I'm pretty new here. I just realized a couple of days ago all the "crushes" I had in my life were actually squishes. That was a bit life-changing for me. I always thought I was heteromantic and considered myself one of the most romantic people I knew. You can imagine, then, my surprise when I realized that nope, I have no clue what romantic attraction feels like.
However,
I have come across the term cupioromantic and everything made sense ...but also started to suck.
For anyone who is not familiar with the term,
a cupioromantic is someone who does not experience romantic attraction, but is open to (and may even really desire) a romantic relationship.
So...
I am aromantic as in I do not feel romantic attraction, but I can't help but feel left out in the aro community because I crave romance so much. I can't help it! I just do!
I have even considered the possibility that I am just in denial of my orientation.
I don't even know... There is just something about romantic relationships that I really really want!
I really hope there are others out there that feel the same way...
Let me know your opinions in the comments! ❤️
*NOTE:
I have experienced repulsion to kissing, though. So I don't know if I like romantic relationships only in theory..?
The thought of kissing did not bother me, but when it was the time to do it I was on the verge of a panic attack!*
This is honestly pretty much the exact same for me. I’d actually only come across the term maybe half an hour ago, but when I saw the definition, everything clicked. I was ecstatic; I’d finally found a WORD for it, but on the other hand it sent a shard of hurt through my heart. The term shoved in my face something I think I’ve been running from for a long time.
I don’t feel romantic attraction, but I DESPERATELY want to. I WANT to love and to BE loved in that way. With all my heart, I do. But I also know it’s not ever going to happen, because I don’t feel romantic attraction.
This was actually something that had left me on the fence or in denial or something for a long time as to where I stood on the Aro spectrum. At first I was like “Oh Im Aro! No romantic attraction here!” And I was right. But then I took a closer look and I was confused by what I found; the desperate WANTING for that kind of relationship. I then came to the confused confusion that “I guess I’m Demiromantic???”
But today I found the term “Cupioromantic,” and it’s the saddest thing I’ve ever realized about myself. Because as much as my Anxiety would be horrible in the feeling of losing control in falling in love, I don’t think there’s anything I truly could want more.
But it’s not going to happen.
Also, even though I absolutely crave this kind of relationship, a lot of the things you DO arent anything Id want to partake in. I wouldn’t like kissing, Im Ace, etc. Im sure I would enjoy just like,,, physical contact with another human being, but I am self-aware enough to know that that is all just due to being touch-starved.
For me, it’s just that /connection/ I guess that I so desperately want. I don’t really know how to explain it, but it is something I don’t think a squish could fill the space of.
I am, of course, less sure on that part because I have personally never experienced a squish, I don’t think, and I honestly dont know what I’d do if I did. I have become very antisocial and awkward (its lead to some VERY FUN existential crises : > ), and I cant even imagine how that would play out lol
Cupioromantic struggles
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Posted · Edited by Luna04
This is honestly pretty much the exact same for me. I’d actually only come across the term maybe half an hour ago, but when I saw the definition, everything clicked. I was ecstatic; I’d finally found a WORD for it, but on the other hand it sent a shard of hurt through my heart. The term shoved in my face something I think I’ve been running from for a long time.
I don’t feel romantic attraction, but I DESPERATELY want to. I WANT to love and to BE loved in that way. With all my heart, I do. But I also know it’s not ever going to happen, because I don’t feel romantic attraction.
This was actually something that had left me on the fence or in denial or something for a long time as to where I stood on the Aro spectrum. At first I was like “Oh Im Aro! No romantic attraction here!” And I was right. But then I took a closer look and I was confused by what I found; the desperate WANTING for that kind of relationship. I then came to the confused confusion that “I guess I’m Demiromantic???”
But today I found the term “Cupioromantic,” and it’s the saddest thing I’ve ever realized about myself. Because as much as my Anxiety would be horrible in the feeling of losing control in falling in love, I don’t think there’s anything I truly could want more.
But it’s not going to happen.
Also, even though I absolutely crave this kind of relationship, a lot of the things you DO arent anything Id want to partake in. I wouldn’t like kissing, Im Ace, etc. Im sure I would enjoy just like,,, physical contact with another human being, but I am self-aware enough to know that that is all just due to being touch-starved.
For me, it’s just that /connection/ I guess that I so desperately want. I don’t really know how to explain it, but it is something I don’t think a squish could fill the space of.
I am, of course, less sure on that part because I have personally never experienced a squish, I don’t think, and I honestly dont know what I’d do if I did. I have become very antisocial and awkward (its lead to some VERY FUN existential crises : > ), and I cant even imagine how that would play out lol