frutiger aro

one thing i love about being aro is never having to worry about participating in romance/date culture, like worrying whether i'm "pretty" or "desirable" or whatever, having to go on awkward dates, having to perform cringy romantic acts for someone, the list goes on. i'd rather just be myself and enjoy platonic relationships, thank you very much.

another thing i find really cool about being aro is that since i don't get crushes i feel like i can view everyone more objectively, whereas a lot of allos seem to get blinded by love and view their crushes with rose-tinted glasses.

lastly, i think it's just plain rad to subvert societal expectations. in a world that puts romance on a pedestal and discriminates against those who don't, to defy the pressure and stay true to yourself is pretty badass.

i think i'd be fine with pecks but the thought of deeper, more romantic kisses (like with tongue) kinda grosses me out, though i'm not sure if that's an aro thing, a germophobe thing, or both lol.

i'm usually a bit saddened when anyone dies, but if i was really invested with or grew up with their work then it can hit me pretty hard, especially a sudden/unexpected death.

tough to narrow down since i'm a huge movie nerd, but a few of mine are

• black swan
• american psycho
• donnie darko
• kill bill (really anything by tarantino)
• team america: world police
• the room

aromanticism is a spectrum ranging from little to no or very infrequent attraction, so that does fall under the definition. though if you need a more specific term, i would say that sounds grayromantic. really either label works though.

damn somehow i almost forgot about aro week this year. i don't usually do much to celebrate but i guess chilling on here counts lol.

On 12/15/2023 at 8:00 PM, frutiger aro said:

i loved chuck palahniuk's "fight club" so i bought a bunch of his other books and i've been digging through them lately. right now i'm on "choke" and i'm really enjoying it so far.

now i'm in the middle of "haunted". i've got a pretty tough stomach when it comes to shock content but "guts" is easily the most nauseating piece of literature i've read in god knows how long... 10/10.

mostly PS5 and PC these days. i'm also still big into wii and PS2 (though the latter i usually have to either run on USB or emulate these days since it sadly can't read discs well anymore). in other words i play a little bit of everything lol.

if we're talking strictly romantic relationships then yeah i'm happy as hell. i think the thing that bugs me the most about the thought of a relationship is that there's this pressure to be one person's everything and i just don't have the emotional capacity to take on that big a role for anyone. i love the freedom of simply being my own person without being shackled by someone else's wishes and expectations of me.

now if we're including platonic relationships in this, then i kinda swing back and forth. on one hand i kinda like not having any sort of partner as i'm an introvert who really values solitude, but on the other hand i do like the thought of having a partner in crime someday. in that vein whatever happens happens.

i never cared for valentine's day even before i realized i was aro, but ever since i've made it a tradition to turn valentine's day into a second halloween by marathoning horror movies lmao. this year i'm doing a re-animator marathon.

i loved chuck palahniuk's "fight club" so i bought a bunch of his other books and i've been digging through them lately. right now i'm on "choke" and i'm really enjoying it so far.

i find it hard to narrow down a favorite book but if i had to pick i'd say either david mitchell's "cloud atlas" or stephen king's "it".

i'm super into horror so that's the majority of what i read, but i'm also into lots of other things like sci-fi, true crime, and comics/graphic novels.

• i had a sort of sheltered upbringing where i've sometimes asked myself if i'm really aro or if i'm just a really late bloomer (though at this point in my life i'm pretty confident i'm the former)
• i'm aloof and awkward and not very good at making close friends. like i want to form closer bonds with people but it doesn't take much socializing for me to feel drained and wanna retreat to my personal space. so in that respect i'm sort of that "loner" aro stereotype lol.
• that said, paradoxically a part of me still wants love and intimacy of some sort? like i think romance would be too suffocating for me yet i still sorta want that "life partner" thing except we just vibe like best friends and respect each others' personal space y'know?
• i'm sort of attracted to peoples' mouths and i almost wouldn't mind kissing at least once
• i'm fine with a little romance in media as long as it isn't about just romance (romcoms for one are a hard nope for me)
• i've had ships here and there (though mostly just dumb crackships when i was younger lol)
• i like lots of songs that happen to be about love (though in their case i don't care as long as it sounds good lol)

edit: one last point i can't believe i forgot: 

• while i've never been in love irl, i've managed to fall in love with fictional characters more times than i care to admit.

by openly dunking on romance every chance i get /hj

in all seriousness i don't have any pride merch or anything atm but i plan on buying a white ring as a subtle display of pride. i'd buy one of those big flags for my wall too but i don't have enough space thanks to my poster collection lmao.

i'm weird because i generally don't really like being touched yet i'm also kinda touch-starved? like most days the extent i can take is a handshake or something but other days i find myself craving a lil hug now and then. one thing i absolutely wouldn't like though is a prolonged cuddle, it sounds nice in theory but in practice they make me feel suffocated and want to escape lol. i think overall i'm kinda like a cat in that i'm fine with occasional minor displays of affection but only on my terms.

when people say being aromantic = cold, heartless, etc.

my mom does that too sometimes and it lowkey drives me nuts. if i so much as bring up a guy's name she'll ask "is he cute?" or "maybe he likes you!". i've also had times where we were out shopping or whatever and she'll tell me "i think that guy over there's checking you out!" to which i have to hide my sheer dread lol.

it's funny to me because

1. she's greatly overestimating how many people would find me attractive, and

2. even if they did, she knows i ain't into romance. wishful thinking is one hell of a drug i guess lmao.

not quite falling in love per se, but i do occasionally have romance-coded dreams primarily involving women. just recently i had one where some woman randomly kissed me and i still vividly remember her lips being really soft and warm.

i've gotten kinda decent with computers. nothing super advanced but i can usually fix my own computer issues when they come up, and i've even homebrewed a couple of my old game consoles. it ain't much but i've come a long way from being a dumb kid who downloaded viruses all the time lol.

i love the way he knocks the sandwich over lmao

i might if i had a QPP i was especially close with but generally i'm leaning towards no. yeah i'd like the financial benefits and perhaps even throw a small party (aka an excuse to eat cake lol), but i wouldn't want anything more fancy or serious than that. i'd rather just have a friendly partnership than be bound together by law, plus if it didn't work out it would be easier to just break up than to go through the whole divorce process.

i kinda get it. usually i just get squicked by gratuitous romance in media but once in a while i also get kinda sad because part of me still wants a partner of some sort so seeing that kind of companionship still stings just a little, even if it's not the exact kind of companionship i personally would want.

i'm a computer person in gereral but i especially like laptops due to the portability. like if i wanna game or watch a movie in the comfort of my bed i can just do that (although my battery life isn't great lol)

i grew up with and still love the frutiger aero aesthetic and saw a great pun opportunity and went for it.

my old username was loneranger98 because i'm a bit of a lone ranger (ie a loner) and i liked the outlaw cowboy sound of it lol.

i have a few "crushes" on celebrities and even fictional characters but for me it's primarily just aesthetic attraction. i think the appeal for me is that i can admire their face, voice, mannerisms, etc from a distance because they're either famous or fictional and therefore inaccessible and therefore "safe", as opposed to people irl who carry the risk of liking me back lol. but different people have different attraction types, and because of the inherent distance of celebrities i think even having a crush on one doesn't make you any less aro.

while i personally don't like romantic media (with some rare exceptions), lots of other aros do enjoy it and that doesn't make them any less aro.