ClearBlueSea

Yes. I never really wanted one but I ended up in an LDR somehow-this guy started talking to me, I got his number, we really liked each other. It was great at first, I liked feeling wanted, but then I got ghosted. I'm sad and relieved. I couldn't have given him what he wanted, anyway.

On 7/17/2018 at 6:07 AM, Mark said:

What I find really odd and baffling is the way in which many allos can very quickly, sometimes in a matter of hours, get into a "deep" romantic relationship.
Very often marginalising, even ending, pre-existing relationships in the process.

The idea of dating being about "getting to know someone" seems reasonable. Though I'm unsure if this is how allos tend to go about it.

That's one of the few things that makes sense to me, honestly. My relationships with my current best friends both felt "deep" pretty quickly.

I don't understand monogamy at all. It seems restrictive.

In a group of three or more while not sharing sleeping space. Preferably with friends, because I might get lonely living alone.  But I just can't and never could understand the appeal of being that close to someone, having to wake up next to them. Also, It could be pretty annoying, having to share covers.

12 hours ago, confused af said:

I´m sorry you have to go through this... Maybe, if you are okay with it, we could chat about it?  

 

Sure! I just realized, I'm only a year younger than you.

I'm new here and I definitely see aros being rude to allos sometimes. Allos are just different. Different doesn't equal bad.

13 hours ago, confused af said:

A year later, I´ve agreed to date this guy I met in college. The beggining wasn´t really... typical. We had this one really deep conversation when we agreed on everything, it was like finding a soulmate really. Three days later, we were a couple. I was really excited because this guy is way off my league. He works out, he plays the guitar, he can sing, he can cook, he writes me a freaking poems. He is way more romantic than me. I thought that dating a guy in a big city will be way more easier for me and I won´t be afraid to show "my love for him" in public. Boi was I wrong. It´s still the same panic and "oh guess that´s what I have to do now" feeling as I´ve had before. Weird thing is that I don´t mind doing it in private. I like cuddling and kissing and holding hands. But just when we are alone. In our language we have 2 phrases to express "I love you". It´s like 2 stages at first there´s  something like "I like you" and if it gets serious enough, there´s an "I love you" phrase that has this really deep and raw emotion in it and it´s pretty serious to say it. We are in the 1. stage and I had to push myself a little bit to say it back. Now it´s okay and I really DO like him but idk what will happen when he will say "I love you" to me. I mean I like him... But do I love him? I´m so confused right now...

Sadly I don't have advice because I'm in this exact situation. Are you me? lol

On 1/3/2020 at 9:29 AM, Amanda said:

YMBAI when in a romantic relationship you wondered why your partner looked like they were more invested or liked you more than you like them and you couldn't understand why

This!

On 8/6/2017 at 7:54 AM, Ice Queen said:

I don't understand how on earth it is possible for one to feel a connection to someone they've just met or whom they don't know well and I don't understand why there have to be expectations right from the start. Aaaarrrrghhhh x_x. 

Wait, is that just a romantic thing?

On 6/3/2016 at 12:46 AM, Zemaddog said:

Am I the only one who just really didn't like the word love when I was younger? The word just didn't sit right with me, and I don't think I actually ever said it until I was at least a teenager. Even then, I was hesitant about using it. Maybe it was due to  society associating the word to romance, or the fact that I don't feel like I have ever experienced it (except for maybe my pets). Am I alone in this thinking or are the others who felt the same way?

I feel this way, 100%.

I'm in the same situation. It's eating me up.