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Being asked who I like, replying with no-one and having zero people believe me

My parents were concerned that I'd be lonely, they asked a lot of questions (so did my sister) but they all did accept me and I'm v v lucky for that. 

My friends didnt seem to care all that much, I'm pretty sure they already knew just without the label attached. 

Anyone new that I meet always asks questions or feels sorry for me or both and I have to educate.

I dont like kissing I think it's weird and gross (for me not for other people) 

Hugs I tolerate, like I'll hug my family and close friends if they like hugs, if someone hugs me I'll hug them back but I dont love hugs and I would never initiate a hug really.

Cuddles I do not understand, I dont get the social standard of when does the cuddle stop? It just feels uncomfortable to me, I guess I would cuddle my family but only for like max 2 minutes because I get fidgety. 

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On 4/1/2020 at 6:17 PM, Mau said:

These are my ideas so far. However, I am but one aro and would like to see what others would most want to see about their identity in a basic resource. Any suggestions for the glossary, perhaps?

 

If anyone has any ideas or questions feel free to add on.

Your points are all really good, I think you've got pretty much everything in terms of aromantic people, might be good to do the same for the ace side if you haven't already. Thank you for bringing aromantic inclusivity! ?

For your consideration - "Show Yourself" from Frozen 2

On 3/11/2020 at 12:13 AM, WrenIsNotMyRealName!! said:

Hey, its chill. I feel the same way. You DO feel broken when you can't do the one thing everyone else does. And, yes this is very toxic, I do believe I'm broken. Cause like, how the heck can something like this happen? A person be completely devoid of the one thing that supposedly makes them alive?

Yeah, I get that too. For me, its more I see people in relationships and I'm like, I don't want that but what am I supposed to do in my future if not that? How do I prevent lonliness when it seems everyone in my life is going to leave me for a romantic partner. Its not like we get told about any other options.

 I suppose its important to remember and try to tell ourselves that we are not broken, its just as normal to not feel attraction as it is to feel it and society as a whole kind of ignores that fact. Its hard not to feel broken when society makes you feel that you are. It sucks. But we aren't broken, I've been trying to repeat that to myself when I'm feeling down. 

Joe from little women sccrreeaammmss aro ace to me!

SOMEONE MENTIONED STEVEN UNIVERSE, hi hello!

I'm so not ready for this show to end aa

I hope the forum can be saved, this place is really helpful

I do accept my romantic identity and my sexuality and I know I'm not broken but sometimes, I'll think about people in romantic relationships and how they look so happy, like I know I don't want that and I'm happy without it but you know when the world at large doesn't show another option it does make me feel broken. Like there's something wrong with me. I know that isn't true but, I feel it anyway sometimes.

15 hours ago, DavidMS703 said:

I feel the same way. I actually have someone in my life who seems perfect in most ways and might be open to the type of relationship I'm looking for, though she hasn't figured out her future relationship goals and isn't focusing on them right now so I can't be sure at this point what exactly is going to happen with her.

Awh, that's still good! It just depends what happens with her and what she wants in the future

11 hours ago, DavidMS703 said:

I want the same thing but it is hard to find. Probably another aromantic person or at least someone for whom romance isn't a high priority would be the best option.

Yeah, thats what I'm thinking too! Its so hard to find, especially since aromanticism is quite the underground romantic identity.

I put up aro awareness posters at my uni, they also ended up posted on AVEN's twitter so thats good!

I understand that, like, we've been told all our lives that the ultimate goal is marriage and kids, which I do not want. So, how do either of us proceed? I'm thinking of having like a close friend that I can live with but that also wont leave me for a romantic partner. Thats hard to find though.

Welcome! Its good to meet you ??

On 2/8/2020 at 1:13 PM, aepaex said:

Welcome 

Thank you ??

Cold, then I can get all comfy cozy in some blankets

Would you rather have no arms or have stilts for legs?

Swim

I would rather rob a bank and flee the country than get married 

On 11/6/2019 at 2:34 AM, Ace of Amethysts said:

I found the word on AVEN, and then everything just... clicked for me.

 

Same! 

I quite enjoy romance plots to be fair. I get invested in them, I suppose it's like, when you have an outsiders perspective you can appreciate it for what it is more? Idk

I found out when I was 17 so not much older than you now. My opinion is, yes it could change, you could suddenly be attracted to people, but you also might not. So, no matter how old you are, if you're comfortable with a label, use it, own it, and if it changes and you dont use it anymore, that is fine too. That's how you felt at the time and that's just as valid as how you feel now.

I came out to my family and friends mainly because I wanted to be completely true to myself and one way to do that for me was to open up to them. Also I wanted to stop the "OOOooooOOOOOOoooo, I bet you LiKe HiM" so theres that