions of allo so I guess I'm sold on its use.

Personally, I feel like "allosexual" is a completely redundant umbrella term. From my understanding, allo is everything but asexuals. Which seems dumb to me. Why have a term for that. It's so freaking pointless and 8s just people who aren't ace wanting to feel included or whatever. Like cis heteros wanting their own pride parades. I was yelled at once because not using allo is discriminatory and making their experiences fake or whatever but using allo is singling aces out entirely and that is highly discriminatory.

I had revealed I had a crush on the robotics team to my mom and she kept saying all the females so I said "Its sweet you still think I'm straight."...4 hours later, took quite the nerve to say it for some reason(this was back when I thought I was homoromantic).

On 3/1/2020 at 2:37 PM, Holmbo said:

feeling like the present was a preparation, a saving up for the future where my ideal life could begin.

Feel the very same.

Sounds like you prefer the aesthetic of romance rather than actual romance, which is true for me too.

That's sounds like stuff I've gone through and I'm AceAro. Except, I've had crushes and fallen in love before(but it was recently revealed that I made myself do that because I was bored and the emotions are entertaining).

8 hours ago, Alexrobinmc said:

But what does that make me? If i've had a crush, find people attractive (just to look at) and desire a relationship but not felt anything other than that one time and never wanted to kiss anyone? and while having a crush was painful i liked it in a way because it was a super intense feeling and i can only imagine what that would be like if it was reciprocated but i just feel like i'm missing out while everyone around me is dating and falling in love:// 

I'm AceAro and feel the same way. Could you maybe also be AceAro?

Hey, its chill. I feel the same way. You DO feel broken when you can't do the one thing everyone else does. And, yes this is very toxic, I do believe I'm broken. Cause like, how the heck can something like this happen? A person be completely devoid of the one thing that supposedly makes them alive?

On 4/11/2016 at 9:21 AM, Robin said:

Does that mean you don't love anyone, not even your family?

Ha, this one is true for me.

On 4/7/2016 at 8:52 PM, Rising Sun said:

Never experiencing crushes.

I've gotten crushes. Its was only recently that I realized I make myself feel romantically as a sport though so they weren't actually real.

On 1/30/2020 at 5:53 AM, Ardere said:

 
Yeah... someone had to explain that to me. That was a weird convo. 

A weird thing for me: I was never told what sex was. I never needed them too. Like, I was just born understanding what it was but ignored it since I deemed it unimportant.

On 1/29/2020 at 11:16 AM, Ardere said:

YMBAI you laughed hysterically during “Titanic” while all your friends cried, ‘cause come on... that was so corny 

I cried because that one of the few movies I am emotionally affected by. I only cry though because the hopelessness of their(the passengers) situation was. I never gave 2 shits about Jack and Rose though.

On 1/19/2020 at 12:05 AM, wyvern_UwU said:

I loved this movie because I related to her so much but I didn’t know why, but it helped. 

I like that movie because I like that actress. She always has a nice vibe.

On 6/16/2016 at 2:42 AM, brsajo said:

I've always thought of cuddling as like an upgrade or more intimate version of hugs, so I'm surprised to see that more people are okay with cuddles than hugs!

Well, for me, cuddling just means lying next to someone and basking in their presence. Like when your whole friend group lays together to watch a phone or something. I'm like a cat in the sense that I feel more comfortable when I have a point of contact like knees or something.

On 8/30/2018 at 12:34 PM, squaggly said:

kissing if we are really close is good in small amounts. Other than that, I'd hate it.

I'm, personally, completely adverse to kissing. More than I thought, actually. 2 of my friends kissed for the first time and I started to have a panic attack(I don't get them chronically) so apparently I REALLY hate kisses.